Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

About my mother

Let me talk about my mother. My mother and I have never been on bad terms, and they have helped me a lot in terms of life and mentality. However, there are many complaints and bad comments against relatives and people close to me, and I am concerned that they hear the same content every...

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Please let me know.

My father died suddenly in February this year. My father is my mother's remarriage partner and hasn't been adopted, etc., and he is a different person according to the family register. After graduating from high school, my father left home to go on to college or get a job, and moved the...

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I don't want to leave him

I'm worried that I can't tell anyone, so I wrote it. I have a boyfriend that I've been dating for 10 months. They are currently living together. He was previously married and has a child (a 2-year-old girl). (The child is on the mother's side) We met after knowing that, and we are living...

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What does it mean to live properly

I made mistakes over and over again, and I should have been trying to grow every time, but even when I look back now, I haven't been able to grow at all. It makes me think that even if I do my best based on my reflections up until now, I'll regret it again after a few years. I wanted to live...

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I've lost my motivation or passion

I do education-related stuff at work, and I play musical instruments for half my hobby and half work. I used to be very ambitious, and I was working really hard to set goals for the future (I want to do live musical instruments, I want to work for a company like this, I want to have my own...

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My habit of biting my nails isn't going away

Since I was a child, I have bitten certain finger nails, and the shape of my nails is tattered, and now my nails only grow (3 places on the left and right) that I haven't bitten. I've heard that it's good to apply nail polish, but it's originally thin, and the vertical lines are amazing, so I...

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How to properly use sorry and thank you

About being sorry and thanking you. If you ask them to do something, say “thank you” If something bothers you, say “I'm sorry” I don't really understand the difference between these. I feel more sorry for what others do to me than thank you. Of course, I would also like to express my...

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It's a mystery

This is my first time asking a question. This is a story about when I was 19 The season is summer and late at night I was driving with 3 friends It was summer, so I went to a haunted spot. I went through 2-3 ladders. So to the last place I went There was a problem Where is that...

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About the first 7 days of advance

Hello. Nice to meet you. My beloved grandfather passed away the other day. I haven't been able to sort out my mind due to a sudden break up. Until now, I haven't faced many human deaths Shamefully, I only vaguely knew what the meaning of funerals, 49th memorial services, etc. had After my...

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Born in a temple

I'm sorry for taking the time to ask such a silly and rude question. It's a topic like an internet occult urban legend, and there's something called “Mr. T who was born in a temple.” No matter how scary the strange phenomenon was, Mr. T, who was born in a temple, suddenly appeared on the...

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I want to break the relationship with my father

My father had an affair with me since I was born, and he had a partner who died a few years ago. That partner and that family were nothing but intrusive beings, like our real family, like cheating partners. My father is the kind of person who believes in his brother, his cheating partner, and the...

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I want a legal name

The other day, when I consulted about the Kanbutsu Association at Hasunoha, there was an answer that getting a Dharma name is a good thing; I love Buddha so much that I sing Namu Amida Buddha every morning and every night, so I want a name that is illegal, but what should I do to get a Dharma...

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Do I have to sign in?

I think about the meaning of living well for the past 1.2 years. So when I looked it up on the internet, the meaning of life in Buddhism and numerous stories related to it came up. So I tried to think about the meaning of living by putting my hands together in order to start with the shape. Then...

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I'm afraid of natural disasters

I know I can't resist natural threats, but I'm afraid of earthquakes and natural disasters, so it's unbearable. I'm worried so much that I seem to be neglecting my daily life. What can we do to focus on the here and now?

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only sick people gather

My mother committed suicide 16 years ago. At the time, my marital relationship wasn't going well, and we were separated. I was helpless holding my little child, my mother couldn't do anything, I lost it, and my family blamed me for my mother's death. I received counseling at various places...

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Even though I got the job I wanted to do

Nice to meet you. I was able to get a job halfway through that job I had always wanted to do. I was very happy when the recruitment was decided, but when I got to work, it was like a club activity at a powerful school. yelled at, stunned, why don't you quit already? It is taken for granted that...

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It's fine if you just listen to it

I have a problem. It's a timid personality without courage since childhood. Even if they want a friend, wouldn't that kid feel bad about me talking to them? Above all, I wouldn't get hurt, would I? When I was a student, I thought about that, and when I was struggling, I realized that I was all...

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Has the memorial service been delivered?

I lost my father to cancer late last year. Even now, six months later, I still cry every day because it's so painful to see them. Every day, they serve the same meals as me, offer sweets and fruit, and talk to them wearing candles and incense sticks. Did the sutras of the temple, what I do,...

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I don't want to be in this world or the next.

I don't want to be anywhere in this world, in the next world, in heaven, or hell. If there are any really cozy places, please let me know. If it doesn't exist, no suffering will occur. If Buddha's “all suffering” is true, then this world and the world after is nothing but suffering, It's...

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Self-centered way of life

This is the person who asked the question last year. Thanks to you, my way of thinking has changed little by little since then, and I feel that the number of days I can spend with a smile because I am blessed by the people around me has increased. Thank you so much. This time, I'd like you...

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