Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Husband's past revealed after marriage

No matter what you do, it's futile. I want someone to listen to it. We've been married now and have been standing for a few months. Both husband and wife are 29 years old. Two weeks after enrolling, it became known that my husband had children he had when he was a college student. I also...

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It's tough

It seems like I haven't had any luck since a long time ago, so I'm deceived by people, and my fun memories disappear. Honestly, I'm serious. They also call the government office to apologize when they make a mistake in sorting garbage. I've been engaged in marriage hunting for many...

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What does it mean to get married to a temple

This is my first time consulting with you. I have a relationship with a monk from outside the prefecture. I received a proposal the other day, and I'm thinking about marrying him. I grew up in an ordinary family, and I don't know anything about temples. I'm currently a wedding planner. I...

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Marriage to a self-employed person

Thank you for your support. I received a marriage proposal from the guy I've been in a relationship with for many years. It's more of a form of consultation than an application. He is self-employed by himself. As a condition of marriage, they want them to quit my current job and run the...

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lost

In Buddhism, what was said or done no longer exists; it is a thing of the past. What I feel with my eyes, ears, nose, mouth, and skin now. If you do that, you won't suffer. Then what about abuse? Bullying? all that noise from the past? Is it noise no matter what you do or what you do? From an...

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I'm already tired

I asked a question about employment as a teacher before. It's been a little over 2 years since I graduated from college, and I still haven't been able to get a proper job offer. This year, as an unregular/part-time lecturer, I spent late at night researching teaching materials and providing...

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When good deeds cause others to suffer

Of course, don't bully or misconduct with malicious intent, However, actions with good intentions or actions taken without malice are directed against others Even when it causes physical or mental pain, Will it be my own crime It's ironic, but even the monk's words depend on who...

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About my daughter's death

I lost my 26 year old daughter earlier this month. (Please keep the detailed cause of death hidden...) The day I passed away was a very complicated state of mind, mixed with both the feeling of not being able to accept the facts and the feeling that I had to be firm. But recently, the feeling...

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About differences in common sense

I am Common sense is a common understanding that each has its own values, and social life and relationships proceed smoothly when they have them I think so. Also, I think the standards of right and wrong are closely related to that. I think it would be appropriate to say hello, say thank...

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Why is there such a thing as pleasure?

Why did they bring joy to the prosperity of their descendants? I wonder if the number of men whose purpose is not to prosper their offspring has increased because they do such things, and why were they given something called pleasure, etc.

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I'm worried about whether I should change jobs, and I can't sleep at night

I got married last year, and my husband will be transferred this spring, so I decided to follow along. Along with that, I'm worried about whether to change jobs. The company I'm working for now also has a branch where my husband was transferred, and if I ask my boss, there is a possibility...

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About spirits

Can ordinary people exorcise spirits?

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puppets

I can't have children. But I love kids. So I had a baby doll made for me 2 years ago. Like a real baby, it weighs 3000 grams, and is as big as a baby itself. They were really cute, like my own child, and we talked to them a lot. For example, watching a movie together, spending a day...

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I decided to die by December

I'm tired of living. I'm going to die before I reach my 31st birthday. I live a cheerful and joyful life every day. They were also relied upon at work and became a mood maker, and their results were recognized, and it was decided to transfer to the desired sales office from...

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A bad mother.

I have children ages 17, 15, and 13. Ten years have passed since my husband passed away. now... They fight with children, but they also have conversations and laughter... we are such a family... I think kids hate me. There's someone I'm dating, and I can't stop drinking alcohol, and I...

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About the existence of spirits

I don't feel like I'm a particularly inspirational person. I hope you can respond to recent frightening events. My house is a 6 square meter studio where I sleep, wake up, and live everything else. The kitchen is also about 6 square meters. This is the 4th floor of an apartment complex. When I...

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How should I believe in Shinto and Buddhism

Thank you for taking the time to read my question. I'm not a member of any religion in particular. But I like shrines and temples. I also like learning about Buddhism. Reading Buddhist books during difficult times made it so much easier. However, there are things I've been interested in since...

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I can't control the urge to die

I graduated as a new graduate this year and became a member of society. There was moral harassment and power harassment within the company, and I didn't feel well and started going to psychosomatic medicine. He was a good teacher, and after understanding my feelings, he gave me advice, “I should...

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I want to meet a monk

Having trouble with relationships, I went to Eiheiji Temple for training. I saw how the ascetic practices were going there, and I thought it would be nice if I could support the monks in the future. However, I have no idea where I will meet the monk. How can I get close to the monk? I know...

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It's about fast food

Tsukimi burgers are on sale at some fast food restaurant right now, and I've completely avoided them, but I may not be able to put up with the gracolo that comes out around December I'm in the middle of a diet right now I'm scared, but would you like to blackmail me? Thank you for your...

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