Somehow, I often hear this phrase. It's from child to parent, and parent to child. Long before you, an elderly parent says, “I don't want to bother my kids.”
Get others involved with you. That in itself isn't annoying or anything. It doesn't matter what or how much. “Helpful to people” or “annoying” is a way of looking at that act, or rather an evaluation. And it's up to the side that made it to choose it.
If you are a full person like your parents, that is, if you are a friend, you will be told to “think for yourself, decide for yourself.” Also, if it is seen that it is becoming a full person, you can get advice saying, “There are ideas like this, too,” and you can use it as a reference for making your own decisions.
The role of parents is to make children independent and to make them fully grown. Feeding them food and buying them stuff is only part of that. If you're worried or can't decide things, it's your duty as a parent to help you do that. Why do parents work? Probably to protect my family. And it's probably to raise you until you become independent. “Being consulted by children” is actually a happy thing for parents. There are many parents who lament that “their children won't listen to me.”
From here on, it's my hunch.
Right now, you're probably saying, “No matter what I talk to, they won't listen to me. Just being silly said. Don't you think “it's troublesome because you know that”? If that's the case, it's Omedetou. As a teenager, you grew up properly. Also, the period of repulsion against parents against dark clouds is coming to an end soon.
They are changing from a relationship of being taught and instructed to someone to consult with. If you talk while maintaining the feeling of “I don't want you to tell me, I want to hear opinions, because I'm the one who decides,” I'm sure they'll listen.
Master Onozawa also wrote, “Be specific first, try it.” If the results are bad, talk to hasunoha about the same. There are a lot of people who are happy to respond when they are being asked a nuisance.
