About the death of a parent

I don't know the name of my mother's illness, so it may not necessarily be a good introduction, but an acquaintance of mine represents the Association of Survivors of Cancer Patients.

http://kirarakai.exblog.jp/

The email and cell phone numbers are also written above. This meeting is for cancer patients only, but since the representative is studying at the Sophia University Grief Care Institute, they will connect you with the right organization or individual.

The representative is a very trustworthy person. He is from a temple and is not a temple, but he has studied Buddhism in depth. Since your husband died of cancer, you are doing activities, so please contact this person by phone or email first. It's fine if you say you heard it from Fujioka Toshihiko.

The majority of all humans have been separated by death from their parents.
And most people have overcome that suffering.
Please think that there is no way that you alone cannot overcome it.
It may be difficult right away, but you should be able to overcome it over time.

Nice to meet you, Mikan.
I understand how you feel.

> How can we overcome it?

However, when I witnessed the harsh and painful reality of “death,”
Each person has a different way of overcoming it...

Izumi Shikibu, a poet from the Heian period, lost his beloved daughter, whom he loved, due to illness.
I was in the midst of several years of despair without being able to accept the death of my child.
At that time, I had a relationship and came across Buddhism, and my way of thinking changed.
And it's a song I composed.

“Teach them to know a strange person in the world of dreams and the child who returns home is knowledge”

My daughter, who made me realize that her mother is also alive, like a dream, was truly knowledge (Buddha)...
It means.
I discovered the meaning of my child's death, saying that my child brought me to encounter Buddhism with his own body and his own life.

Ikkyu Zenji, the Rinzai sect in the Muromachi period known for the anime Ikkyu-san, said that it was a blessing for parents to die, children to die, and grandchildren to die.
It shows the pain of grandchildren dying first, then children dying, and finally parents dying.

Also, there is a link at the end of the sentence,
A person named Keiko Hirano, who lived in Gifu prefecture, said in response to the children she left behind

“Death is the last gift from parent to child”

He passed away at the age of 41, leaving behind the words.

Ringo's mother
The reality of “death,” which they try to show Ringo with their own body,
I definitely want you to use it as food for apples.

Finally, it's been a long time,
Rather than the sight of Ringo in the midst of sorrow, suffering, and despair
The sight of Ringo shining vividly in each field
I'm sure your mother is hoping for it too, right?

Please be sure to make Ringo happy as an only daughter for her mother, who is a good friend.

Letter from Keiko Hirano
http://www.kouseiji.com/blog/?p=1186

If we meet, we'll break up. If you are born, you die. It's a matter of course, and it seems like my head knows it, and I don't know. We are bothered by such things.
The Buddha was like that too.

I think parting ways is sad. However, if you're alive now, it would be a waste of time to worry about the future first, so I'll do what I can for my mother to my heart's content. That's all there is. You should do what you can, just by being together, or by rubbing your body.

Once the breakup comes, it's just that the situation at that time will come again.

If you worry about the future and show a sad face, you'll feel sorry for your mother. Please cherish the present moment you are alive.

Even if you work with your mother and she doesn't reply,
Please speak softly and gently to your mother.
It's the best way to save yourself.
Please speak out loud and gently tell them that you love them.
Please recite the Enmei Juku Kannon Sutra for them.
“Kanzeon Nanmubutsu Yobutsu has a reason why Yobutsu has a connection with a Buddha Dharma monk relationship
Joraku Gajo Chōnen Kanzeon Kuren Kanzeon Nenen Zushin Kishinen

How to read
Kanze Onna Moo Butsu Yo Butsu Woo In Yo Butsu Woon
Buppo Soen Jouraku Ga Funcho Nenkan Zion
Bonenkanzeonnennenjushinki
Nennenfurishin

There is a splendid monk who went unconscious right after finishing the marathon and survived when his mother recited the Enmei Jukku Kannon Sutra all the time by his side.

Please pray for longevity and do your best.
I also pray for a safe return.

Kanzeon Nanmubutsu Yobutsu have a reason, a relationship with a Buddha, a Buddhist monk relationship
Joraku, Gajo Chaonen, Kanzeon, Kuren, Kanzeon, Follow Your Heart, Start Your Mind, and Never Get Away

Nice to meet you, my name is Akazawa from Ichimyoji. I understand your feelings.

My mom left 4 years ago, and it was very difficult to break up with her. But now I'm convinced by holding a memorial service. This is because I agree with the providence that the soul that dwells in the mother's body must be properly returned to the other world.

Medicine is progressing rapidly, but it is not possible to rejuvenate old cells. Even if you continue treatment and prolong your life, you are only waiting for a life where you cannot eat or excrete without someone else's help. I was able to make up my mind to break up when I thought my mom didn't want that.

And now I think so.
I asked you to be reborn as a new baby in this shining new era, and now get a different job, marry someone else, and enjoy your second life.

I'm looking forward to seeing my mother in her place. I thought it would be helpful for you to answer.