I don't get along well with people I know on a religious basis...

I don't know if it's okay to talk about this here, but even if I tell my friends, they say, “What if I get out...?” They encourage me by saying, “Those people are just boring,” but please let me hear the monk's opinion.

I joined a Christian religion about 2 years ago. That church is very serious, and I'm always impressed that everyone is working so hard on church activities, treating others with love, and that they are wonderful people who follow the church's teachings, but even though it's been 2 to 3 years already, I really don't get along well with the people I've met at church... Simply put, even though they show themselves to the point where they can quickly get along with people they met at school or at work (everyone says they are friendly and really nice), they try to hide themselves and treat people at church by putting down a line.

It's like a good friend group of people in the church, but I can't join, and I can't make friends. Somehow, people I've known since I was young are getting involved with each other, and they're excited about church-only topics, such as church evangelism experiences, etc., so it's not easy to get into the circle. Of course, they talk to me, praise me for my strengths, and are kind, but like this... I mean, I don't know what they are thinking, and I'm afraid of being in a group of good friends like middle and high school students and they leave the line...

I finally made a good female friend the other day! I was delighted, but it seemed like she was betrayed by something she said to a mutual acquaintance, “Ore-kun is really thin and weird (laughs),” and I was really shocked. Incidentally, I've already talked to her about her body complexes about “not gaining weight even though I eat so much exercise, muscle training, and food that everyone is attracted to,” and she said, “It's the best body God has given me.”

Is it because I don't have enough faith, or because I'm too small in my heart?
Of course, I don't go to church for the purpose of meeting people, and I like the teachings and activities of that church. But after all, if I go, I want to be good friends with the people there.

4 Zen Responses

Faith is important, in moderation

I read it.
Yes, I understand that very well.
My living environment and background up until now are different, so there's an atmosphere that I'm not very familiar with.
There are places where I feel like there's an invisible barrier stretched over it.
In particular, religious groups often do that.
I'm not familiar with either one, and it feels like I'm floating.
There is a unique excitement and excitement, especially when it comes to a large number of people in temples and churches, so I feel that it becomes extra prominent.

I'm just wondering if it can't be helped.

That's because they go there to practice for their faith.
It's not a friend club activity, is it?
It is also necessary to talk in a friendly and relaxed manner, but unnecessary group attitudes or factions can, on the contrary, hinder faith.

What's more, it's outrageous that they are being forced to say things without permission even though they confided in their own worries like this one.
It is an act that ignores the dignity of individual believers.
It may be a bad way to say it, but it's a crime of breaking the precepts.
That's because it's an act of hurting others due to light and humble intentions.
Maybe I'm going too far, but I think so.
So don't worry about it.

We are all equal before teaching.

I sincerely pray to Shinto and Buddhism that you will spend your days with sincere peace of mind based on proper faith and that you will grow healthily as a person.

Well, please keep in touch with a reasonable sense of distance.

Let's determine whether it's a religion or an idea.
Religion is what makes people free.
Thoughts bind people.

affinity

A temple or church is a temple or church that includes the community of people who gather there. So I think “after all, if I go anyway, I want to be good friends with the people there” is the correct answer.

... but after all, it's person-to-person, so there are so-called skin-to-skin situations.

The same goes for temples and churches. In theory, a temple or church should be accepted by any person, but in reality, that is the case. In Buddhism, it's called Rokushigaido, and no matter how much they talked to the Buddha, there were six people who couldn't understand each other no matter how much they talked to him. Even the Buddha is like that.

You won't like Watasha if you push through such places with religious guts theory that it's because you don't have enough faith or because your heart is narrow. It's just my personal opinion, but I think it's good to look for a church you're more familiar with. That's not a bad thing. As long as you're a human being, it's a matter of course.

Because you're healthy

I feel like it's because you're healthy, though.

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