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I killed my hamster 2

It's papaya. I don't know the password for my previous account, so I'm sorry.

http://hasunoha.jp/questions/2066
Thank you very much for your answers to the questions above.

We held the memorial service as much as possible. Also, from now on, I would like to place my photos in my room and put my hands together.
I'd like you to tell me, what should we think about and put our hands together? Right now, I have a strong sense of regret, and all I can do is tell myself not to repeat the same thing again.

Also, as Mr. Fujioka from Ryokyoji said, I spit out my own anger against weak ones.
And this became a factor of abuse.
I have the same thoughts and a desire to resolve mistakes in order not to repeat them again.
Please guide me.

3 Zen Responses

What happened won't come back

I don't think it's unavoidable to regret it.
The important thing is to “live a way of life where you are not fooled by your own thoughts.”
In order to live from now on, it is necessary to be familiar with the movements of one's own heart.

First, let's notice the fact that they have a selfish way of looking at things.
For example, someone I passed by was looking at me. For the other person, even if they were just looking at it, if they caught it with their heart, they must have thought something about me when they were looking at me. I'm sure they're feeling uncomfortable. etc
There is a possibility that they are taking it as selfish.
It's natural for hamsters not to listen, they don't even want to listen, and they're probably just acting according to their own judgment. There shouldn't have been anything good or bad, but “frustration” came out because you saw it with your own personal opinion. because it's not convenient.

When dealing with people and living things, we value only the primary sense. Just the fact that if the child cried, he cried. When thoughts such as “that's too loud” or “annoying to people” come up secondarily, I just keep it quiet and let it go. You have to know that it's not a fact and that it's bothersome.

I would like you to practice living with care for such primary senses (nourishing the five senses). I definitely want you to learn zazen. I'm sure you'll be saved.

Dealing with the cause of abuse

First, I'm asking you what you should think about and put your hands together, and I'm introducing the Buddhist practice of repentance (sange). We've already talked about this

http://hasunoha.jp/questions/1940

I'm touching it with Please refer to the two sites mentioned above.

Next, he said, “I spit out my own anger against weak people. It's about what you said, “And this was a factor in abuse.” I don't know the details, but in general terms, they're probably struggling with relationships at school or work (which may be different). If you can't deal with this, either creating a second hamster or breaking yourself in one of two, there will be no good results. Conversely, if this point is improved, there should be no way they will abuse what they love.

Does someone close to you have someone you can trust to talk to? If you don't come over, please write the details on this site and ask questions.

What did you want them to do

Good evening. I also let my hamster die when I was in elementary school. Speaking of it now, is it probably neglect (forgetting to feed)?
What bothered me about your last question was the “I have to listen to what hamsters say.” I now have tropical fish, and I've been talking about increased stress at work. “What should I do?” That's disgusting, isn't it?
The good thing about fish is that they're on the other side of the tank, so they have faces I don't know in any state. It's not someone who “lets you hear what you say in the first place.”
Rather, thinking “what does this child want right now,” and taking care of them in various ways, even if you don't guess, probably means “keeping an animal.” So, I'm happy when the grass grows a lot by replacing the water and adjusting the water quality.
So, “What won't you repeat?” Rather than thinking, “If we have a relationship next time, how should we treat them?” I think it's better to think about it. I'll never forget the fun and happy memories I had with that child. I will cherish the relationships that will come next time. I think that's important.
Also, as you can see from the text, you have an idea of the cause that led to bullying even if you are weak, and you are trying to solve it. I think it's about being brave.