hasunoha

I can't go to the class reunion

I haven't been to a class meeting or reunion since I graduated.

I've only been guided about 3 or 4 times in the past, but I don't have the courage to go.

As a reason...
① Currently, I don't have a relationship with any of my friends from when I was a student.
② I live in my hometown, but I retired for nursing care and became unemployed, and I don't have confidence.
③ I feel like I can't talk to each other because I'm single.
④ I haven't had many friends since then, and I've been bullied, so I haven't been able to meet those people face to face.
⑤ Studying is below average, and I don't have a strong presence.

Anyway, I had an introverted personality that didn't stand out, so I never heard an invitation from anyone.

Even when I go to a class reunion, I'm absent because I think it would be easier if I didn't go there, as much as eating alone,
Can't it be helped?

What I've done in the past is backfiring now and is making the world smaller?

4 Zen Responses

Ally before friends.

Good evening.
Please don't blame yourself too much.

First, friends rather than friends.
Even if you don't have friends, your surroundings aren't all enemies.
This Hasunoha place is on Komakki-san's side.

There are also a few questions from people who have similar feelings of loneliness.
I think there is something to be gained about communication from the point of view of the monk who answered other people's questions and answers.

So, each person has different personalities and mental habits.
There are parts where actions up until now will lead to the future, but...
Not everyone is like that.
If your point of view changes from what it used to be, the world you can see and the path you walk in the future will also change.

Even if you don't meet in person, there is an internet world,
If you feel like you can get involved with people a little more, there are also volunteering and culture courses to the extent that they are not burdensome.
Of course, I would be grateful if you check out the events held at some temple.

If you want to go, go

If it's been decades since you were a student, everyone must have changed. Now that you're an adult, you can talk well, don't you? If you can say “It's been a while” with a smile, we will somehow be able to overcome the rest with everyone's power. I think they'll ask you a lot of questions.
Why don't you gather your courage and go?

There's no problem if you don't go

If you have any problems with not going to the class reunion, you should probably go.
However, there doesn't seem to be much harm to yourself or your other classmates by not going to the reunion.
So there's no need to go.
If you're not going, don't go and give up once and for all.

If you deduce the feeling of writing here

Hello. Life is kind of difficult, isn't it?
Now, if you read the sentence you asked normally, when it comes to whether “what was done in the past is coming out now,” it's probably “coming out.” But where does it appear?
I think it's probably “in your current feelings.”

Now, if you ask again at hasunoha about the class reunion that you were invited to only a few times after graduation, I think it is certain that the thought “let's go out” has arisen, or at least not ignored it. Is this view correct?
My elementary school has a rule that “when you turn 40, you will organize a class reunion conference,” and I was in charge of it about 10 years ago. We got together for a cause, or rather, for a reason, but since that was when I was a kid, the partner I had a fight with, the partner I bullied, and the kid who peed and stepped on horse poop and got on the bus. So, were you dragging it along? no. It was in “all those things, nostalgic memories, funny stories.”
Maybe the only thing that comes up in such places is the rear charger. Of course, not all of the graduates gathered. Even so, there were “how is that kid doing,” and there were also stories such as “she's a foreign country now,” “she's missing now,” and “she passed away.”
I don't know what kind of story will come up and how it will make you feel. However, it is unlikely that the number of “friends who share the past” will increase in the future.
My recommendation is “Why don't you come out?” That's it. If you have a hard time there, you should never go there again. That's why there aren't many invitations in the first place.
If you enjoy it. Wouldn't it be nice if we became friends again? It's pretty valuable. A friend who is the same age and currently has no direct interest.