hasunoha

Please tell me how to live without being bound by fortune telling results.

Good evening.
There's something I've been worried about for a long time, so let me talk to you.

I married my husband a year and a half ago. When I went to say hello to that marriage, my husband's grandmother asked me my date of birth and name, and it seems that the marriage between my husband and me was predicted by a fortune teller that my grandmother believed at a later date.
My grandmother was inclined to the fortune telling of the Four Pillars, and her life was determined by that. It seems that it was the fortune teller who named my husband when he was born.
The result is

My husband and I are the least compatible
I am destined to become ill and suffer and die for the rest of my life
They become unfaithful parents even if they have children
Anyway, my name and date of birth are the worst

It seems like that was the case, and they were told that it was better to break up and that it was better not to get married.
To be honest, I was surprised, and I thought my name was something precious that my parents thought up and gave me, so I was angry when they said such a thing all of a sudden.

After that, in the story between me and my husband, I don't believe in the Four Pillars of Fortune, so to my grandmother

The results may not be good in the Four Pillar Predictions, but I want to cherish the relationships I've met and complete them

We talked and got married.

My grandmother also comes to weddings and treats me normally.

However, I don't believe in fortune telling, but I was shocked that they kept being told that it was so bad, and I put something on it and thought, “Oh, my fate sucks, so this is what happened.”
(I'm not very strong mentally, so I've stayed away from fortune-telling until now so I wouldn't be brainwashed by being told bad things by fortune telling me)

In particular, my chronic illness worsened a while ago, and the surgery and infertility treatment were performed as a result, but it didn't go very well, and every time I did that, I remember my grandmother's story, and I feel like the words my grandmother said were stuck together like a curse, and it's really painful.
I meet my grandmother about once a month by sharing a meal, but recently I've become afraid of meeting my grandmother.

My husband and I both want children, but they aren't blessed because of my illness, and my husband's fortune telling results are good, so if I marry someone other than me, my husband will also be blessed with children, and I am filled with sorry feelings.
My husband cares about me. Because they are kind people, they tell me that they will live together even if they are not blessed with children. But it's painful to think that I might make my husband unhappy.

How can we positively accept these fortune telling results?
Also, is it possible not to worry about it?

4 Zen Responses

There is no point in fortune telling

What I was told in my fortune telling doesn't mean that's always going to happen; I'm just saying it.
If you are caught up in it and you suffer, then you probably don't need a fortune telling.
You have taken those words that your grandmother said to you in your own thoughts and are moving away from the facts.

Grandma just said it. There are no shadows or shapes anymore. However, since it is something you remember, you are mistaken for Makoto. As a matter of fact, I only have time to live in front of me. Thoughts make you run into delusions. That's not real.
Grandma doesn't say that anymore. I'm sure they want you to be happy.

People who get married by fortune telling get divorced by fortune telling

Don't believe anything that has no basis.
Please make up your mind to live without being influenced by human information starting today.
There is no basis for fortune-telling.
They only say vague things.
I know a nun who tells fortune telling fortunes.
When I was in high school, I was told, “You won't be in trouble with money for the rest of your life,” but even now, there are debts to the temple, and there are no graves or parishioners, so I'm still indebted to Mr. Honji. It's not really a temple where you can live with a left-handed fan. However, not being in trouble with money = it's not about becoming rich = even in Bimbo, if you don't suffer, you won't be in trouble with money.
In this way, people who say good things to themselves seem like kind of nice people. Don't you think you were taken in by those sweet words that were the first to say something nice?
Fortune telling is a job where you say nice things to people like that.
It's just a communication tool, and it's nothing but a distraction for idiots like me in the past who don't know the reason for things.
There is something to enjoy, but it's not something you should believe in.
It must be painful, but please affirm that you were just being used for people's good words.
Just now, I was watching today's horoscope on Mezamashi TV, and well, I always think that such unfounded things have been broadcast proudly on public radio since morning.
Your own way of thinking about things and situations affects your fate and way of thinking.
Fortune tellers know that kind of human psychology, so they influence your mind.
Oh, you don't have to believe my words.
However, people who believe in fortune telling believe in people who say good things for themselves. You'll end up believing in fortune telling until you don't face your own weak mentality. Your life is up to you to decide.
Whether I say you'll be unhappy or happy from now on, don't be fooled by either.

Boku Divination Ritual Tsutometosu

Moomin-sama
Nice to meet you, my name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an, thank you for your support.

The fortune teller said terrible things to me when I got married, and they really didn't care about it.
The content was written in the question, and I was amazed that it was so good that it had been said so far.

Actually, people don't really understand themselves.
What can you tell by just your name and date of birth?
If they have the same first and last name and have the same birthday, is it even said that they will live the exact same life?
I don't think it's worth listening to before you believe it or not.

There is a saying like this in the teachings of the Jodo Shinshu sect, which I regard as the pillar of my heart.

Sad Kanaya: Good Times in Morality: Choosing a Good Day
Worshiping Tenjin Jigun while devouring Bokuji Ritual

It is one of the Japanese praises written by the founder Shinran Shonin.
As for the meaning...

Oh, how sad.
Whether they are monks or ordinary people, they are concerned about whether the day is good or bad and whether the time is good or bad, they only offer prayers to the gods of heaven and earth to fulfill their desires, and are also swayed by fortune telling, etc.

It will be.
Shinran Shonin dates from the Kamakura period. When aristocrats and the like became ill, it was normal to gather monks and pray to heal them, and they had such a modern way of thinking.
800 years from now, we bought a house in Taian, got married, and watched fortune telling on TV and magazines; I don't know which one is modern people (^_^;)

I think “fortune telling” is “irrefutable.”
In criminal dramas, etc., evidence, etc. are often called “back side” (did you take the back side? etc.). In other words, I think it's “irrefutable” to say something that has no evidence or basis as if I had one.

Mr. Moomin.
It is said that they have chronic illnesses and are also being treated for infertility. Maybe things will be even more difficult from now on, and conversely, the illness may be cured and children may also be born.
However, it is not something that can be judged by “no betrayal,” etc., and it is the result of various relationships that cannot be measured by humans.

I sincerely hope that you will not be misled by immediate happiness or misfortune and that you will continue to live your life well with your kind husband.

It's a different religion from Buddhism

Fortune telling and factual learning are different religions from Buddhism.
It's a different religion, so there's no problem if you don't believe in it.
I don't believe in Islam, Christianity, Shinto, fortune telling, feng shui, or name judgment, so I'm not swayed by it.