hasunoha

I'm worried about returning to work.

Nice to meet you. Thank you for your support.

I have been absent from work since mid-July due to poor health. I was planning to return this month, but I'm still not feeling well, and I honestly don't want to go back because of company relationships. More importantly, I'm also thinking about quitting like this. However, my husband is an unreliable person because he is a liar and secretly in debt. Stop talking about it and take a good rest. They say that, but...

I'm worried about whether to quit the company I worked for 6 years and get better, or whether I should go back even if I overdo it for the future.
Please give me some good advice.

5 Zen Responses

To work is to live

Moe-sama
Nice to meet you, my name is Tetsuya Urakami. Thank you for your support.

It is said that they have been absent from work since mid-July due to poor health. This summer (too?) It was so hot that I was able to rest for the first time in a while. But it looks like things aren't going well yet.
It's “good advice,” but I don't know the details of my workplace, home, or poor physical condition, so I don't think it's accurate, but please forgive me.

This is an age where it is difficult to find a job, so I felt that a workplace that allows a leave of absence is valuable.
Furthermore, if it is a company that adjusts the amount of work and content in consideration of not being in perfect physical condition, I think it's okay to return early.

Now, what I felt when reading the question is that you are worried about your physical condition and return to work, but more than that, relationships at work and your husband are the central part of your worries. How about it?

Relationships stick with you wherever you go, and there are benefits such as confidence, fulfillment, and rhythm of life that can be obtained by working. Why don't you do some kind of work?

Incidentally, “Working is Living” by Tomohiro Koseki is one of my favorite books. It may not be a direct reference, but if you like, please borrow it at a library or the like and read it.
http://www.amazon.co.jp/働くことは生きること-講談社現代新書-小関-智弘/dp/4061496395

Moe-sama.

“I'm worried that my illness hasn't healed.” The question “” has also been written, isn't it?
I wrote it there too, but...

First, how many days of vacation did you receive from findings that there is a tendency to depression due to autonomic nervous ataxia and psychosomatic medicine? You won't be able to cure this kind of mental illness in a week or a month.
It is a disease that can be cured over a long period of time, so please get serious and be admitted to the hospital to treat this.
I swear in my heart that I will definitely be cured...

Please talk about your husband to his parents' house.
that's the best, so...

Every choice is Moe's life.

I'm really worried about whether or not to quit my job.
I wonder if it would be better for Moe-san to quit her job and concentrate on treatment,
Is it better to work and support your life even if you overdo it,
I don't have the wisdom to decide which one is better.

However, what can you say as a monk
Whichever one you choose,
It means that it is important for Moe-san to take on Moe-san's life herself.

Probably, no matter which choice you make, in a big sense,
Moe-san's life won't change.

What is important is the life Moe-san made her own decisions
It's about experiencing it as your own life.

From now on, I think life will continue to be difficult and there will be many things to lose,
The Buddha has always been by my side, so
Experience it without looking away from your own life.
There are no right answers in life.

Let's think about one “what if”

Nice to meet you. I think it was painstaking to discuss your concerns while you weren't feeling well.
What bothered me the most was my husband. Unlike relationships in the workplace, “I'm a liar and unreliable” was written quite specifically.

“If your husband is an honest and reliable person, what would you do about yourself?”
If you think about one “what if”, etc., etc., you may be able to see the real problem.
It is said that there's no point in thinking about... if..., etc., but please try it out.

I think the actual “life” is more muddy than dramas and novels. Also, even if you are told to do what you want, the reality is that there are many things you really can't do. However, Moe-san's worries this time will never go to waste in her long life. Please just believe that.

Now is the trigger

To Moe-sama

Thank you for your hard work.
What would you like to do with yourself once again
I think we need to think about it.

Please be sure to express that feeling to your husband next time.
The two of us can think clearly about the future
Isn't now the trigger?
Please think about it. Gassho