What I used to work at was a temple.
It was Motoyama.
I felt bad about that, so I retired.
That person was a monk.
I am
I'm still going to the hospital.
They haven't even asked me to apologize.
Am I the only one asking this kind of question?
I don't know if you can listen to it, but please answer as a monk.
I'm doing everything I can, but I don't know the answer.
If you don't write more specifically, I won't be able to get an answer.
Now that I understand the specifics, I'll answer.
If you have the courage to say what you want to say to that monk
Why don't you tell the truth and get an apology.
If you can't get words that satisfy you from the person himself/herself,
Why don't you talk to the President?
However, if the problem is a problem and you can't tell anyone,
If you have to be careful about this kind of thing,
I have no choice but to think that it was a learning experience.
Whether or not you say that to the person you're dating is up to you.
Lady Ally
Since it's a place called hasunoha, I wonder if I've put it into words up to this point.
Thank you for letting me hear about your painful feelings.
I read it,
Why doesn't he apologize even though he's a monk?
Why did the position of leading and saving a person called a monk make me feel bad?
I'm worried because I can't sort out the gap between the ideal monk image I drew in my head and the hardships I actually experienced, and I don't know how to calm my feelings.
Because of the monk who received disgusting feelings, it has become impossible to erase distrust not only of individual monks but also of their purpose and Buddhism as a whole. Denying Buddhism, which you have studied until now, will lead to denying yourself...
I've written a few based on my own selfish guesses, but I'm sorry if I'm completely misguided. I apologize.
If you have feelings that are even a little close, I would be grateful if you could tell me a more specific story.
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Ally (read the thank you section)
There are many people who are stuck in the bottom of their hearts without being able to tell anyone, so I was able to say thank you for writing it even if it wasn't specific.
I read the specific story, but I'm sorry that I told you such a painful story. I apologize.
There is no need to keep the painful parts of content that are not light on the internet all the time, so I think it's okay to edit or delete parts of the thank you section.
As for the postscript part, I think timing is important in order to tell the other person.
Also, before speaking directly about Ally's experience
“How would you support someone close to you who had this kind of experience?”
As such, there is also a way to think about how to communicate after confirming the other person's stance.
It may be contrary to the answer I was looking for, but in my case, I was more disappointed than satisfied when I asked for a solution to my title or position.
In my case, my heartbreak and sadness often didn't go away just by judging people.
It is possible for people to heal wounds inflicted by people, but I feel that it is important to successfully combine medical treatment, psychology, environment, allies, friends, and faith.
I wish Ally that her sad wounds will heal.
Taian worship
Lady Ally
My name is Tetsuya Urakami.
After reading what was written in “Thank You,” I thought about a lot of things.
Since it's Kyoto, there are many workplaces related to temples, and I think many ordinary people also work there. You worked at the head temple of one of those sects, and you were assaulted by a monk there.
Even when the president says, “Please tell me if anything happens,” I think it's a painful memory that I can't say so easily.
It said “I'm going to the hospital,” but was it physical damage I received at that time, a mental injury, or both? Either way, you've been able to endure it.
There was also a saying, “I believed this monk.” What kind of exchange of words occurred, or does it mean that they believe they will apologize?
There are many parts that are answered by imagination, and I don't think it's something I should write in detail in hasunoha. If you are discussing detailed matters, I think it would be better to speak directly to someone you can trust, but how about that?
On top of that, will they question the person himself, will they sue the president, will they appeal to the police, or will they confide in their marriage hunting partner? Or are you going to keep it in Ally's heart?
I hope you can find a path that will clear Ally's heart even a little bit.
“Rape by a certain monk is obscene...” It's a no-brainer, so even though it was 5 years ago, please contact the Yoro police as soon as possible. At that time, if you have any evidence of this, please bring it to the police.
Important legal matters such as this one are difficult to handle at Hasunoha.
Please contact your local police immediately.
To Ally
Thank you for sharing your painful experience.
What would you like me to do now?
Do you want that person to apologize?
Should I tell you that honestly
Should I give up and move forward
Either way, we have to forgive someday.
As a thank you after that
“Actually, I want to be better now than marriage hunting.
I want to live my daily life normally.
I want to laugh from the bottom of my heart.
I want to reassure my parents”
I read the sentence.
If you have that feeling and heart
I'm sure we'll be able to move forward.
Wouldn't it be nice to spend every day relaxing step by step now? Gassho