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What are the “goals” of working adults

I am an office worker in my 5th year working in Tokyo.

I'm also a member of society, and I'm so embarrassed to ask this kind of question, but how did you “think” and “decide” “what you want to do.”

This is because as I live my daily life as a member of society, I have come to strongly think that goals are necessary, both at work and in private (although strictly speaking, I think they are close to impatience)

Nonetheless, I'm not interested in goals that people around me talk about (for example, wanting to advance in my career), and I'm worried about how to think about them in the first place...

I would be grateful if you could share your experiences or give me some advice.

4 Zen Responses

Why not aim for what people around you expect?

If anything, I don't really want to do anything on my own.
Speaking of which, I want to take a leisurely break like Nobita-kun.
In that case, wouldn't the goal be to do what is expected of those around you, to do what is asked or desired by family, work, or local people, and to do what is stipulated by national law?

Conversely, even when you have a goal you want to achieve, worries such as greed, anger, laziness, pride, etc. are the cause of worry and suffering, so if you don't live while being calmly aware of your own worries to some extent, you will experience intense worries and suffering when your goals and worries are combined.
Even though it's prohibited by law, if your goal is to become a thief, you should prioritize the expectations of your surroundings (don't break the law) over your own dreams.

I'll try what's in front of me

Nice to meet you, Zawagoemon.
This is Nakamura Taishaku from Kannon Temple, the temple of Dharma and ceiling paintings in Tokushima Prefecture.

Sawa Soemon wants to know how he thought and decided what he wanted to do.
The law of attraction has become popular, and it seems that goals are often made to be ridiculously big and far away. I don't understand that path, and I'm at a loss as to what to do.

If that's the case, why don't you try hard at what's in front of you?
For example, if you need 20 minutes to do the work Zawaemon is doing, try cleaning it up in 15 minutes. I'll add materials that I think are necessary for the job I've been ordered to do and make suggestions. etc etc.

The job in front of me is so amazing that they can't even think of it! It's about trying to work at a level that makes you think. This makes it interesting! You can see the points you feel. Let's push it forward and get through it. Then, you will naturally be able to see your goals.

“What is asked is what is tried” Nakamura Fumiaki

You don't have to have a goal

Have a dream recently. It is taken for granted that you should have a goal like that, but if you suffer when it doesn't become like that, I think it's better not to have such a thing.

I think it's better to create a cause for suffering and not be swept away by thoughts that worry is good. I think there is peace of mind in simply living a carefree life.

For the time being, I'll connect with

I think that's good too. Certainly, there are people who set lofty and far-fetched goals, but you have to understand that “they are ridiculous and less specific.” In other words, it's like “I've tried a lot of things, and when I notice it, I feel like I'm one step closer.”
“It feels similar to impatience,” and I think this awareness is very good, but I wonder if this is a state where “I want standards to prioritize things and judge choices”? I feel it.
So, “for now, what are the values I want to cherish for now?” Why don't you ask yourself and accumulate the answers?
Since ancient times in the Kokin Wakashu, we have thought that words are spun in response to what is in our hearts. The reason people pay so much attention from the many things that are reflected in their field of vision is that there are elements that respond to the mind.
If so, I think it's a good way to write down and accumulate your favorite words, book, and movie stories on memos. I myself write lazily on my smartphone's memo app. The cool thing about this is that “you don't have to narrow it down to one.”
But (what's more?) There are times when it becomes visible as the amount accumulates. If you don't write it down, you just forget it, but when you collect it, you notice a new dimension. When your “favorite stories and favorite ways of thinking” accumulate, one day a “situation close to that” will appear right in front of you. Then it's your chance to become your “favorite self.” Far from having goals, they are accomplishing them.

The above is one specific method, but there is something I would like to tell you in more general terms.
It's a song called Anpanman's March, and they say “I don't like not being able to answer what I was born for and what I do to live,” but even though it's a children's program, it's a teaching from a senior in life (the author is an old man). Goals are issues you should pursue even when you are 60, 70, or 80 years old. Also, I think it's good to change over the years.
There may also be people who have “lifelong goals.” However, what I recommend is a “goal for the time being.” I'll try it while thinking it's Karisome. When you achieve it, you'll definitely be fed up with something.
Oh yeah, as an addition, I'm sure there are people you can rely on for the “goals” you seek in stories and novels. It's not a TV, it's a book.