Aren't men emotional creatures after all?

Men and women have feelings, don't they?
I think everyone sometimes gets carried away by emotions rather than logic. even more so if it's about someone you like...

Now, this is your husband's problem and yours. Wouldn't it be dangerous to think about a specific case by applying it to men in general? (If you say emotion theory, I think doing that is emotional theory...)

Of course, I think it is effective to refer to trends that are often seen in men in general in order to solve specific problems with the specific man in front of you, but how about using the trends of specific men in the specific problem at hand as male trends in general?

However, I feel that I understand the pain of not being able to get your partner to understand your thoughts and purpose in life. No, you've been suffering so much that I can't even imagine, so I'm sure you've been asking questions over and over again...
Conversely, it can also be said that your husband is also having a pain that he doesn't understand, but that's why you made your first appointment. But have you changed your mind since then?

Please try to have a thorough discussion so that the two of you can live your life with a sense of purpose.
There are various married couples, so you can make a shape for the two of you without being bound by “this is how it should be,” and if that doesn't come true, it's probably a good idea to walk separate ways.

hmm...

Do you love your husband?

What would it be foolish to ask? It doesn't mean that if you like it, leave it up to your emotions and forgive everything.
The meaning of you being married to a specific man in front of you... Speaking of coincidence, it may be a random relationship, but that coincidence was the man in front of you. We had a lot of discussions about how we were going to have that relationship, and the decision was only made by the two of us.

In Buddhism, it is said that the mind is impermanent.
The human mind changes moment by moment.
It is quite possible for people who didn't want children to have children to suddenly have such a change of mind.
That's why human society needs promises and contracts.
If you promised not to have children, your promise is valid even if you change your mind.
Of course, the details of the contract can be changed after mutual agreement.

Regardless of gender, humans have afflictions and feelings of greed, anger, laziness, and pride.
These feelings come to mind in response to stimuli coming into the eyes, ears, nose, and body, and disappear when they float.

I think it depends on the time and circumstances that women are more emotional.
If it's a story I've heard on TV before, does it mean that women tend to recognize facts with emotion?
For example, I've heard that a few days later, when a woman thinks “I should have stopped it after all,” the woman's factual perception becomes a perception that “I really didn't like it,” “I was in a situation where I couldn't refuse even though I didn't like it,” and “I was forced to do it.”
From the male side, “it is true that they certainly agreed at that time, and they agreed.”
From the woman's point of view, “I really didn't like it; it's true that I was forced to do it by force.”
Man: “Why didn't you say I didn't like it then.”
Woman “I didn't like it, but it made me feel like I couldn't say it, and I was forced to do it.”
Of course, there are individual differences in that too, and men may also have that kind of thing.

Men may not be good at “sensing” women's emotions. When women get angry at men they don't understand, men may complain that “women are emotional.”

Maybe my idea is different, but I was wondering what a “marriage” would be under Motoyamamoto's conditions. Everyone has their own views on marriage, so it's not about judging what is good or bad. So I don't think there's a problem, but under those conditions, it means the man you're dealing with can't stand it after all.

> Men are too selfish.
Regardless of gender, everyone prioritizes their own convenience and is selfish. Isn't this time about a different view of marriage? Once you get married... I'm not going to say that because everyone seems to be free, but I think the man I'm dealing with had the ideal of getting married.

I don't understand men's opinions, so I can't say it unilaterally, but I think suffering will be reduced if a man who matches Motoyamamoto-san's views on marriage is chosen.
And, of course, men are emotional creatures too. I also have instincts.

I think that's fine with your idea.
It's just for you.

However
Driven by leaving everything to the “emotion” of “disgusting,”
Please make sure you don't lose anything important.

The reason you came to this place called Hasunoha
I guess it came out because something was painful.

This is a place to “tune in” and “sympathize” with your thoughts
It's not there. With sympathy and sympathy, your suffering “stagnates”
That's because it's just that.

To overcome suffering, we must move forward.

First, tell your husband exactly what you think.
Why don't you want to have children? What is simply “no”
It's elementary school level. Please tell me about theory.

Instead, listen to your husband's words.

I'm sure you've heard your husband's words until the end
I don't think so. It boosted my words along the way,
I don't think my husband was able to carry on his words until the end.

Let's demand the same from our husband. “My story
Listen until the end. Listen properly and express your thoughts”
That's it.

If you talk about emotions, properly describe the feeling that you also “dislike”
It's about throwing it away.

What is the most important
Properly say that we are “happy” for each other
Keep it at the goal point.

I hope we have a good discussion.
And you and your husband, around that, I'm sure you're both
To the many people who are watching with a strange feeling,
whoa whoa whoa. Gassho