1 year and 5 months since my daughter's death

My daughter is watching over me up close.

You don't have to endure it; it's okay to cry until your tears are gone. You can scream until your voice is crushed.

When your life runs out, you can always meet again.

Right now, please do your best to make a memorial service.

A memorial service is your way of life, what kind of faces do you want to meet again when you meet again, and what kind of voices do you want to make to each other.

A way of life for that.

Please do your best to make a memorial service.

Namu Amida Buddha

The young lady you are facing now is a memory of the young lady in you, not the girl you are now.
She is your young lady who was strongly “me” within you personally.
If the young lady were alive, it would be like talking about old girls and ignoring the person herself, saying “you used to be a good kid” without dealing with her. They don't seem to be dealing with the person in front of them.
The actual facts of reality all move in their own way away from “human views = my thoughts = what I draw in my head.”
☆ Once again, reality works in a completely different way than you think! It's...
What is in front of you is the current state of truth as of December 7, 2017.
However, within you, you are contemplating the state of the young lady in the past, when she was doing well in the past. It is an attitude of “retaining Hoke Arisama, the Minister of Buddhism, and the Minister of Law.”
A real phenomenon in this world The flow of rivers in the world is changing steadily.
The young lady you love is not the memory or data of the young lady you are dealing with right now.
You must sense the young lady who continues to be with you in the real world right now.
In order for people who have lost loved ones to be able to treat those who have passed away with a smile, we must look at the true daughter of today. The shape is invisible to the eye, but the death of a person is not the end; it has only changed the way it is, and relationships continue to exist with living people.
The young lady you really should face is there.
When a person loses someone they love, there is no other person they should really face than meeting a “deceased person who has completed the way they are now.”
Even if it was a painful end, it was my current memory. We are now free to exist.
The present state of the person himself is being buried and played around in the legal world.
The fact that it exists in the legal world means that there is no place you can't keep in mind.
By pledging a bodhisattva heart of redemption (first petition) and walking Buddhism with your daughter, you can celebrate a grand ceremony in the true sense of the word, an auspicious death day.
Please put your hands together in front of the Buddhist altar and make a vow of redemption.
You'll meet the young lady as the real “state of the law” now.
Gassho

Nice to meet you. My name is Kameyama Junshi. Actually, my only son also died suddenly in February of this year, just before his 20th birthday. After that, the answer in Hasunoha didn't progress as expected, and this answer is the first one since my son's death.
Well, my son also died suddenly, and I'm at a loss, but I'll write a little bit about what I'm thinking right now.
First of all, I want to say that this sadness will never go away. Therefore, I think it is important how to accept this sadness as one's own. Izumi Shikibu, a female poet from the Heian dynasty, mourned the death of her young child and wrote a poem “Teach them to know their natural self in the world of dreams, the child who returns home is knowledge.” “My child, who passed away at a young age, was a Buddha who was born and died to teach me the impermanence of this world.” That's it. What meaning does the death of a loved one give me; in other words, what did that person's death bring to my life? Capturing this may lead to not wasting that person's death. Then, based on that, I would like to reconsider the relationship between that person and me.
Speaking specifically about private matters...
My son's death taught me “the fragility of life, the impermanence of this world.” I believe that living with that perspective will lead to not wasting my son's death. Also, for me, my son was truly a good knowledge [Bodhisattva] who taught me “the fragility of life, the impermanence of this world.” Of course, I don't think my son was born into this world to teach me this. But if I didn't learn from my son's death myself, I would be wasting that death. Conversely, if there is anything I can learn from my son's death, I think my son would be happier than the Pure Land.
I hope my answers are helpful, even if only a little bit.

I read it.
I wonder if shock and deep sorrow have enveloped your heart since your daughter passed away.
I sincerely understand your deep thoughts and the painful feelings of living.

I sincerely ask the Buddha so that my daughter can be at peace and quiet from the bottom of her heart under the Buddha's guidance, and I will be quiet with Nembutsu.

Namu Amida Buddha Namu Amidabutsu

My daughter can always be at peace and at ease from the bottom of her heart under the Buddha, and all suffering will go away, and she can attain Buddhism with peace of mind.
And from now on, they will always watch over you.

Your sorrow will never run out, but please leave that thought directly at the memorial service for your daughter.

I'm sure that thought will reach my daughter and the Buddha. Your relationship with your daughter will last forever from now on.
Your daughter is always watching over you no matter what, just like you think of her.
And they are always there for you.

Death can never separate relationships between people.

One day, the time will come when you will complete your life.
At that time, the Buddha will guide you, and under the Buddha you will meet your daughter and share your joy.

I'm sure until then, your daughter will stand beside you in the dark and support you.

Again, you're never alone; your daughter is always on your mind.

Please live a healthy and peaceful life with your daughter from now on.

And please continue to have a happy and fulfilling day with your daughter.

Why are there such terrible things sometimes, and there are gods and Buddhas,
There are things that make me think.
Exactly the grief you have received,
Suffering and pain
very, very,
Stupidity has nothing to understand
That might be it.
I would also like to express my sympathy,
I wonder if the language is kind of light,
It makes me ask myself questions.
How did your daughter pass away early
It must have meant something.
Foolish people don't understand,
There is always something beyond human knowledge,
It was there.
Anguish that people cannot overcome
It is said that Shinto and Buddha do not give.
This passed away early
For young ladies, too
if you don't get over it either
Isn't this a test that won't happen?
If it were you, you would definitely get over it
I believe it.
Drive to shrines and temples all over the country
Why don't you go around?
That's what a young lady is
With the feeling that the two of you are visiting a pilgrimage,
Why don't you come visit us?
I wish you all the best,
I'm praying from the bottom of my heart.
Namu Amida Buddha
Namu Amida Buddha
Namu Amida Buddha
Namu Amida Buddha
Namu Amida Buddha