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How to be able to start moving with one's own will

Recently, I realized that I had never worked on myself to do anything about my way of life up until now.

I was swept away by the circumstances and environment around me, and it has reached the present.
My current job originally went bankrupt, so it's like taking over a customer and becoming independent, and I didn't do that with a will.

For my family, I'm not proposing events myself, etc., and I'm just following along.

I know in my head that this isn't good for my company or my family.
However, when I think “what do I want to do,” nothing comes up. I even think that I have a personality disorder.

Is it possible to start moving with the will to “do what you want to do”?

5 Zen Responses

You don't have to do anything you want

People don't live their own way of thinking, and they don't live the way they want.
There may be times when hard work pays off, but nothing from 0 to 100 is what you'd imagine.

Buddhism is a teaching that preaches good fortune.
It's just touching the edge and things are happening. It's probably important to accept it and live on without putting yourself forward.

I want to do this job. Even if you don't think you like this job, it's probably enough.

Questions about the way we have been until now will bring about changes in our future steps

Mas

Why don't you ask this question over Hasunoha
Did someone say

This question is where you yourself are beyond your awareness
I think he almost lashed out

Questions about the way I have been until now
I think it will bring about a change in the way we go in the future.

Let's try various things

I don't think this is what I want
Isn't understanding also a big step

I've been able to do that until now.

 It is said that “I've never worked on myself to do anything,” but if you look at it on an everyday level, that's probably not the case. If you don't place an order, Amazon won't even deliver it, right?
As a hint to think about, what about the environment surrounding you (especially your family relationships)? Since you are in an environment where you “don't need to cause anything yourself”, an environment where you feel (whatever it actually is), it's the way it is now. That's quite possible.
For example, if your parents are healthy, you can be a “child.” If you sit down, your meals will be served, you won't wash the bath, and you won't take out the trash. Does that mean it has become “yours for granted”?
However, “commonplace” is something that changes and collapses. Everyone is getting older and getting older. You must have made a lot of decisions due to this inevitable change.
I don't know if the word “proactive” fits perfectly, but “starting your own company” and “planning family events” aren't the only subjectivity. I think “judgment” is a subjective activity (we decide to “leave it up” even if we leave it to others).
So I don't know if I feel “something is wrong” as it is. “Somehow, shouldn't it be”? They say it's a “personality disorder,” but I feel like it's simply a “result of dealing with the current environment.” There is nothing abnormal or normal about personality. It's just individual.
In other words, if it's a problem, I think you have to think about it as a set with the surrounding environment, not you personally.
So, if you “want to make a difference,” I think it's a good idea to review your home and family relationships. Like living alone. However, it probably involves a lot of risks. Because I'm not used to it. I think it takes quite a bit of energy to just change yourself.

Let's start with imitation

There are things humans suddenly try to do and can't do.
Comedians also say that if you change blur and tuckomi, things don't go well, and that they are unsuitable.
Wouldn't it be okay not to understand what you don't understand?
We learn because we don't understand.
Even in the world of us monks, we can't say whether anyone can attain enlightenment by self-study.
That's why we imitate and learn.

A way of life that responds to demands

It is said that you respond to the demands of those around you
A person who can live a life.

Isn't it a wonderful life!