It is said that “I've never worked on myself to do anything,” but if you look at it on an everyday level, that's probably not the case. If you don't place an order, Amazon won't even deliver it, right?
As a hint to think about, what about the environment surrounding you (especially your family relationships)? Since you are in an environment where you “don't need to cause anything yourself”, an environment where you feel (whatever it actually is), it's the way it is now. That's quite possible.
For example, if your parents are healthy, you can be a “child.” If you sit down, your meals will be served, you won't wash the bath, and you won't take out the trash. Does that mean it has become “yours for granted”?
However, “commonplace” is something that changes and collapses. Everyone is getting older and getting older. You must have made a lot of decisions due to this inevitable change.
I don't know if the word “proactive” fits perfectly, but “starting your own company” and “planning family events” aren't the only subjectivity. I think “judgment” is a subjective activity (we decide to “leave it up” even if we leave it to others).
So I don't know if I feel “something is wrong” as it is. “Somehow, shouldn't it be”? They say it's a “personality disorder,” but I feel like it's simply a “result of dealing with the current environment.” There is nothing abnormal or normal about personality. It's just individual.
In other words, if it's a problem, I think you have to think about it as a set with the surrounding environment, not you personally.
So, if you “want to make a difference,” I think it's a good idea to review your home and family relationships. Like living alone. However, it probably involves a lot of risks. Because I'm not used to it. I think it takes quite a bit of energy to just change yourself.