I'm not good at tying relationships

Radio sama
My name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an, thank you for your support.

If I were to answer your question in my own way... “Is it weird that you're not good at humans?” → it's not weird. There are other people like that.

If you read the question, is it OK to say that Radio doesn't work outside, is she married and is a housewife?
If it's work, you have to somehow get along with someone you don't like, but if there's no need to go out with someone you don't like, you'll probably become estranged.
They switched feelings and continued to be in a relationship for about 5 years even after something bad happened, so I think it's unavoidable that our relationship faded on top of that.

As for ikebana, I don't know why the teacher said those words, but since it's a hobby, I definitely don't have to keep going.
I think I was able to go to another classroom, but if I were told something that would hurt me again... I wonder if I wasn't able to do that either.

While replying, I thought about another question, “Can I leave it as I am?”
You probably don't seem to be in trouble in real life even as it is, but I think you feel “this shouldn't be the case”?
Rather than being bad at forming relationships or continuing, I think you're not good at continuing something with a strong will, and that you can't do it yourself.

I've written something in-depth. Please forgive me if it's off the mark.
Going back to the second question, I think Radio is fine as it is. But if you can't accept it, do whatever you like or are interested in. Why don't you look for something you can type in?

I think that if we work hard at something, relationships between nature and people will also be connected.

Radio-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

I always know that socializing with people is really difficult.

Jusei is also not a very good person to socialize with. Like Radio, it's probably someone you don't like if there is one.

I actively participated in volunteering for various civic activities and community activities until last year, so I had a lot of relationships, but since various circumstances overlapped, and I quickly restrained my external activities at the beginning of this year, I now have almost no relationships with my family and people other than temple and legal affairs, and at the same time, I feel that I am freed from some kind of complication, and at the same time, I feel a little lonely.

When I do various activities, there are times when I have to force myself to work hard even when it's not in line with my intentions, and there are times when quite a bit of time and effort is taken along with socializing, but since that was gone, I was able to concentrate on family matters, I was able to slightly increase my time reading books on Buddhism and research time on Buddhism, and I was able to work tirelessly on this Hasunoha answer, and use Facebook to gather information and disseminate information I know that there are various positive aspects, such as being able to be enhanced.

Even if you haven't met someone you've never met in particular, it can be meaningful in many ways, even if you only interact on the internet. In particular, in the case of humble life, we have been able to advance quite a bit of interaction with the monks that we have never had before on Facebook.

Various relationships are certainly important, but after all, I think it is essential to think well about relationships according to what you want to do, and what you need.

Also, conversely, socializing with people can be excessively stressful or cause trouble, so you also need to be careful.

Anyway, when it comes to relationships, if there are good relationships, of course, there are also bad relationships. While making a good assessment of that, I think in order to quickly break off bad relationships and make arrangements so that good relationships can be brought in as much as possible, along with maintaining a balanced relationship without being caught up in relationships with people, not being bogged down, and not bothered, it may also be necessary to cultivate a sense of concern and compassion for the other person as much as possible.

From there, I think it would be even better if it could be further connected to Buddhist mercy and altruism.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

　I saw Radio as someone I had a good relationship with when I got married. What's more, I think having time to do hobbies and lessons helps create a happy family. I think there were a lot of hardships after being hit by the earthquake, but they seem happy, and above all else, I'm glad.
As for the wedding, I don't think Radio made a mistake in her decision. I can't say anything about ikebana classes, but what if “they're better than ○○-san.” Did you quit even when your teacher told you the opposite?
Isn't everyone the same that there are people we don't meet when exchanging New Year's cards? Do you actually receive the letter “Please drop by when you are nearby” and go to Radio?
It's nice to have peace of mind by praying in mountains, forests, shrines and temples, and playing with my little niece. I feel like I don't have to force myself to volunteer. It's much better to do something that takes away your stress for yourself, for a happy family, and for your husband. When my husband comes home from work and my wife is worried, angry, or tired, I think the atmosphere will be disgusting.
Not only are classrooms and interacting with people positive aspects, but there are also cases where cheating is suspected. I'm a married person and I work as a caregiver on the side, but I'm just talking nicely with young women who are slightly single at work where there are a lot of women, and they say, “I use color.” It gives me a bad impression of a “suspicious relationship.” Even when I'm talking nicely with a married mature woman, nothing is said. “What is that!” There was something that made me think. “Don't get along well with young women.” I also received attention, but “What is the difference between talking on good terms with a single young woman and talking to a married mature woman on good terms?” Even when I heard it, it just went beyond words, and at the end of the day, “I don't feel comfortable with your attitude.” I was told something I didn't really understand. I understand that even though there are people with various values in modern times, there are many people who have such prejudice. Therefore, if I change who I am now and overcome my weaknesses, I think it would be better to change my personality by thinking about taking on other risks.
I think it's good to make mistakes as many times as you like, so I think it's better to always seek change as opposed to just staying the way you are. However, please be someone who can have a wider field of view.

I think relationships and relationships with people are difficult.
Depending on your age and circumstances, your way of dealing with them and your language will also vary. Being together is an uncomfortable, if not uncomfortable, atmosphere. It's getting tough, isn't it?

There was a saying they weren't able to live a life with their feet firmly on the ground, but people with extensive friendships or many hobbies are not necessarily people who live a solid life. Maybe it just looks like it's fulfilling. It's best to have friends you can forgive, even if there are few ◎

I like hanging out with my friends outside, but my husband is the tough type to hang out with people outside of work (although he is a monk). Isn't it tough to go out with all kinds of people while talking to them? I'm asking (laughs) Even with the same monk, there are many different types, and that's why they have a good balance.

I think it would be nice if you could cherish your family and friends where you can calm yourself down and feel safe without being too deeply concerned or overdoing it. If the environment changes slightly through what you like, your feelings and friends may naturally expand ♬

Conclusions first (^<^)
“A flexible mind that is neither diminished nor hurt is the time to reinstall it as your true self-esteem.”
“If you seek a truly beautiful heart that transcends comparisons with others and superiority or inferiority, beauty, and ugliness, you can live a better life that blossoms even more.”
That's what it means to seek Bodhicitta.
First, in the first place, what is really beautiful is not something we should look for from the outside, but something we should only look for in our hearts.
This is because the beautiful things created by humans in the world are the inside of the human mind revealed from the outside.
When others were beautiful and excellent, that is human.
In order for you to have the beauty you are satisfied with, you should seek the beauty of the heart: Buddha, Bodhicitta, and enlightenment.

Second, you probably don't like getting too deep into relationships with people.
I understand how you feel. There's a good way.
Let's forget that even if we continue to have relationships with people, we have relationships with others.
Of course, it's a relationship with others, but it's not about leaving it up to others, wind, or luck,
Just do yourself as your own independent self.
This is a human relationship that has firm subjectivity while interacting with people.
Of course, that's true even when I'm alone.

It seems that it is always human that we are just doing our own activities, where we are.
No matter who you deal with, you should think that it's “I'm just doing myself.”
Socializing with people is also painful because they conform to, match, and compare people.

I'm sorry for the inappropriate paraphrase, but if you are a carrot and are surrounded by pumpkin, eggplant, daikon, and bell peppers, please think that everyone is different.
Well, paprika is redder than carrots and is more gorgeous, so the flower arrangement teacher may have chosen paprika students because the red one looks great on stage. That might make you jealous.
However, carrots are richer in beta-carotene, and although paprika goes well with Thai food, carrots can be used in Japanese food, Western food, and curry more than paprika. Even the leaves can be eaten.
You must be confident in your own path, and don't give up volunteering either.

To Radio-sama

Things people don't think they are good at
Actually, a manager somewhere said that there is an opportunity to excel at it.
In particular, Radio-sama is more than the sentence “even though I like saying, talking, and laughing with people”
I thought there were plenty of opportunities for change.

As for the future
Please take a look around me once again
I want you to cherish relationships with people you really want to be in a relationship with in the future.
I would like you to take good care of it when someone who seems to be like that comes up again. Gassho