Should we stick to the denomination?

I can't say which denomination is good, but I think it's necessary to learn about the differences between denominations. In any case, as long as it is Buddhism, there is no doubt that it is familiar to the Buddha.

If you are indebted to a temple somewhere, the atmosphere of that temple is also important. Since they are monks, not everyone can be trusted, and the personality of the chief priest is also important, isn't it?

Please gather the information and discuss before making a decision.

Read books from each denomination that are easy for the general public to understand at bookstores,
There is no doubt that you will choose a denomination that is likely to scold you in the future.

I offer my condolences.
As far as I can see in your question, the temples of the Jodo sect only rent land to manage cemeteries, so there is no problem with the difference in denomination. My mother says that Namu Amida Buddha will settle down, so even if you turn it into a Jodo sect temple cemetery, you will almost never have Namu Amida Buddha at that temple. Please understand that there is a complete difference between a contract simply renting land and carrying out a religious ceremony called a memorial service. If they even hold memorial services at that temple, they probably won't accept people who aren't parishioners to their graves in the first place. There may be something like a joint memorial service, but don't worry about that. It's the same as there is no problem even if you do memorial services for disasters etc. in a cross-denomination.

Well, I've also been looking at Q&A sites for a long time, and it's not uncommon for people to get into trouble from this kind of talk. The reasons are broadly divided ① The head family thought “the branch family must be in the same sect or temple as the head family,” but they changed it without consulting at all, and I was scolded. ② I had the funeral done by a monk from another denomination who was introduced to the funeral home without being sure, and later when I asked the original temple for a memorial service, they turned it down. ③ I chose the temple recommended by the funeral home, but when I looked it up later, it was discovered that it was an ayashii temple. I don't know what to do. It's a place called.

Assuming there is nothing to be done about ③, ① and ② are of a nature where “if we thought it was our own individual problem, it wasn't like that at all.” What is particularly troublesome is that perceptions differ from region to region, household, and temple, so it would be better to at least listen to the original's thoughts. On top of that, make it clear where to ask for future memorial services first (it makes sense to ask the temple where the funeral was held. (If there are circumstances, consultation is required), then it is a good idea to decide where the grave should be located next.

My personal opinion is “by all means!” If you can find a reason for that, it would be good to decide on that, but I don't think it should be changed if it's a level where you're not particular about it and somehow... People who have been enthusiastic since the generation of grandchildren and great-grandchildren say, “We should definitely restore it!” This is because there are times when it becomes a bit confusing when you say that.

Private cemeteries are just business. Signing a contract with that means refusing to support temple culture in Japan as a whole and supporting individual cemeteries companies. There is no merit or benefit there. It's just support for individual company presidents and employees.
Temples and cemeteries don't have the religious spirit of temples and monks that do free activities to get rid of everyone's hearts like this Hasunoha site. Since it's a business, the end of money is the end of ¥yen, and the end of the contract.
So I would like you to stop using private cemeteries.
(This man is deeply concerned that Japan's temples and Buddhism are declining. We strongly oppose bone burial, cemeteries, bone scattering, tree burial, and dispatch of Amazon monks outside of temples. In fact, it has become difficult for Japanese temples to survive as a result. This is because temple culture declined, and neither Buddhism nor the Buddhist spirit were born. (Can non-religious cemeteries that accept various denominations heal people's hearts and lead to enlightenment?)
Japanese temples are made up of everyone's donation income.
There is an increase in the number of people who do not belong to temples and are entering a type of emerging religion that indirectly and quietly destroys the temple economy called cemeteries, but from the temple side, I would like you to quickly notice that such a state of affairs is throwing one stone into the fact that it has destroyed temple culture that has continued for many years.
If you enter a supermarket called a private cemetery, the income from a private store called a temple cemetery (grave, temple) will disappear.
As a result, only income from supermarkets increased, traditional shops (temples) in the region disappeared, Buddhism disappeared, such sites disappeared, the Japanese spirit and Buddhist spirit of the people disappeared, and individualism became individualized.
Don't you feel that Japan is already becoming an individualistic nation and an ego-nation with no religion? The desertification of the mind is probably progressing.
It seems cruel, but it's a truth no one says.
If you sign a contract with a cemetery, your house will have nothing to do with temple culture, and you will be in a position where you cannot support the temple, so you will feel like you have turned your back on the entire temple.
Japanese temples are supported not by people who have entered private cemeteries, but by people who have joined the temple. This is because they are being paid as an offering to the temple. Private cemetery traders are indirectly causing temples to decline in order for individuals to nourish it.
People in the temple industry are humble, so it's a truth that no one says.