Is it a cause and effect that the lives of myself and my relatives go crazy?

I saw the monks' kind answers, and I decided to ask them questions too.

First of all, from an early age, I personally experienced abandonment of childcare, abuse, etc., and if I think about it now, I have come of age without receiving discipline that seems like discipline.

There have been many things since I became an adult, but even though I got married, I was able to eat every day, and I wasn't able to have children, but even though I was small, I had a certain amount of happiness.
I think there was some help from friends and acquaintances, etc., and some effort on my own.

Last year, in preparation for my old age, I got into debt and started a business in the education support business.
The reason I chose the education support business was that I had a hard time when I was young.
So, if there are children who feel the same way, I want to help them.

However, business performance has not improved at all, and we are now in a situation where we have no funds to live, and we are unable to repay our debts.
It's already in a state where it must be folded up right away.

I think the main reason for this was my lack of study for starting a business, but other than that, there are many strange events.

For example, inexplicable phenomena occur that make people imagine “death.”
Even when I honestly implement the advice of an acquaintance, there is no response to the extent that people around me think it is strange.
I worked part-time, and even though I tried to get ahead, I failed all of them in interviews.

No matter what I do, there's no sign of getting better.

My father also failed in business, causing a situation where all my relatives ran away at night.
After that, I started a business about 2 times, but both failed, and recently there has been an uproar about getting divorced due to financial trouble.

My younger brother also made millions of debts a few years ago, and at the time I worked out attorney fees, etc., but he went missing without knowing the results.

I'm a little off topic, but my father changed his registration to an adopted son-in-law since we came of age.
I don't have children either.
My younger brother is also not married, so he still doesn't have children.
My cousins weren't married, and they weren't able to have children,

As a result, it is no longer possible to even leave “blood” for the next generation.

When this happens, I can only think of cause and effect, and honestly... I feel like there's no point even in living.

By all means, I would be happy if you could give me some advice that could lead to a solution.

Sorry for the long post.

4 Zen Responses

Life is only about me

Even if you care about others, that is also about you.
What you care about is also yours.
I have nothing but myself for the rest of my life.
That's why it's important to take care of yourself, get to know yourself, improve yourself, and clarify yourself.
Even if I say I should just do my own thing, it doesn't mean being egotistical.
The fact that you're reading this sentence right now may feel like my sentence, but it's happening to you.
Now, yesterday, and from now on, I have no choice but to thoroughly do what is above me for the rest of my life.
Even if you say you do something about an acquaintance, partner, or relative, that is also about you.
The painful experience continues, so I guess negative feelings are occurring as a defensive reaction.
I don't want to fail any more, and I don't want to have any more painful feelings, so my mind and body are being careful.

The important thing is to know everything about the other person, the things you need to do right now, anyone, and everything else you care about, “Oh, it's about me.”
If you're not able to look at things like that, you're constantly being swayed by things outside.
First, in order to reassure yourself, try unifying the problems by saying “everything that is a problem right now is my own.” Solutions for everything can be narrowed down to one.

You can sow seeds, and you can rest

I know it was difficult during my childhood when I was abandoned in childcare, was abused, etc. Also, even though it was such a painful experience, I can see that it was your own efforts that made you a great adult.

Nevertheless, it is not unreasonable to feel depressed when confronted with poor business, family, “blood,” and things that cannot be done with effort in quick succession.

If you think that there is always the word cause and effect from Nora's head, and that there is a cause for current results, you can also think of sowing good seeds now for future results. It just so happened that the harvest season wasn't right now.
Mr. Sanders, who is known for Kentucky Fried Chicken, changed jobs 40 times, and it seems that it wasn't until he was in his 60s that he started a fried chicken franchise. I'm sure Nora, who spares no effort, has good friends and acquaintances. I think we can still sow seeds from now on.

Of course, seeds also need a period where they can stand cold and dryness in the ground. The fact that you started a business by yourself probably meant that there were almost no days off. I also recommend relaxing with your wife for a while when you think of it as a resting place in a life where you have continued to run, and when you have settled down your business, you can relax with your wife for a while.

“Motivation is good, selfishness is all”

Nora

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

On the brink of whether or not to close the business... I understand your grim state of mind.

Also, if you have accumulated various painful things for yourself and those around you up until now, you will inevitably do negative research about the cause, and you will lose yourself and suffer in various ways...

For one thing, I think it is important how to face up to the real problems in reality and effectively solve each issue in order not to ignore the problem and fall into a negative chain that causes the situation to worsen any further by blaming them for something else (in particular, something that cannot be proven at all).

Regarding “cause and effect,” we have also answered the following questions until now.

Question “I was harassed by power 2 years ago, and I became an atypical 'depression.'”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/235

The question “can't we go against fate?”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/243

See the list of questions about “The Meaning of Life”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions?tag=生きる意味

I don't know much about entrepreneurship or corporate management, but large businessman Kazuo Inamori stated that “good motivation, selfishness,” and that if the motivation is good and the execution process is good, there is no need to question the results, and success will always occur. Even when starting a business based on Nora's good motives, results that meet good expectations may finally come out from now on, and even if it were to be rolled up as a result, I also knew that they would learn about Inamori Business Administration, for example, as another study opportunity.

However, in terms of Buddhism, if one wishes for certain good results and good taste in the future, it is still necessary to refrain from bad deeds as much as possible and to work hard on good deeds, and I know that the most effective path is Buddhism to lead to enlightenment and nirvana, and it is hoped that one will definitely walk that path in order to break the root of the reincarnation that continues to worry and suffer.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

What does it mean to live?

What have you learned in this life?
Did you live a life with nothing to gain?
What does it mean to live?
happy life? Succeeding at work? making children?
The Buddha threw them all away and asked what the real truth was.
And I was finally able to gain enlightenment after doing various ascetic practices.
You must have had a lot of hardships in this life,
That was also an act in a previous life, and it may have become this life.
Why don't you live the rest of your life just like there will be good things in the next life?

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