I broke up with someone I had a long distance relationship with in Japan and overseas 3 months ago. Ever since I first started dating, I thought this person was someone I would never be able to be with, but on the other hand, I was very happy during “good times.” I wanted to break up, but I still can't forget that person.
What should I do to face forward and walk well?
Did you really like that person?
Are you so sad to break up?
Are you sad enough to die?
Are you sad enough to burst into tears?
If that's the case
Cry, shed tears and cry.
Spin around and cry.
Tears wash away the sorrow in your heart.
Cry until your heart is clear.
If you do that, there's something waiting for you.
If you're not that sad, it means you were the person you were until then.
Tamago-chan
This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.
An unforgettable love... after all, I think it's precisely because it was a serious relationship that I couldn't forget it even more.
I wonder if they really didn't want to break up... but breaking up was something I wanted... I wonder if I regret it...
If you're suffering from something you can't truly forget, you'll be able to immediately forget it and move on to your next love... you probably still want to soak in the afterglow of that love somewhere, or rather enjoy the afterglow...
Between passion (“good times” are very happy) and calm (I think this person is someone I can never be with ever since I first started dating)... how should I maintain a balance between emotion and reason...
Feelings are certainly important. However, if only emotions take precedence, the risk of leading to bad behavior increases. Therefore, it is necessary for reason to put the brakes on emotions and control them.
I think Tamago-chan probably put a brake on her emotions due to her current relationship, and she made the decision to break up on her own.
How can I face forward and walk well? ・・
I know it will still take some time to look forward. Right now, I'm still immersed in the afterglow of that love, and I think it would be good to have fun. There are times when time resolves things little by little. And, on the other hand, you've probably also been given a lot of freedom, both mentally and physically. Taking advantage of that freedom, you can enjoy traveling, shopping, and leisure with friends and acquaintances, and even going out to various places to meet people.
Right now, of course, it may still be unthinkable, but... I think the best medicine for a broken heart is a new love.
Eventually, I'll be able to look back on this heartbreak later, saying that this heartbreak was necessary to seize happiness, and it would be nice if I could turn it into a good memory.
I pray for Tamago-chan's happiness.
※ P.S. Of course, a new love includes a second love with someone you have broken up with.
Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho
The medicine works well.
Time will resolve it. It's a metaphor for saying that.
This one is the best.
Good evening.
I don't have much experience in love, but I understand how you feel as the same woman.
It's about how to be positive, and I don't think we need to forget it.
In my case, I try to think that the reason I am now is because I have spent time with that person even though we have broken up.
Also, thinking that there are people you only meet because you broke up may be a positive way to feel positive.
The feeling I read from you was that rather than loving that person, they felt romantic in a long distance relationship, and neither did they feel like they were tired or tired of that long distance relationship.
But if you can't forget the three months, you should meet in person and make a difference. What emotions do you think at that time
① “You thought the same thing. After all, this person is the only one. We're already married.” That's a lot of momentum.
② “Eh! I've already found a new lover. I'm also going to find new encounters.” A fresh start.
③ “I saw it when we met, but it wasn't as exciting as that time. I wonder if this person wasn't meant to be.” A Fresh Start Part 2
Is it like this? Tamago-chan lives overseas, so it takes time and money to go see her ex. Therefore, I think it would be a bit difficult to go see them, so be sure to assume various results and go see them. If you don't like it, you should forget about it and enjoy your current life to the fullest.
People tend to look for things they don't have, but doing what is there now results in connecting relationships, so let's cherish today over tomorrow than yesterday.
It was such a wonderful love that you can't forget even if you break up.
They say you'll be beautiful when you're in love, but there's no woman as charming and nice as a broken heart ◎
Keep your memories in your heart and enjoy new encounters ♬
I want them to have lots and lots of wonderful love.
I'm sure you'll be happier now (*^^*)
The lyrics of the ❝ people I want to meet ❞ Nishino Kana from the era ❝ I've met too many times ❞ were a hot topic on the internet.
I recommend that you read it in order to calm yourself down.
First of all, what is the “inside” of I Can't Forget, I Want to Meet...
Under the label of romance, there are various regret apps for humans: obsession, compensation, sense of loss, stimulation, complexes, desire, honor, ○○ desire, regret, simply impact.
As a human being, it's important to take a good look at it.
If there really is love, is it OK to make such an easy decision, even if it's Dobone in Water in Fire ♡?
One more thing you must not forget is that you're on fire, moe, and yet we're insanely stupid. It's a third-party standpoint, so it's a sight to see from above. I just “cool down” and watch things in a cool way. (^<^)
I mean! That's why! Really take another breath, calm down, and properly judge people's opinions ❝ without interpreting them conveniently ❞! That's it.
This is because those who seriously take the opinions of silly people will make the right decisions in the future.
In reality, the emotion called affection has an expiration date of about 2 years.
It will eventually cool down, so it cannot be a lifelong feeling of salvation, but it is a material for deciding whether it is appropriate as a future partner.
What is frightening is the horror of irresponsible affection that still makes you lose your reason and makes Moe rise.
Then, first of all, we have to be more calm and thoroughly face to face with love than him.
I think it would be better to get rid of the heat with a cold pit or an ice pillow and seriously think carefully, super carefully about whether it is desirable to get back together with him.
conclusions
① “If you think rationally about whether you should get back together while being overcome by your own feelings, your true heart will tell you the answer.”
② “However, wanting to meet is not the answer. It's a feeling (feeling) that I want to meet = I want to meet, and whether it's eternal love or not is a completely different thing ⇒ see Nishino Kana, the “person I want to meet”
③ “That's why I go out with and face my own feelings” are three points above.
The temple is always open, even if you're heartbroken, so please do whatever you like. (^^)
To Tamago-chan
I think it's really hard right now.
However, there is no need to force yourself to look forward.
That's because I want to do that now...
Accept an unforgettable reality.
And then I go about my days.
Due to this repetition, such a day will surely come someday. Gassho