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Unsure about marriage and relationships

I have a boyfriend that I'm dating now. We've been in a relationship for less than a year, but I'm also thinking about getting married at age 25. There are still more things I want to do, and I don't think I want to do it right away.
He's so kind, and he's so fun that I don't think there's anyone else, but honestly, his salary is low, and it's expected that his life will be quite difficult when you think about it. Also, above all else, I really don't like body odor... is it OK to feel this way now? He told me that children who don't think about the future will cool down, and that if you can't think about marriage, tell me as soon as possible.
How about we keep dating like this?

4 Zen Responses

Get married to share hardships

Everyone is wrong about the purpose of marriage.
It's not about being happy.
The two get married in order to overcome hardships.
“I want to struggle with this person”
You should marry someone who thinks that.
If you're thinking about getting married because it's fun to be together or because you don't have money concerns
It's “pretending to be married.”

Raising conditions and choosing people based on profit and loss ❌

Really take a close look at that person and decide if you want to get married. People always have a lot of points where they feel inferior when compared to others. Please remove such comparisons and gains and losses and look at that person themselves to decide.

If body odor is also unbearable, there is no choice but to tell them so that they don't get hurt, have them take care of them, or break up.
Above all else, if you can't accept him, you have no choice but to break up.

It's better to stop a marriage where you have a lot of anxiety

There's plenty of sense that they're compromising.
That is the real intention. Yeah, let's break up soon.
The sooner the better.
Even if you drag on for a long time, it just makes your opponent look forward to it.
It's tough getting married because I know it's going to be financially difficult, even for your kids.
I'm also a Bomby, but anyway, Japan today is a world where money is expensive.
No matter how you get married in the future, don't set the best state in your head.
If you have a strong sense of expectation and vision, a repulsive feeling like this one will occur. ('▽`*)

Will it get bigger someday

 Well, those who are concerned about body odor. I think it's better to stop it.
Of course, the body itself is clean and dirty, but apparently it essentially depends on the type of bacteria or something that lives on the skin (in other words, it doesn't seem like he itself smells bad).
So, the person himself is the owner, so to speak, so to speak, so to speak, so to be aware, but people around them have bent noses (of course, there are times when bacteria on the woman's side...). Mostly one-sided.
I did a little research on the mechanism around there, and if you were convinced after treating it, it probably wasn't “bad”... It seems that the sense of smell was originally developed to know “how dangerous food is,” so that's it. It is directly linked to “disgusting, dangerous, dangerous.”
However, this is a standard for Japanese people who like cleanliness, so if they are people outside of Japan, it seems like “that's natural,” so (if your partner is a foreigner), there's probably no better way to do something yourself.
However, as Master Tange says, “a lot of anxiety” is a type that takes root deep underground and one day causes “something” to bloom or explode with Bones. It's not something we can handle now, and it's a matter of scraping or applying fertilizer when they sprout.