I'm about to be crushed by my mother's sense of responsibility

I always think in my head that it's okay for my family to die at any time, and I have an obsessive idea that I might die or I might die. In particular, when cooking meals for the second son, leftover detergent will become toxic, and the second son will die, isn't it? When you put a sweater close to the fire in the second son's room, the sweater will burn out later, and the second son's room will catch fire, right? I only worry about really ridiculous things. My eldest son doesn't have that much, but he's worried about death the same thing. How can we escape this suffering? Thank you for your support.

3 Zen Responses

vitality

If you want old people to die fast, be kind
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This is a phrase that shows that those who treat them harshly are full of vitality.
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Maybe your love is self-love rather than family love.
I'm afraid my heart will be hurt by losing my family.
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It is said that the lion will push his child to the bottom of the valley. I'm sure you understand this love.
It's tough because I want my child to grow up.
I prioritize my child's growth over my fear as a parent that my child might fall to the bottom of the valley and die. There is confidence in my child's strong vitality.
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Your family has strong vitality. The fact that my husband has survived is proof above all else. That kid can't be weak.
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Let's raise our children to be strong.

Don't be swayed by crazy fantasies

It's all just happening in your head, or rather, you're triggering your own thoughts and strangling yourself by them.

There's no such thing as worrying “what should I do when my stomach is full” before eating so unable to eat.
If I were to do that, I wouldn't be able to live. If you walk, you might fall. Or, even if you just think that an earthquake might occur, it's nothing.

If it happens as a fact right in front of you, just respond silently to it. Even if you don't do anything, dust will accumulate in the room. If dust builds up, just shut up and clean up. You won't be afraid of dust piling up from the area you've cleaned.

Clean it when it gets dirty. “Why did this happen.” or “See you again.” You don't need to add anything like that.

Please value only the facts so as not to be fooled by “delusions” that seem to be mistaken for such additional facts. “What if...” is a meaningless delusion. “What if...” I'll graduate.

To escape from death is to live

Wild animals spend most of their lives escaping the fear and hunger of their natural enemies.
Isn't that normal for living things?
Fear is painful, but I think living is a relationship with that kind of fear.

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