I can't have children due to infertility treatment

The two of us had discussions over and over again. My wife cried over and over again because she wanted children. And the kid decided to give up.
We both got married in our 40s, and we decided to live happily while snuggling up for the latter half of our lives.
I tried not to touch on the topic of babies and children as much as possible.
It was winter 4 years later.
My wife is lonely, so I asked for a three-month-old kitten and named her Mi-chan.
“Mi-chan baby. Mi-chan baby.” and.
My wife, who was talking to the kitten as if she were holding her own child, showed a really happy face.
I couldn't speak anymore.
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I have no regrets now that I've decided to give up.

Somehow, the living environment doesn't seem to be good. It seems like the pressure from dad is more difficult than anything else. Children are meant to be given. It's probably not something that anyone can do or make.

Above all, the mental burden seems to have a negative effect. I think infertility treatment is very difficult. Maybe I'll have to give up at some point. At that time, what I want you to know is that you definitely don't have to have children. And that means the responsibility doesn't lie with you. It's nobody's fault.

You might also have to think a little bit about living with your dad.

My wife and I are both remarried.

One of the reasons for my first marriage was not being able to have children.

My wife came with her 2 children, and although she worked hard for over 10 years, there was no sign at all.

That is also true; when I did the test, my sperm survival rate was less than 10% of normal.

As soon as I took it easy to enjoy my life,
2 people were given.

The doctor said it was a miracle in a sense.

It might be something like that.

If you stop and take a deep breath, something might change.

It's fine.

You might be wondering what men you know, but excuse me.
I would be grateful if you could listen to it in order to reduce suffering.
No matter how much pain people are facing, there are times when they forget it.
There are a lot of things that don't go the way I want them to either.
I learned that suffering increases by wishing “I want this to happen” when things don't go the way I want them to.
If things don't turn out the way you want them to, it's very important to say it now.
What doesn't go the way you want it is [not going the way you want it].
And that's the truth.
It doesn't matter if you're selfish if you don't have children.
However, as a cause and effect of increased suffering, there is a “feeling that I want things to turn out the way I want them to be.”
The stronger this is, the more disappointment, disappointment, and loss you will be hit by when that's not the case.
Please, when you want children in the future, dare to hope for them without having too strong expectations or strong wishes.
Sometimes that works. It is also important to accept that your father-in-law did not say it in that sense, but in the sense that you should not want anything as strongly as you would like.
This is because you won't be able to apply strength to your body.
Whether to be given or not given cannot be decided by our will.
Even if 90% doesn't go as expected, the possibility that you will be given a change in both your mental and physical environment by increasing 10% of your strength may increase.
I think my body is stiff due to the feeling that if you don't receive it at any cost, you have to be given it. I think people even think they have no value.
Please relax your strength. To do that, they leave it up to God, Buddha, and heaven without thinking “I want to receive it.”
You may not receive it because of that.
Even so, I think you'll be able to see that it's something you want without having a strong desire.
Please don't want with your own wishes, and go ahead without wishes.