What is the sky? Is seeking love again?

Study, soccer, popularity. From my elementary school days, when everything was best, I experienced setbacks for the first time after going up to junior high school.
Why doesn't the director recognize me, and why isn't my favorite kid loved me? I continued to worry about it for over a year, and the conclusion I came to when I was 14 was to “turn to the giving side.”
When happiness is placed on receiving approval or love, one's own happiness is always influenced by the judgment of others. I thought I could control my happiness if I could make it a pleasure to give to others instead of wanting it.
Then, when I put that way of life into practice, strangely enough, success, approval, and love that I had wanted and couldn't get until then began to flow into my own hands.
I remember being a little scared in such a state, and if you don't save what you have gained and give it to your surroundings as soon as possible, something more than that will always come in again. I objectively view that they have lived a very blessed life until now due to such a cycle.

question ①
Recently, isn't this cyclical effect (when you empty yourself, color comes in) the essence of the sky, or color, as described in Buddhism? I've come to think about it. How about it?

question ②
My wife points out that “you are running away from being loved.” Certainly, I can see that the moment I seek love from my wife, my own stability of mind, which I have built by not asking for it, collapses.
However, as my wife said, I have begun to think that seeking love is also love.

We would love to hear your opinions on whether we should go beyond giving and asking.

4 Zen Responses

Your outlook on life is amazing! I totally agree. As for the interpretation of the sky, I think that is exactly “sky,” and it can be interpreted in an infinite number of ways. I myself understand that life is the essence of the universe, which can change the existence of the world in any way through thoughts. It's not a traditional interpretation, though.
My wife thinks, “I want my wife to seek love.” So, asking for love from a wife is love in this case, isn't it?

It's there even if you ask for it. So, it's refreshing.

You're not looking for love, but you're loved. And I return my love to my wife again. Great practice. It really is the heart of charity.

The sky is exactly what it was at the beginning. It can be said that it is a fresh and refreshed state. It's also very important that you don't ask the other person. They accept love from their wife as it is, without good or bad, and return it to their wife. That's great.

It looks like it's well-ventilated

　Well, the weather is clear, or rather, they are blessed with a wonderful relationship, and I feel that they are practicing impermanent conduct (sorry for the expression looking at things from above).
As for the sky, in my opinion, rather than “because you are the sky,” I feel that a virtuous cycle is occurring “when everything is empty, because you are watching.”
As for conversations with your wife, do you feel “I want my husband to receive more (I want them to be spoiled)” from the phrase “I'm running away from being loved”? I'm guessing that. If the wife says “I want you to receive it,” she takes it without saying 4 out of 5 and returns “thank you.” Are you sensing the context of “You've received it, so you can return it next time, right?”
Actually, I don't want much from my wife either. That's probably because I don't like cases where “you can't get it even if you ask for it.” “But that's fine too. If it's easy to accept that “the wife is convenient for the wife,” isn't it okay to spoil it from time to time? I'm guessing that the feeling of “I want you to be spoiled” is definitely on the wife's side.

I wonder if it would be good to have a relationship where both are given

When you empty yourself, colors come in
It's the coolest and most empty interpretation.
I can't help but say it's not right, and it's definitely not wrong.
By emptying yourself, everything shines.
This is exactly the case.
Since I'm zero or nothing, I can get ALL.
Originally, the sky is nothing like who is a flower or who you are a color.
If you follow the sky, you will turn your back on the sky.
Maybe it's the sky or the color, really, I don't need to have one.

In Buddhism, not falling into thought can be said to be a way of life in line with the Buddhist way of life.
If I think this, and I've decided to do this, it's not the sky, but rather the sky I'm trying to do.
I think it would be nice to get rid of it and live in pure love.
There is no need to compromise when it comes to couples who love each other.
That is true love.
Will children ask their parents for something in return from their children?
When it comes to the kind of relationship you seek, it becomes conditional love away from your original love.
Your presence is a blessing to her.
The mere presence of her should be a blessing for you too.
That kind of loving relationship is a free love.
Let's remember that between parents and children.
Whether or not you can be more than a parent and child means that you really become a family to your wife.
Starting tonight, the couple will have a good attainment of Buddhism. ♡

← all dialogues ← previous next →