It doesn't work well with people on social media

I'm sorry for the social media relationships, but please let me talk to you.

I often feel bad about the internet.
even though they want to make promises with just words and not attitudes
I don't like every promise because of how many people break it.
I've come to trust people who show and protect with their attitude, but I can't trust the other person unless they show it.

I feel uncomfortable because of the lack of words that can't be helped even if misunderstood in the way people use words or the way they are conveyed, and “because they seem happy or not” which sound disgusting due to typographical errors

Once I put up with them, I decided not to watch them, but when the other person repeated them over and over again, I would go to the limit and tell the person myself.

Then the other party denies this personality and accuses them of misunderstanding it.
Even now, I don't think I want to get involved with that person again as a disrespectful person
I'm being harassed behind the scenes by that person.

Also, there are people who blamed me and ran away when the other party had no consideration for this, and when they confided their dissatisfaction to the other party when their patience ran out.

I really regretted not having said it back then, and I was having a hard time.
As the months and days went by, it was still rude to the other person. And I still don't think I like the person who blamed me and ran away, and I don't want to see them again.
I began to think I couldn't believe my partner.
But if I could talk, I would be lonely if I wanted to.

I want to have a fun and peaceful time, but I feel disgusted by social media with people who have had bad feelings in the past.
But I want to have fun with other people and in that place.
You can't do anything without moving forward. My motivation has dropped, and I only remember bad things. I also began to be harassed
I may be able to let go of my current SNS and start with another account even though I may be able to find it

How can we forgive those who feel uncomfortable in the past
As long as you can't forgive them, discomfort will remain forever, and you will look at your partner with disdain. I don't want to think like that

Is it right for me to feel uncomfortable even once on SNS?
It was an explosion I've been putting up with all this time
I wonder if I couldn't do it when I exploded, or should I just keep putting up with it and go through pretending not to watch

When I think about that, I'm horrified and I don't understand social media relationships, and it's scary.
What should I do

4 Zen Responses

Invisible Feelings

There is a sense of secrecy among the virtues of the Japanese people.
Feelings of Sokuin (Sokuin no Jo)
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It means I don't want to. Listen to one and know ten. This is something only the Japanese people can do, even if you look around the world.
Meanwhile, in the West, it is said that ten is necessary to convey one's worth. In the West, people don't actively try to understand their partner. The attitude is to use your best words if you want them to understand.
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Even when Japanese people speak a single foreign language overseas, they say “you don't know what you're saying.” However, when the Japanese people hear the Japanese language in a nutshell from a foreigner, this person probably wants to say this? I make an effort to arrive at what the other person wants to say while actively imagining it.
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What is important on SNS is that kind of compassion.
Not only do you look at the characters superficially, but if you take care to know the true meaning, you don't have to be misled by the characters even if typographical errors and omissions continue.
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Thinking about the other person's feelings, hidden feelings
Why don't you think about it?

Anger is the cause of trouble and suffering

In Buddhism, we believe that worry is the cause of worry and suffering.
Greed, anger, laziness, pride, etc. are afflictions.
The anguish of anger is the cause of worry and suffering.
The obsession that I don't want to be on good terms with the person I had a fight with yesterday is an affliction of pride, and this is also the cause of trouble and suffering.
It takes a great deal of reason and concentration to change the angry self yesterday and become a merciful self, but what gets in the way of that is the worry of laziness.
When you're frustrated, what you want to say back to your partner is the worry of greed.
First, isn't it important to be aware of your own worries?
I want to be able to get along well today, even with the person I had a fight with yesterday.
There is an episode of The Great Monk, and it seems that the monk laughs in the same way whether he listens to the gag he heard yesterday today or every day.
In other words, every day is fresh.
Even if it's someone you don't like, you should stay fresh and polite as if you had met them for the first time after a night's sleep.
Note, when it comes to reason and emotion, emotions are stupid, so let's prioritize reason over emotion.
Make a habit of scanning your heart's worries by chanting “well, good, good.”

Let's stop SNS

Due to such characters, my thoughts are inflated, correct information is not conveyed, and it's messy...
I think it's common. How did the other person feel about sending it? What kind of expression did she have? I don't understand that.
It is important to make appointments over the phone or in person while listening to voices. If you fully understand the risks of SNS and don't understand that it is like that somewhere, you will fail due to assumptions.
If you're swayed around and can't get along well, it's best to stop using SNS.

Everything is temporary

Both that comment and that feeling are for that time limit.
It's the same as a poster or poster, and when you're not looking at it, it doesn't function or act in your brain.
However, once you have seen a poster in your head over and over again, the inside of your head will be filled with that.
Please know that any thought is limited to that time, place, and situation.
Nothing lasts forever.
I just have myself to chew it over and over again and perpetuate it, and my actual real partner is doing other things these days.
Point: Tell yourself so you don't think about it over and over again.

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