Will I be able to have a good relationship with him?

I came to Nagasaki from Goto in Nagasaki prefecture when I was in middle 1.

When I was in Goto, I had a temple and 2 Christian churches close to my house, and now it's a strange feeling, but I often went to both.

Since I came to Nagasaki City, I wasn't allowed to go back to Goto at all, and time just went by with Obon, the equinox, and New Year's.
I remember visiting temples and shrines only 3 times: during a school excursion, high school entrance exam, and during group counseling.

Then I found someone I liked. His job is a monk, and it seems that his religion is the Jodo Shinshu sect.

My head was full when they told me something I didn't understand at all and had never touched at all. I was very uneasy.

“I'm sorry. I was afraid to say, “I'm not sure.”

Recently, little by little, I've become a little interested in his work.
I didn't go so far as studying, but I also began to look up what those words he was saying on the internet were. For example, a disciple or something.

But doesn't he feel uneasy because he doesn't even go to pray on New Year's and he likes me because he's not involved in any religion?
I'm very worried.

4 Zen Responses

He's fine

That anxiety isn't his anxiety; it's anxiety caused by yourself.
It's okay if there are things you don't know. There are probably few people who fervently believe in religion in Japan today. That's not something to worry about.

It would be nice if you honestly learn what you care about while dealing with him.
What does that mean? Tell me You should just ask.

One more thing, a monk seems to be a job, and it's that person's way of life. I don't know if he is a monk by occupation, but it is also true that people have different attitudes about that area.

The kindest guy in the world

Monks live according to the Buddha's teachings. So is he.
That's why he's the kindest man in the world. don't worry.

It's OK if neither of them prioritize their positions

The essence of things is not outside of religion; if this body and mind take religious actions, they only become religious.
When a monk and his wife fight, it's not a religion, but a fight.
If a monk does comedy, he's a comedian.
If a monk thieves, then a thief.
They are people who just sleep when they sleep, even if they say it's Buddhism or Christianity.
He and you don't have titles or denominations when you sleep.
Please look at them as just people.
The field that happens to be treated as a position is in such a position, and in essence, even if it is called Buddhism, it is not an idea, but a position or sect.
If you make that far, you can rest assured that no matter what kind of person you are dealing with, you can treat each other on an equal footing.
The Buddha did not say “I am a Buddhist.” Buddhism is that kind of religion, so Buddhism is not just a type of thought.
If you like him, don't determine your partner's humanity by title or position, just because your partner is from the 00 denomination.

From things we don't understand

I see, you've made someone you like. I think that's a wonderful thing.
I think this can be said for any couple, but even if they are Japanese people, what they have in common is that “both can use Japanese.” In other words, “what they have in common is that the threads that connect each other are initially so thin.” If it was well received, there was probably something I could sympathize with. I think what we are going to increase and find is a “relationship.”
So, “I don't understand this. Asking “I want you to tell me” is a very positive activity. When you grow up in a temple, you naturally become a person who carries that view of the world. There are also a lot of special words. Trying to convey it to others again will, as a result, flesh out his thoughts and beliefs. I am grateful for people who ask me questions again and give me a new perspective that I didn't really doubt.
In the process, of course, you will also face the values embedded in yourself. It would be nice if we could expand our value capacity in that way.

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