It's about grandma.

Good evening, Yuri.

I belong to the baseball club and most of my long vacations are practice. Plus, study. Polish yourself.
Plus a part-time job. It's tough.

It's about grandma.
It's painful. I want Grandma to stay well.

If there is something that comes before, why don't you use it? So is money and time. There is someone saying that free time is time that can be created...
However, when it comes to whether you should use anything... how about?
The deciding factor for what to do... is where your feelings go.

Are resources wasted? Don't you want to see reality? busy? Do you want to do your best to face it seriously?
You should be able to make excuses for yourself.
When it comes to “excuses,” the direction seems bleak and bad, but “justification” is fine.
It seems like you need to be prepared no matter what. Of course, it would be a good idea to go there for now! If I'm at a loss, I'll do it once.

Next, how should I call out...
Grandma, are you totally on that side?
Aren't you leaving a little bit of consciousness on this side?
Grandma must have left her consciousness for us. Let's wait for that time. You don't have to call out. Be patient and stay by your side. I think it's a matter of waiting.

Yuri seems to have a lot of trouble.
This time, I'm asking you about the relationship between your grandmother and yourself.

You're thinking that you want your grandmother to spend your money rather than your own life. I'm sure they will love you a lot and have lots of memories. That's probably why you have such a kind feeling, and it made me feel so warm.

My grandson's name, which didn't come up six months ago, is coming up this time. I don't know the details of my grandmother's symptoms, but there is also something called “mottled dementia.” The way dementia develops may also change day by day depending on physical condition, etc.

But apart from what comes up as words and doesn't come up, I'm sure you understand Yuri deep in your brain and in the depths of your heart. Rather than saying “how to call out,” I think it's better to just go by, hold hands, and listen to them talk over and over again.

Why don't you go and meet them to the extent that you don't overdo it? I think grandmothers give “life lessons” to their grandchildren through their own appearance.

Nice to meet you, Yuri. My name is Hasegawa Tetsuma. Thank you for your support.

My grandmother is demented, so it's painful to be able to forget her name even though she's an immediate family member. But it's a common story. My grandmother was in that situation too. The aunt (eldest son's wife from the grandmother's point of view), who took care of me the best, said, “Who are you?” When asked once in a while, they laughed and talked. The person himself may be shocked, but telling a funny story is probably the best way to calm his feelings. After all, there seems to be unevenness, and it seems like it wasn't always the case.

In my personal opinion, I feel like the human mind is divided into layers. The top layer is the mind that leads a social life, and I feel like there is a child's heart underneath, and an animal's heart further down. More deeply, I think there is a heart that genuinely remembers experiences without making judgments. (I tried to realistically understand the idea of wisdom in Buddhism.)

Well, did Yuri's grandmother completely forget Yuri? For my part, I just don't think I can make a decision. Right now, I can't determine that the person in front of me is Yuri. Humans cannot erase what they have experienced. So, even if Grandma doesn't call you “Yuri-kun,” contact with Yuri remains an experience in Grandma's heart. Whether or not you can express that as “Yuri-kun” in words depends on how things are going at that time. Without fail, Yuri's words have reached Grandma's heart. Also, for Yuri, it is very important to treat her with love, thinking that her words will always reach her grandmother's heart.

I think it is the role of old people in this world to show how they grow old. I think the last role of those who are dying is to show how they are dying. Grandma's role is to show Yuri how old she is. “Yuri-kun, humans always get old, so cherish every day.” My grandmother told me that. Please go see your grandmother so she can tell me about it. If Yuri learns something from her grandmother's appearance, her old age and dementia will not be wasted, and it will be meaningful.

Did you get the answer?
I hope to see you again.

Humans get dementia as they get older, and when you look at it from your surroundings, it's okay to say anything! It seems that they “understand.”
There are many attendants who think it's okay because they're out of touch and talk about things they shouldn't have done, but it seems that they “understand” properly.
It seems that they are also properly equipped with emotions.

Even when parents speak with the intention of “children don't understand anyway,” it seems that children have the ability to properly “understand” and capture what is being done there in their own way.
It is then that we treat each person equally as a person's life.
I think that is “dignity” that should be treated without discrimination, whether it is a small child or an elderly person.
Life faces life, and you're with someone even if you don't talk to them. Something is happening within each other just because of that.
Wouldn't it be enough just to stay by my side and do that “something”?
I think human sensitivity, love, and compassion can only be cultivated in such circumstances.
I think that's where you “understand” the most.
Please “understand.” Try to feel like an “understanding” grandmother.
This is your parent's “mom.” You're sure to get something amazing.

Hello, Yuri. In response to this question, I thought about various things over and over again with myself.
Actually, my grandfather is currently in the hospital with dementia. My grandfather, who was very kind, quickly became a different person, and the family was very difficult at first. At first, I thought it would be better if I went to see my grandfather's face while he was frequently hospitalized... However, as the teachers who answered say, “they show me firsthand that 'old' is like this, and they are close to it to a reasonable extent.” I think it's important to say that. When I think I have to do something about it, my mental and physical limits quickly come. My deceased grandmother was bedridden for 10 years, and my mother, who was taking care of that care, fell down over and over again, went to the hospital herself, and almost died over and over again. I'm watching that figure, so I think it would be nice if Yuri also cares about her family and can snuggle up to the extent she can.