Anxiety about the child's future

Mr. Kozue, my name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an.
Thank you for your support.

I felt uneasy, and I read it carefully.
The present age, where various problems are piled up, and the future where they will be carried over. I understand that the feelings of parents thinking about their children living in the future are extremely frustrating.

... but your child is living and growing.
And parents cannot continue to protect their children.

In every era, human beings have problems and suffering.
Please pour all your love to your grown child so that they can overcome these afflictions in a strong and supple manner. Please tell them “You are a treasure” and “You are the Sun.”
I think children who grow up loving will have a stronger ability to look forward and believe in themselves.

I think that is the greatest gift a parent can give their child.

I'm in the middle of raising a child.
Parents wish for happiness and place expectations on their children as they grow day by day. Everyone is like that. Me too, of course. What kind of child will they become ~ What kind of world will it become ~

If you look at newspapers and news, you can see incidents and accidents involving children, as well as anxiety about environmental issues and social conditions. We adults also worry about our old age, so I'm sure the future will always be worrying.

Child-rearing moms have been nervous ever since pregnancy and delivery, and I think they also have invisible fatigue.
Today's infancy is more difficult than baby's infancy.

Raising children is not something for a single mom to worry about, and in reality, the ideal environment is for the community and society to raise children who will lead the future. Then, mom wouldn't have that much trouble, though.

Let's talk about various things with mom's friends and garden teachers. If you have friends who are raising children together, and if you have friends with whom you can share the same concerns, your anxiety will probably be relieved.

My kids are elementary school students. As compulsory education began, new worries increased again. That's because I'm worried too~ every time, I change my mind positively while talking about various things with people in the same environment◎

I want to be a mother who can always accept my children.
Even if they are not strictly disciplined, children will grow up properly just by showing their parents' actions and attitudes. So don't try too hard, it's fine as it is now ◎

Please always be a smiling mother (*^^*)

　From my point of view as a history lover, parents from any era said the same thing. Simply put, you're not alone. More than that, what should we do in this era? what to do. You should think about what you can do, and when you're older, ask your kids too.
Do you know this story?
A public plan for burning wooden Buddha by Tanka Tennen Zenji. On a cold day, Tanka burned a wooden Buddha to keep warm, but since someone else scolded it, that person said “burn it and remove the bones (bones) from the wooden Buddha.” However, since that opponent says, “There is no way that you can get any relief from the wooden Buddha,” Tanka responds, “If that's the case, there's no reason to blame me.”
In this story, after thinking about what to do for people on a cold day when there is no charcoal or firewood to keep the hearth warm, and what exactly is the priority in this situation, I burned the Buddha in a wooden statue. In order to quietly rebel against what was blamed without knowing people's feelings, they made a public plan as described above and admonished them.

I'm not rich.
He doesn't have a handsome face either.
Motor nerves are sluggish.
There are no temples, no parishioners, no graveyards, nothing. (I'm just managing the hall in the photo)
But I know what wealth is.
That's a tough way of saying it, but it's probably not what you're trying to instill.
You know that too, so I posted it on this site.
But “what is wealth?” I don't understand that.
In a nutshell, it's about being able to smile. Like me, there is a way of life where you can thoroughly enjoy life even when you're being chased by money due to bad luck. That is Buddhism.
It means getting to know yourself, and knowing your true form. It means living one's own life without interfering with others.
Your real problem right now is “I can't convey the richness of your heart because you don't have a rich heart.” I think so.
The path to wealth that you need now
First, don't “me” your child.
Don't cut branches back and forth like bonsai or potted plants.
Don't scold this or that just because you don't like it.
It means you notice yourself imposing something on you.
All kids learn by experimenting with it, even if it seems dirty.
Parents scold them because it's inconvenient for parents.
It's the hardest thing for kids. Therefore, they are taking the best ingredients that can make you rich.
So you must first enrich your mind.
If you have a rich heart, you'll start to think “I want to be smiling like my mother.” By the way, my mom is often nervous. I don't think that's going to happen.
This is also because children learn by themselves. I think that's the case when you have a nice smile. Parents have to overcome the fact that even though children are children of their parents, they are learning properly as individual beings independent of their parents, even if it is difficult.
That means they don't “me” children.
I will give children independence and help them only when they are in trouble.
“Children are not raised by parents. It's growing up.”

Kozue-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

Raising children... I know there is no shortage of worries. My son is still young, Mark... I'm having a lot of trouble.

Anyway, I know that until they turn 20, they will fulfill their responsibilities as parents and be able to do the minimum and as much as possible for them, but I think that the rest of their lives will depend on the independence of the children and their own devotional efforts.

Well, there are answers from all of you, but I think it will not change to a world where there is no shortage of similar worries and suffering, big or small, in any era.

Anyway, what comes first and foremost is “now.” No, “right now, right?” We are also happy to answer the following questions about the same thing.

The question “is it now or in the future?”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/21

“As for the future, rather than worrying about the future by thinking and worrying about things that haven't come yet, think about the happiness of children “now,” do what you can do as parents, of course, have minimal discipline so that they can live morally and ethically in society, don't impose too much on parents' expectations and hopes, and while being attentive, so that they don't give them too much stress and have a distorted personality, while being attentive and enjoying raising children “now.” I know that by the time you stand on your own, a good future will naturally come.”

Of course, in the case of a humble student, he is still not the chief priest, but there are aspects where he inevitably looks at his own children as successors to the temple... but now there is no point in thinking about such decades from now, and no one can know what will happen to each of them in a few decades, or what will happen to the world, Japan, and society, etc., so there is no choice but to think about it.

Anyway, I would like to try to make sure that I can spend every day safely and with peace of mind while watching my actual “now,” “this time,” and “today, day by day” growth.

There is also the term “Qi Yu,” but I hope that Mr. Kozue also thinks about raising children in the real “now” without falling into an uneasy state by thinking too much about the future.

I sincerely pray for your child's safe growth.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho