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About heirs

They got married in 2012 and are raising two girls.
There is also the wife of the deputy chief priest, so I'm worried that she wasn't able to give birth to a boy

However, since we don't originally like children, we have no plans to give birth in the future.
After all, does the heir have to be a boy?

I can't tell girls to roll up their heads... I know that's selfish, but I'd like your words.

Incidentally, people around you have a declining birthrate and aging population, so it's impossible to get adopted children from other temples

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We don't have children.

Nice to meet you. Hello.
I'm the chief priest at a temple in Tokyo, but there is also a separate temple from my parents' house, and I plan to take over that too.
We don't have children, and we are also asked about it by parishioners, but they answered that the hereditary succession of temples apparently began when monks got married after the Meiji period, and originally disciples took over, so if there is a good relationship, they will welcome them as successors.
Or, the young lady may also grow up and say she wants to take over, and she may marry someone who can inherit her.
Your married partner may be concerned about that.
I think there are many possibilities.
What does the husband, who is the deputy chief priest, think?
In my case, I'm not particular about genetics at all.
I think it's important to operate it as a temple where a young lady, adopted child, or someone would like to take over.
My wife is also in her 30s and I think they are close in age. (I'm just past 40)
Let's work to be a good temple for each other.

It's a pity that just because a boy was born is a successor

In the first place, it would be better to stop thinking about hereditary inheritance. The temple is not personal property. So it doesn't matter who comes along. If you think about it comfortably, if your daughter takes over, that would be fine, you might get married to a monk, and there is also a way for the deputy chief priest to raise disciples in the future and have them take over from that person. You don't have to worry about it now.

I'm from home.

The former chief priest of the temple I am currently taking care of has no children,
As a relative, I took the lead and entered the temple.

The number of female chief priests is increasing now,
Since Motoyama's education system is also substantial,
Don't worry if you're from home.

Rather than worrying about the next generation
Take good care of the temple now,
Let's make it a temple that makes people want to take over.

Problems with human consciousness

In the end, it is a question of whether those who became chief priests and religious believers can have a good relationship with each other. On top of that, it's just a matter of deciding which risks to avoid and which ones to take on.

It is probably true that Japan has traditionally made it a culture where risks can be minimized if boys take over. But when it comes to risk, in the end, older men tend to say, “It's not fun to bow to the chief priest younger than myself, but women aren't extra interesting!” It's an unconscious view of discrimination.

In an age where Aiko ascends the throne, ventilation should be even better, but well, I don't know what's ahead, and it's not something I'm going to talk about. However, I think the next Teraba-sama also feels that risks are steadily getting lighter along with the generational change.

Well, actually, there are a lot of options. First, when you have a young lady take over, as Teraba-sama says next time. You have to consider the person's intention for this. That is true even for boys. Therefore, the method for reducing the above risks is a root system that takes 10 or 20 years.

It's a pattern where you get your son-in-law to take over next. There are definitely not a few. However, it's hard for me to imagine that women would feel forced to choose such a son-in-law.

Third, it is a pattern where people are greeted from a relative's temple. Even though they are relatives, relatives at the temple are not just blood relatives. I have relatives related to teacher and pupil relationships and relatives related to the true nature of the temple. It is said that the surrounding population is declining and the aging population is declining, but isn't that within the range where we have relationships on a regular basis? If you look it up, the monk's distant relatives are mind-boggling.

Fourth, have those who wish take over. It means taking disciples. This risk is whether or not you can meet someone who is compatible as a person even if you are motivated. Also, some believers feel that it is “the bone of a horse from somewhere.” There are people who think that hereditary succession isn't good, and it's a difficult point.

The human mind is difficult, and if you turn to the right, you won't see the left! I was told, if you look to the left, they won't look to the right! I was told, and if you look at it alternately left and right then, don't be half-hearted! It's what is called. It's all about which risks you avoid and which ones you take on. Please take the time to discuss it carefully and “come to terms.”