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Feelings of fuzzy foggy

Hello. I am writing to you for the first time. Thank you for your support.
The other day, when I gave my opinion to younger kids about work at work, they cried and said, “Why do you only say that to me,” and the atmosphere was a bit bad. (I chose the words as much as possible because I didn't want to be bad) Most of the people in my workplace are older people, and only those kids are younger than me. But for me, I thought it was wrong regardless of my age (this is the first time I've given an opinion), but that kid thought it was being said because he was younger, and said, “Can you say that line from you to N-senpai too!” I was told that. Like “loud one by one.” I was listening while thinking that it was because N-senpai wouldn't do that in the first place... That kid was getting pretty excited, so I stopped saying more than that. However, in my heart, I can't forget that child's angry eyes and lines, and I'm confused. Maybe it's because I could hardly say what I wanted to say at that time... But I just want to forget about it. I'm trying to forget it, but it's a mess that won't leave. What should I do... Thank you in advance for your answers.

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Why don't you put it out on the table and check it

You must be shocked to have taken such an attitude even though they took the trouble to choose words to talk about. No wonder the haze won't clear up.
If you only read the details of the consultation, it is certainly a troubled junior. Maybe she still doesn't feel any fault with her, and she just forgot about it.
Aside from her future work, the “one incident that made me feel bad” the other day has already come to an end for both her and Michiko. However, I think Michiko is the only one who has pressed the play button over and over again.

What do you think, please check this by showing the fuzziness in the back of your heart. It may be anger, or it may be fear. Somehow it's hard to see, so I press the play button over and over again. Once it's clear, that's fine.
Then why don't you try shouting stupid at the ocean or going to a batting center or cake buffet, etc., and sublimate it.

Of course, please treat me with a smile from the next day. That's because Michiko has matured in contrast to her immature girlfriend. Eventually, she will have younger juniors, and the time will come when she will painfully understand Michiko's feelings. By that time, discount tickets for batting centers will probably be unnecessary, so please give them to her.

Everyone has it...

Hello.
The more time passed,
If I hadn't said it, this wouldn't have happened by now...
It's what I think.

I have had the same experience as Michiko,
Also, there were times when my boss made me feel the same way as my juniors.

In the end, depending on the position you stand in, you can also be on the side of speaking,
You'll also be on the side you were told to do.
This is unavoidable as long as you live within an organization.

I used to work for a newspaper company,
I was afraid of my boss there... (^o^)

It is a department that specializes in editing manuscripts,
If you don't find even small typos and omissions,
It is reflected directly on the paper.

So my boss says bluntly that there is an oversight in the manuscript.
My boss is also working on the same job at the same time,
It's infinitely close to zero than me, so there are fewer mistakes, but there are occasional ones.
I was scolded while thinking “even ○○-san overlooked this previous article...”

I read the contents of the consultation and thought it was probably not a similar situation...
From a standpoint of view, Michiko is in a position where she teaches rather than her juniors,
You have to say it even if you don't want to.

If your juniors think they're being told because they're younger...
If that were to be said, that would be immature evidence.
I don't know how many days have passed since then,
I think you should treat her normally as a boss.

Fog always goes away with medicine on a daily basis.
It's fine.
There's no need to apologize to your juniors for saying “I said too much at that time.”
You do your job normally, and if your juniors do a good job, I think it would be good to praise them.
I think that will probably be written off to some extent.

My boss at work used to be insanely scary
After the launch when I quit the company was over,
He said, “It would be great if you came back to the club again.”

It's a mess right now, but it will clear up eventually.
If it ends well, everything is fine... (^_^)/

I don't care, I don't care...

What you can see for the first time by understanding the differences in depth... that is...

① There are many strange fish in the deep sea, even if they are the same fish.
There are also fish whose eyesight has deteriorated due to lack of light.
Even though they are fish from the same sea, there are also fish that have a creepy shape.
When they are salvaged ashore, they die due to differences in atmospheric pressure. This is because the environment we live in is different. Poor thing.
② As for char living in rivers, the pattern of the same char changes depending on the river where the char lives, and the environment.
“Different fish?” The pattern changes as much as I think. Even if they are the same fish, they are all different depending on the environment.
③ On Komodo Island, there is a giant lizard called the Komodo Dragon.
When it comes to how huge it is, it is a lizard that swallows deer and eats wild water buffaloes.
But Komodo Dragon's Kodomo is a Komodo Dragon's Kodomo, so it's small.
Even in Japan, there are adults and codomos. My child Domo is crazy, and Komodo Dragon is also deep blue. Depending on the environment, lizards evolve in different ways, and the way lizards evolve is different, and even adults, there are people who look like Kodomo now.

④ Similarly, the same Michiko is Michiko, but there are many Michiko in Japan.
(Honorific titles omitted in no particular order) There are actually various, including His Majesty the Emperor, Haneda Michiko, Yoshise Michiko, Shimizu Michiko, Nomura Michiko (← Wakame-chan, voice actor of Shizuka-chan), questioner Michiko, and my acquaintance Michiko.

Conclusion: When it comes to what I want to say, we can see something by thoroughly understanding each other's differences.
It means “you should respect your partner and the environment they grew up in.”
Your way of saying it may have felt like pulling her up from the deep sea. It seems that Buddha was also able to change the way he communicated according to his partner.
Oh, I think this generation will gradually learn in the workplace that they have to say it this way...
⑤ Incidentally, it's a punch line, but when we monks are ascetic monks, they all have Bose heads, so it seems like Japanese people look at Iranians and Iraqis from an outsider's point of view, and they all look the same from a grouper's point of view. At best, they wear glasses or not, they're fat or stupid.
But if you open your mouth, everyone has their own personality. Humans can't really “treat the other person in a respectful way” unless they understand each other's differences.
Honestly, everyone is different from you.

Giving guidance to juniors is difficult, isn't it? Don't be harassed.

There are times when teaching juniors is quite difficult, isn't it?

Why do you say things like this without even knowing the details of your interactions...
Was your guidance so tough that a good adult cried and said it back?
Or maybe the juniors don't have a laid-back attitude.

Work is tough, and I personally (I'm in my 30s) think about being taught and learned by experienced seniors. However, now, it seems that it is also an age where nurturers choose words and give guidance while taking care of themselves quite a bit. (It seems like there are a lot of people who quit right away)

It's a difficult time isn't it ~ it's like crying is forgiven ~

Please continue to be yourself and do your best as a senior you can rely on without worrying too much ◎

Just make sure it doesn't become harassment.

I'm not good at it either

Michiko.
My name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an, thank you for your support.

It's natural to have differences of opinion with others, but it's painful to clash with them or be hit by them. I'm really bad at it myself. It's me who slurps around even after I say it, and even after being told, and I can't do it. So, Michiko's feelings are being conveyed very much.

I haven't seen the actual situation, so I can't say anything clear, but I feel that juniors are extremely immune to being scolded.
I happened to have the chance to speak with an educator the other day. A parent comes up in a small fight between children and causes them to break up. In the name of equality, everyone plays Momotaro in the lead role in this game.

That person said, “If you go out into society, you will inevitably get involved in trouble and competition, and it's cruel not to let them experience it while they are children.”

The haze won't go away anytime soon. When you walk the path you believe in and are convinced that you weren't wrong, that thought may disappear.
Let's work hard together!