I can't stop feeling sad and sorry for losing my dog.

A few days ago, my pet dog (poodle), which was my greatest treasure, passed away. I was only 5 years old.

The cause of death was being hit by a car driven by my father. It wasn't intentional; it was a simple confirmation mistake.
And my mom watched the whole thing. From the expression on the poodle's small body just before it became an underlay for a car, until that body became an underlay, and eventually it became cold.

I wasn't at the scene at the time, and after hearing the report, I came home in a hurry, saw and touched the body, and learned the fact.
A sense of emptiness and deep sorrow struck me, but when I learned that fact and thought about my parents' suffering, my feelings became even more confused.

Maybe I'm a little angry, and I also regret that it might have been different if I had been on the scene.
However, I can never express my feelings to my parents, who are probably suffering deeper than my own, and since my parents' suffering is so deep, I also feel like I can't grieve until I'm satisfied.
My parents have been suffering for a long time when they killed them themselves, and the suffering is immeasurable.

What should I do about great regret, deep sadness, and a little bit of anger?
And what should I do to make my deceased dog's soul feel comfortable and happy?
Everyone, please tell me.
Thank you very much for your support.

4 Zen Responses

You should only pray to your heart

Very deep sorrow, and anguish for which no one can be blamed, is being conveyed profusely.
Even if you think about ifs such as “if me” or “if then,” you can't change the present.
What Chikama-san can do is also for photographs, so please chant Nembutsu “just wholeheartedly wishing for your pet dog to pass away in paradise, and don't doubt it by believing that they have passed away.”

Praising Nembutsu doesn't mean that your dog will come back, but that's why all Chikama-san can do is put their hands together and pray for death.
Amitabha Buddha said, “My dog passed away due to an unexpected accident at the young age of 5, but the suffering is immeasurable. Please let Amida pass away in the Pure Land.” That is the love you and your parents can have for your dog now.
Please tell your parents about it and you snuggle up to them; the sorrow and scene of being present as a participant will remain very memorable, please snuggle up to them

I also had rabbits I lived with when I was young, and I took them to the park and played with them a lot.
When I took them on a trip, I stopped by the beach and played in the summer sunshine.
At that time, I didn't doubt it because I just thought that rabbits were tired from getting sick, and they died a while after returning to the car, and they died, and they were dehydrated.

This is a memory that remains vivid in me for a long time, and it's like I took my life; I took the life I loved myself; it's a crime I will remember and carry for as long as I live in the present.
Please just recite Nembutsu with all your heart... Namu Amitabha

Please be careful about managing your physical condition

It was a painful event. It's only natural that there is resentment along with the regret of being there. Don't be angry, but in a sense it's necessary to tell someone that you have that kind of feeling. You spoke very well.
I'm worried about the happiness of my pet dog Spirit, but don't worry, the feelings of Chikama and her parents' memorial service have always arrived.

I'm worried that Chikama and her parents will suffer so much that they will get sick. Telling someone about your painful feelings can make you feel a little easier. After that, don't forget to take care of your body.
I don't think it's a situation where you can eat a meal you like, laugh out loud, etc., and you might think that maybe you can't do such a thing.
However, please take good care of yourself and be aware that by adjusting your physical condition and breathing, you can also stabilize your feelings.

I also pray for the peace and soul of my beloved dog from the place where he left.

hmm. Please bring all three of you to my house.

Nice to meet you.
We also do real problem consultations, I love dogs and cats, and I will talk to him with Wange Nyakugen (Tange Kakugen).
My dog passed away the other day.
I wonder how many animals they kept in total at our temple.
Dogs really feel free when they take off their collars.
Instead of keeping them, you put on collars.
I kept them, but they died in an accident, even if it wasn't intentional.
Although I was able to remove the collar and leave it free, I'm still being held back by that dog's collar in the family.
Wouldn't it be nice if I were in the dog's position?
Even though they took the trouble to keep them, your family was in a state of discord and suffering because of yourself, even though you were involved. It's heartbreaking even for me as a dog.
In other words, everyone is suffering.
Apart from that, a nearby temple is fine, but if you feel that the threshold is high, I think all three of them have their own opinions, so once you come to our temple, my mannequin is inviting them.
Everyone wants to blame someone else.
I can't answer this in a little over 1000 characters.
Please come to our temple by car, even on the night after work.
If you have a picture of that dog, please bring it too.
The money is from Iran, so please dig this place where everyone is sad, wow wow.

this... is painful...
I took a look at your profile. Let's talk to the other siblings about the situation and ask them to come back temporarily. If you have female sisters, women might be better. They say they can't talk about their feelings to their parents, and that's certainly true. But parents are the only ones who need to express their feelings to someone. Also, Chikama-sama has to express her feelings to someone and be sad.

At times like this, even if you are suffering alone, the suffering only increases more and more. I'm sure 3 people, all 3, are suffering because they can't tell anyone. Let's rely on someone brother or sister. If you talk about the situation carefully, the family you have shared your blood with will surely help you. No, I'm happy even if my blood sharing family just rushed by my side.

If someone goes home and takes care of her parents, I think Chikama-sama will feel safe too. On top of that, why don't you get away from home for a bit? Whether it's a friend's place, a sibling's or relative's place, or there are monks that go out of their way to call out, and it's fine at a temple. If it's difficult, I don't mind hasunoha. Let's get angry. Of course, even as a monk, if I were in Chikama-sama's position, anger would surely build up with nowhere to go. It's so pathetic that I feel like I shouldn't get angry about it. That's too pathetic. Please get angry. Please be sad. If you can shed tears right now, let's cry for now. Then, after crying for a while, let's get in touch with your siblings.

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