What is a monk's wife

I read your consultation. That's a troubling problem.

Japan is equal under the law, and freedom of religion is guaranteed to everyone, so it doesn't mean that even the spouse of a monk doesn't have that right.

However, I think faith is not just an “internal” issue; it also has a large “external” and “superficial” part. It also involves ceremonies and events.
There may also be a tough side if you believe in other teachings in your heart, or if you feel pain about participating as a person on the temple side of a temple or getting involved with believers even though you have no particular faith.

Also, since the spouse's attitude and attitude towards faith will differ depending on regional differences, sectarian differences, and even differences in the thoughts of individual monks, there may be no choice but to have a thorough discussion with that partner's monk more than anything else.

I'm a member of the Shinshu Otani sect, but when I check the rules within the sect, the chief priest's spouse is called a bosu (bomori), but the rules stipulate that bosses “receive a memorial service = become a monk”... I was also a little surprised by this.

As a matter of fact, it seems that the ratio is low when it comes to whether Bosori-san always has an advantage at nearby temples. There are also people who seem to be of a different faith, whimpering...

Personally, I don't force my wife to believe, but I often talk about Buddhism, so it seems like I'm naturally interested. I also participate in temple events. But I leave my faith up to myself.

Note that the most important thing here is that the Buddhist faith is not about “believing or praying for something.”
In other words, it's not “I believe it will rain even though I don't know if it will rain tomorrow,” but rather “believe that it's raining now as it is” = “Nyojitsu Chiken (nyojitsuchi ken): see it as it is.”

It's not about trying to control good fortune by worshiping or praying for something you don't understand, it's a belief that makes yourself clear that it's painful only because you wake up to the laws of nature that apply to everyone anytime, anywhere, and go against those laws and get caught up in your ego.

Don't rush, don't hesitate, but since it's a great relationship, why don't you seriously face Buddhism, including your relationship with him?

If you get married, people around you will look at you like you're the wife of the temple...
It will naturally stretch your back.

It would be difficult if you are already a believer in another religious denomination
If you don't believe anything right now
From now on to sects related to that
I think they will become devotees.

My wife and I both entered the current temple from home
If you live that kind of life
You will be able to wear it naturally.
I can't say I believe it from the bottom of my heart
I think the temple duties are being carried out properly.

No matter what kind of relationship you have, getting married (getting married) to a temple means you had a certain kind of Buddhist relationship. Each temple has a different form and situation, but I think you should learn gradually.
Furthermore, since faith is a different dimension, there is no choice but to experience it.

One last word, “If a husband who is a monk can make his wife a believer, it's real.”

First of all, irreligion in Japan isn't as unreligious as they say. By Christian or Islamic standards, it just seems like they are irreligious.
Then, what is faith? It's going to be a story. Therefore, there are many monks who use the word devotion instead of saying faith.
You might think, “I don't know what it means.”
If you understand it someday and can naturally talk to people in small talk, then she's an excellent temple wife.

It doesn't mean you have to be excellent, but “this is what faith is!” I hope you can enter the temple without any preconceived notions like that. In my sense, I'm more thankful for people who start off pure white and absorb more and more than people dyed in strange colors. There are differences in how to seize devotion depending on the denomination, and there are differences in how people choose bouldering. Which branch is in how many sects? Or rather, once you pick that one, it would be strange if you don't go for an attack the next time; the goals are the same, though. There is an arrangement like that.