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I don't get used to it at work, and I'm worried about not being able to work

It's my 3rd time since I became a member of society, and it's been six months since I changed jobs, but in addition to not being able to work, I feel that everyone doesn't like me. There's no one I can talk to. I don't have a place at work, and it's really hard.
My current workplace is a white company called the world over, and everyone who works is excellent, and the environment is very blessed. I feel that the reason I can't arrive is due to my lack of ability and lack of communication skills.
I think the reason they were disliked was that there were times when I couldn't work and tried to separate myself.
At that time, I was really just a talkative person.
My boss asked me for management skills, and I think I misunderstood the meaning. Right now, I'm in a situation where even my part-time workers give me instructions.

As for work, I think I'm making an effort in my own way, but there really aren't any results, whether it's an idle shift or lack of effort. I don't think I'm going to get results... or rather, I really can't do anything. I don't understand what is being asked.

I myself have felt my own growth since six months ago, but that is too insignificant, and I feel that it is really lousy when viewed from those around me.

Right now, there's a job the whole team is working on, and since I'm an unusable person, I feel like everyone is extra stunned. So now I'm filled with even harder feelings.

You can make up for it with effort, but my head doesn't spin at all even when I go to my desk, and I want to run away! It just makes me think about that.

I wonder if I should consider quitting my job, but it's not good to just run away at this age... but I also feel like I'm going to be stuck at anything even if I stay like this.
This is an embarrassing and disorganized consultation, but I would appreciate any advice.

4 Zen Responses

Whoever loses to their own little pride wins

I think the courage to first talk to me about this is amazing.
This is because you've finally been able to communicate from the inside out.
First, don't try to win. It's easier to admit what you don't want to admit.
You're just losing to your pride. We should acknowledge complete defeat and abandon our pride. By doing so, you will be “in a state where you have nothing to lose anymore” like Mari Yao.
If you've analyzed that far, ① I think you should continue studying to improve your communication skills first. This is because it is a lifelong challenge for humans that should continue even after old age.
When it comes to communication, it may seem difficult, but “speaking and listening” is all.
But you didn't want to talk or listen. That's probably why it was painful.
Your boss at work must have about one decent person who doesn't have any divisions or likes or dislikes you. ② We recommend that you consult with that person.
One more thing, ③ Why don't you go to another branch as a customer?
You may be able to see what it is for this company to provide to the other party, and what kind of things the company requires of us. As I said, if your feelings, but after all, are prioritized, then that way of thinking is the problem. Please try ①②③ in order to break a weak heart that can't stay in that kind of thinking and put it into action.

I'll leave it up to chance a little more

Aaha-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

It's really painful that they work for an excellent white company, and even though they have a blessed environment, they think they are disliked due to lack of ability and lack of communication.

There was also the feeling that I was able to do my best while trying to respond to my boss's request backfired a bit, but after that, I was deeply reflected on the cause, and after that, although I felt growth while making efforts in my own way, I was impatient and saw that it didn't easily lead to results...

One is that the trial period has passed and the recruitment has not been canceled, and if there is nothing in particular about contracts or assignments from personnel, it is not at a stage where evaluations can be made yet, and I think it would be good to be able to watch the situation a little more and make an effort. Of course, don't overdo it until your mind and body are exhausted and broken...

What do you think, don't decide whether to quit or not quit on your own, and why don't you just leave it up to the circumstances a little longer... Until then, while continuing your efforts, how about carefully observing and imitating what excellent people are doing in an environment surrounded by excellent people, and making use of them in the future?

Also, I'm not sitting at the desk alone, and if there are things or ideas you don't actively understand, etc., as is the case at meetings and meetings, I think it would be a good idea to exchange questions and opinions little by little with team members in the common room, cafeteria, etc., without worrying too much about regular, irregular, short-term positions, or positions.

Furthermore, I believe that the content of each question and answer below so far may also be helpful.

http://hasunoha.jp/questions?tag=他人とのコミュニケーション

http://hasunoha.jp/questions?tag=仕事がつらい

Also, whether it's a bit of a change of pace by watching a movie here, how about “The Devil Wears Prada,” “The Working Girl,” and “Broadcast News.”

I pray that the situation will improve.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

One appearance, two words.

Nice to meet you, Maaya!

I read it.
Apparently, it seems like the main problem is relationships rather than work.

Aren't there any popular people around Maaya for some reason?
Humans are simple.
We gather in a comfortable place.
If you feel comfortable dealing with Maaya, people will gather at Maaya's place.

Now, how do you make people feel comfortable,
First, brighten your appearance, and second, brighten your words.
The figure is minimal grooming and has a smile!
Also, it is good to apply oil to give luster to the face.
Faces are flowers and jewels.
Let your smile shine like a flower in full bloom and your skin shine like a jewel.
Even in sutras, before the Buddha preaches,
First, make your appearance shine and attract the audience's attention.

Also, as for words, try to use words with positive images as much as possible.
thank you. That was great. It gets better. I'm happy. It's fun. nice. It's attached. I appreciate it.
People feel comfortable talking just by using words like these.
Words are flowers rather than leaves, so after all, it's better to let colorful words bloom!
Sutras are full of words with positive images.

These things are the same in our lives, even when the company changes.
Try doing the little things one by one.

Do you enjoy Jenka?

 I write a bunch of things, but “can I make 100 friends? I don't like the “♫” song, and there aren't many people I can call my friends since I was in elementary school, and at the field day, there were always 1 or 2 or 3 people at Genka at the beginning. So it wasn't fun. Maybe it would have been better if I had opened my heart to myself and got along with everyone.
However, basically, it's better not to have friends who can't say what you want to say or what you want to say, and if you still act alone, you have more mobility, and you have regrets and excuses.
Well, they say they are floating around at work and that they are disliked by everyone, etc., but that may be a 70% misunderstanding. Basically, I'm not interested in you. Are you watching a little too many dramas? Dramas don't work unless each character has a line, and since they generally make a voice even where they don't speak out, the story progresses around the characters no matter what. The reality is, I don't have time to worry about others like that. I'm mainly thinking about how to make a profit for the company, how to quickly finish the work I've been given, and how I can spend time with my family and lover. Unfortunately, I don't think Maaya is in sight. I don't know what white companies look like from Maaya's point of view, but if it's a good company, the better the company, the more it values employees' private life, and they probably have good paid holidays and overtime such as maternity leave and childcare leave. There will come a time when I can count on you.
Is it a shame to be instructed by a part-time worker? When I can't remember my job, my part-time workers, and employees are all the same newcomers. Once you remember the work and the system of this company, you will be able to move before it is supported.
Every failure at work must be big or small. I think my boss probably forgot about that mistake too. Maybe Maaya is the only one who cares!?
Since becoming an adult, eagles have given their own answers about what friends and companions really are like. Banquets (drinking parties, alcohol, izakayas) were the closest way for eagles to get close to people. Conversely, it was a party that kept away. Breaking up with enemies and allies and being divided into pros and cons was a banquet.
What is Maaya? Isn't there a lot of events such as New Year's parties, trips, and field days at this company? Aren't there times when groups are formed to plan work? Don't jump to conclusions so quickly, find your own community.