Zen Dialogues

Reflections from Japan's Buddhist Traditions

Is a fertilized egg (embryo) life, and can any memorial service be held?

Due to my husband's oligospermia, I underwent microinsemination with infertility treatment and created a fertilized egg. Fortunately, I was able to give birth to two children relatively early. However, I'm concerned about embryos that didn't even become fetuses. 13 were in a state where they...

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I'm the worst grandson (daughter).

A few years ago, I suffered from depression due to stress at work, and I quit that job and stayed at home to rest for a while. At that time, I quit my job, so of course I had no income and the money I had saved was gone because I used cell phone charges, etc. At that point, what I can't help...

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I'm having a double affair...

Although they are both married, they are attracted to each other in the form of love at first sight at work, and 4 months have passed since they had a double affair. We don't want to destroy each other's families. I think he's separated from his family and me, but I'm always in pain because...

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What do you live for

There are times when you don't understand what you're living for. Maybe I was born for a successor, or what my life is, so much so that I can't sleep. The reason the story of the succession comes up is because my parents' house is a temple. In particular, over the past few years, I have come...

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About work clothes

What work clothes do monks recommend? What kind of manufacturer and what kind of store do you buy them at?

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Self-harm

Self-harm is unstoppable. I don't even have the courage to die. I've posted so many times tonight. I'm sorry. Self-harm is unstoppable, and even though it's a good age, I can't stop it even if I feel embarrassed. I feel calm when I self-harm even though I want to stop it. I also...

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About modern monks and the image of the world

I asked a question for the first time the other day. There, I felt that monks are also being trained every day according to various precepts and teachings. And I have a new question. ① What kind of teaching is it that monks gamble such as pachinko? ② What kind of teachings do monks...

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About career paths

I'm not feeling well about my career path. I wanted to get some advice, so I asked a question. I'm currently preparing to enroll in college. I went to a so-called preparatory school in high school, and even within high school, I got good grades. However, I failed my first choice in the...

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Why was I born

I'm a woman in her 20s. I'm worried about why I was born, whether my life has meaning, and whether it's worth existing. The family environment I was born in was by no means good, and my mother went crazy with gambling, used her house money to create debts, and eventually got into prison when...

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Does it resist instincts and human desires

Is it possible to resist or nothing to instincts and desires?

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I was told again... (ToT)

Today, my mother came home from her morning work at the temple I was suddenly made to stand on the edge of a cliff, and mercifully told me that if I didn't pray at the temple, my whole body would hurt and I wouldn't be saved... Every time I listen to this, I think in my heart that it will...

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I want to end a life that isn't going well

I'm a female graduate graduate in her 30s. I don't have any friends, I'm not on good terms with my family, and it's hard to live. I wanted to have a family of my own, so I registered with a marriage agency, but even after meeting various people for close to a year, no one likes them. I think...

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Do children choose their parents to be born?

As for the baby, I saw that they chose that mother was good and that father was good However, since I was born, I am mildly intelligent, have ADHD, depression, got divorced during pregnancy, and am single If I were to choose, would they have come after knowing that too? Kids are so...

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What is a parent

As the title suggests, I'm worried about what parents should be like for children. A guide, someone who shows the right path, the person who understands the best, who gently watches... I don't think there's anything right. I wonder if all the answers are correct and they are all different. I think

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Please help.

I'm asking this question because I don't have anyone I can rely on anymore. As you read my profile, I'm aiming for medical school. Originally, I would have to play blackjack, but shamefully, I can't even cure my own mental illness. So I would like you to listen to your concerns in the hope that...

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I'm interested in Buddhism and monks!

I am currently These are autonomic nervous ataxia, panic disorder, and obsessive-compulsive disorder. As a result, I started doing sutras, zazen sessions, and visiting shrines and temples. Apart from my obsession when I hear that monks do the first cleaning in the morning, I only clean my...

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Tips for not getting frustrated

I'm frustrated by raising children and selfish remarks made by others. I've always had a short temper, but when I'm frustrated, my husband says “books that don't irritate you” They recommended self-enlightenment books like that, so I read them. A rough explanation of the book is, “Life...

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rebellious period for middle school boys?

It's about the eldest son in middle 3. Until now, there have been no particular problems with raising children I've made it this far without scolding. I've been playing baseball since elementary school. After the summer when my club activities were over, I lost motivation at all When...

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The monk's

Hello. I have questions and consultations. I'm currently in a relationship with a monk, and I'm thinking about the future. However, there are times when people say “it's hard being a monk's wife” or “I know a monk, but the wife seems to be having a hard time.” Of course, he, and his family...

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Why are otaku discriminated against

The other day, my classmate made a statement that discriminated against otaku, so I asked this question. I'm an otaku myself, and I love anime, manga, and two-dimensional characters. I also talk about anime with my friends at school. The problem occurred during that school's lunch...

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