I don't like myself, I don't like it, what should I do?

Nice to meet you, Yuzu-san.
This is my first time answering questions from teenagers,
Even though you're young, you often look at yourself.
If you know that much, don't stop thinking about fixing it.
If we do that, I think we will eventually be able to overcome it.

Also, the Buddhist way of thinking is to accept yourself as you are.

It seems like you're only looking at the negative side,
Why don't you look at some positive aspects too?

For example, being able to look at yourself objectively and be able to reflect on it.
You're attractive enough to be able to do this.

Then, as the positive aspects increase, including the negative aspects,
I think I'll be able to love myself.
I think you have enough ability to do that.

good luck! (^^)

I'll do it again with Kaiunji Akiyama Genshin.
It is said that I'm still in my teens, but now I'm 50 years old, and I'm thinking the same thing as Yuzu-san. Perhaps I will continue in the future.
However, what you think and worry about is growing little by little, isn't it? I think they're moving in the right direction again.
My solution is to wake up in the morning and I'm still alive today. Thank you very much. I would like to thank you again.

Last year, a statue of Motemote was unearthed from the precincts.
When I enshrined it, I was also very popular on Hasunoha, and it became 2000.
There was an Oracle just for you, so I'll tell you about it.
“It doesn't matter where you don't have confidence. Other than that, you should make an effort to become popular. Simply put, being liked by people.
If you think you're bad and do bogus output (bad facial expression, attitude, or feeling), they'll just dislike you.
You should be popular in terms of service.
Smiles, consideration, and concern, unrestrained, forgiving, gentle language, and compassion.
This is where humans are most popular.
Why don't you like people who are kind to you?
I'm saying this, many comedians have unique faces, so why are they popular?
Maybe it's because they have service skills that make people laugh.
You have services you need to do. We should become more and more service experts.
If you keep doing that, you'll naturally become popular.
Do it until people appreciate you for being helpful. That way, you'll definitely love yourself. You haven't reached the level of being useful to others yet.
All the people I like can love themselves because they feel that they are helping someone else.”
That's all, it was an Oracle from Motemote-sama.
May you love yourself and may you bless you, Mr. Motemote.

Yuzu-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

The more we go out into society, the more we experience various things in our relationships with others. Yuzu-sama also has a long way to go, but I think everyone often falls into self-loathing because they have learned about their position and position through various comparisons between themselves and others.

Recently, I've been dealing with “comparison” in the following questions and answers.

Question “I'm so envious of my friends around me.”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/290

“... Compared to others, we are caught in a state of disappointment that we are superior, inferior, superior, lower, higher, lower, long, short... and we spend our time losing sight of what is more important in reality and suffer. ...” “... It's more about how to look at what you need to do and what you need to do in reality rather than what's around you, and whether you can work hard to overcome difficulties. ・・”

I am who I am, I am nobody else, and I can't be anyone else. The question is how I should change, and what do I have to do to change. Both appearance and academic ability can be managed to some extent depending on hard work. However, what doesn't go wrong doesn't mean anything. There is no limit to human greed when it comes to asking for it, so it's also important to determine that area.

Also, it is important that they want to somehow fix their frustrated and self-loathing self. Until now, it has come up in several questions and answers, as shown below, but in Buddhism, it is hoped that people will dedicate themselves to good deeds through remorse and repentance due to “shame (shame).”

http://hasunoha.jp/questions?tag=慚愧

Being able to be “ashamed” is really important.

Liking yourself to the extreme (and, conversely, disliking it extremely) is not very favorable. After acknowledging that you are yourself and affirming it neutrally, I think it would be nice if you could think about how to face actual problems and what you want to fix from there.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

　Yuzu-san. Let me start with the eagle. It's only when people recognize you that you fall in love with yourself and gain confidence.
When you were a teenager, especially when you were a student, it was a world of style and face only, right? There is a tendency for class rankings to be decided among them. I also had a very dark student life because of that. Furthermore, people like period dramas and anime overlap, and it has been said that it's disgusting. No matter what, I had a self that couldn't catch up with fashion, so I had few friends, and all of them were ignored by girls, and there were cases where it developed into bullying (messing around, ignoring). That's why I also ended up hating myself. But I can't stop this hobby. I spent my school days without showing much of what I liked to people around me. So, as a result, I chose the university I wanted to go to so that I could decide for myself, all of them failed. My parents said a lot, but in an attempt to do something on my own, I went to a prep school while being a newspaper scholarship student, and went on to the department at the university I wanted to go to. There were a lot of people who matched my eagle's taste.
The turning point was during Motoyama's training period, and I was strangely loved when I talked about going to a prep school without a parent's remittance from the 2nd or 3rd year to when I was a newspaper scholarship student, and I became confident that eagles were that amazing. From there, I began to get on with myself, I was able to talk to women even though they had a bad face, and I was able to treat them with remorse even though they said they were uncomfortable.
When Akihabara such as AmeTalk and AKB48 attracted attention, otaku began to be reviewed, and now they can talk about good and bad things in a dignified manner regardless of whether they are asked about eagles' hobbies or not. And so on.
In short, even if you acknowledge yourself, you won't gain confidence. It's only when people recognize you that you gain confidence. To that end, shouldn't we make an effort to develop our own characteristics before we dislike ourselves? If even one person acknowledges it, and if someone shares the same things, then you will gain confidence for the first time, and you will fall in love with it. Please be someone who can notice that for yourself. Please do your best to have confidence in yourself. Please add depth little by little while reflecting on it.
What I also have to reflect on is that when I was a student, I didn't treat that person with care because people around me said they were too uncomfortable with people who recognized me.