luxury disease? The feeling of emptiness won't go away.

I've always been told “I don't have that.” No matter what I do, I'm better than average, and I'm not good at it, and I'm not good at it. Overall, it's half-hearted.

My studies are average in all subjects, my appearance is OK, my parents' house is a bit rich... I can do a decent job no matter what I do, such as work or work. (It was after hard work.)

Also, I have a half-hearted personality, etc., and although I have a lot of things and hobbies I like... I'm not enthusiastic enough to talk about it, I have habits that I'm not good at socializing with people... I have few friends... I don't have any trouble with my boyfriend because I'm liked by the opposite sex, but I'm a strange person... I feel like I'm a common sense person.

Since ancient times, only skill and luck have been good, and they produce better results than ability or amount of effort.
However, no matter what, number 1 is impossible; number 2 to 3. There's nothing I'm really good at or bad at. They couldn't put it either above or below.
They have a half-hearted personality, so they don't always have a place to stay. There is no place for any group or class.

I'm seriously worried, but since it really “can do it quite well,” people say, “People who don't have that. An adult-like person. Serious person. Hard working people” = “uninteresting people. A surprisingly bad person when you open the lid. A person who isn't cute. A person who is too humble.” It makes me think that.
Also, since they are uselessly liked by men, it seems that there are times when women think “men are taking advantage of them,” and they are not particularly liked by women...

I have a lot of stuff.
A job, kind parents, a fiancee, money, education, youth, intelligence, dexterity, appearance... what else do you want? I think so myself.
Everything can be done by myself to some extent, and I have it, and I've never really wanted anything.

I know it's just a luxury disease. After I realized that there are times when my worries hurt people, I stopped talking about them. But I can't stop feeling it. I hate myself because I'm so ugly. That's why I don't think I can make friends.
It's just, the whole time, empty.

I don't even know how to explain it myself.
1. What should I do about this feeling?
2. How should I find someone who is a good match for me? (How to make a place outside of home)
I want to know.
I would be happy if you could lend me some wisdom.

4 Zen Responses

It's like looking in a mirror..

I am exactly the same as Nao-san.

That's enough to make me hate it.

In addition to that, even my parents, other than my wife, couldn't be trusted from the bottom of my heart.

I don't dare to make friends; just being with my family is enough.

I can now feel my current happiness.

You are a lucky person, please be even happier.

Thank you for knowing that things are enough

Hello. Welcome to the “Terrace” of the Beauty Coliseum for the Heart.
The best way to heal the darkness of your heart is to sit on the terrace and meditate.
The introduction was delayed. I am the chief priest of Annonji Temple, a super midway temple with no parishioners or graves in the eternal halfway kingdom Saitamaken, no matter how hard I try, and I also call him “Terabite Tange”, an eternal part-time monk at the main temple “Tenshin-ji Temple.”
I'm sorry, but your half-hearted side is blue. It falls far short of Saitamaken's half-hearted approach! Welcome to Saitamaken, the most true half-hearted kingdom in Japan.
It's good to see with your own eyes just how astounding a true sense of half-heartedness is!
A state of mind like yours is called the heavenly realm in Buddhism.
I'm in a state where I can't get along any further than that.
That's a problem because you're “not there.”
Your bad habit is “being there while looking at others.”
I ordered the vegetable tempura, but I couldn't help but be curious because the eel bowl next door looked delicious.
Why don't you try to be satisfied with the vegetable tempura bowl you ordered yourself and only look at the fields next door! My heart is cheating on me. Well then, no matter how hard they try, I'm with the bad citizens of Saitama prefecture who won't be rewarded!
But the real Saitama people are different. I'm half-proud.
You can do it halfway without looking ahead or looking back!
“Being there and forgetting to be there” is such a half-hearted way to attain Buddhism!
What I have is enough. I don't want much. It is only when you immerse yourself in shobo and get satisfaction from it that you are a true Saitama citizen.
Therefore, the only way for you to overcome your half-hearted feeling is to turn the whole of Japan into an OR Saitama Ken and be thankful for the gifts that exist now! Ohohohoho!

Everything is impermanent

There will always come a time when you lose everything.
You can't bring any of them to the Pure Land of Paradise.
The only thing you can bring to the Pure Land of Paradise is your heart.
However, even if you meet your heart now in the Pure Land of Paradise, you won't be able to see it clearly.
If possible, I'd like to meet your beautiful heart in the Pure Land of Paradise.
To have a beautiful heart,
First of all, have mercy.
Mercy means wishing for the happiness of those around you, and empathizing with the suffering of those around you and getting rid of them.
Why don't you start there?

The likes call their friends. Why don't you try looking for something like that?

The definition of a beautiful woman differs depending on the era, culture, and ethnicity, but basically, average forgiveness (majority) is beautiful (popular).
Maybe the reason half is beautiful is because they have a more average (plain) appearance due to their blood mixture.
I'm not too thin, and I'm not too fat. The eyes are neither too far apart nor too attached, so it is better to have an average appearance and a body shape that is not biased when exercising.
Average (majority) probably means a group that has remained victorious in survival competitions.
However, in poor times, chubby people are popular, probably because genes to store fat are necessary, and in times of satiety, people who are thin are popular, probably because they leave offspring that are less likely to develop metabolic syndrome.

Well, basically, I'm a good match for people who have the same level of morality as myself.
Bad people go well with bad people, and good people go well with good people.
Therefore, I think there is a high possibility that people will be compatible with people who have similar values of right and wrong.
Also, you might be a good match for people who look similar to you or who have similar fashion.
They say they call friends. Conversely, in order to find people who are easy to make friends with, why not search for people of the same kind?
However, if you are a bad person, it would be better for your future to go out with someone who is better than you, even by force.

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