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When I want you to take care of yourself. What words should I use?

Hello, thank you for your continued support.

People who think I'm superior call themselves a “dried fish woman.”
Evaluate yourself, immerse yourself in an inferiority complex, treat yourself appropriately, saying it's troublesome and troublesome...
There are people like that close to me.
I'm a woman, and I want them to take more care of myself.

I want them to be a little more proud of themselves and take care of themselves, but I just don't seem to be attentive, and I don't know what to say.
What should I say?

Something kind of witty remark.
I wish I could say something heartwarming...

5 Zen Responses

Let's honestly express your feelings

It's been a while, Yuri.
Wouldn't it be better if Yuri just conveyed what she thinks is excellent and wonderful about that person?
And tell them not to belittle yourself and take good care of yourself!
Rather than any kind words, I think it would be better to convey an unadorned, honest feeling to that person's heart.

The dried fish woman has excellent qualities

 Yuri There are few people who keep feeling passionate like you. Yuri, let's imagine the feelings of someone different from her own. This is something that is cultivated the more people you meet and the more you interact with them, so I think time and experience matter.
So, any wonderful word right now is a horse ear nembutsu for her now, so let's first acknowledge her existence and praise the goodness of the sharp “dried fish woman.” People change little by little when they are praised. Let's take the time to interact with them. Hot springs only spring when you dig deep into the ground.
But considering their age, maybe they both like each other ♥? oops! This was a snake's foot.

Don't forget it. You're so much more beautiful than you think.

Yuri-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

If you despise yourself too much, call it despicable or despicable, and it becomes a nuisance.

Of course, on the contrary, overtrusting yourself is bothersome as being proud or overly arrogant.

Both are bad worries, so I'm not happy. In terms of Buddhism, it is necessary to adjust so as not to be too biased towards either.

As a reference for the trend where people evaluate themselves negatively, for example, I am surprised that there is such a difference between the face that I think (think) and the face and atmosphere when viewed by people, as you can see by watching the commercial advertisement below for a while.

“Dove Real Beauty Sketch”
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E8-XKIY5gRo

As in this case, I think there are quite a few places where not only my face but also myself have been underestimated and evaluated, and I have not actually been able to demonstrate my true power in various ways.

Therefore, honest evaluations from others are important in making a decision.

Therefore, as Mr. Kakuyo Jojun also said, Yuri honestly praises that person's strengths and what they think is wonderful, and also makes them realize that they are superior to what they think, by not only one person, but also with other friends who think the same, even when it's casual, so I can make them notice that they are superior to what they think, and awaken them so that they have confidence. Praise them and make them wake up. Oh, this is Kakuyo-san's name as it is (laughs)

Well, even though it's quite noticeable, it can also be difficult verbally, so once you watch the content of the commercial advertisement above, you may be able to understand it even a little bit. Whether it's a letter or email, they say, “You're a more wonderful person than I thought you were. If you watch the video at this address, I think you'll understand it even a little bit.” Please add one word. What do you think..

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho