I'm depressed due to relationships, but I can't decide to take a leave of absence

Rumo, you're having a hard time with your relationships, aren't you?

It is said that you have become depressed, have you received advice from your doctor?

If the doctor is watching you, I think the doctor is also recommending a leave of absence.

I think your thoughts about not being able to easily take a leave of absence are very plausible, and it's a huge source of anxiety that your place might pass away.

When you take a leave of absence, you pay a certain amount of sacrifices and costs.

You wrote it like this.

When I think about my physical condition and future, I should take a leave of absence, and I don't think there's anything good about hating people (even if I say it to the company), but I can't control my frustration no matter what.

Aren't you fully aware of the path you should take?

However, I think one point of “feeling frustrated” is a problem.

Why don't you sort out your “frustrated feelings” and your current situation once.

I think the road will open up from there.

Please read the following story 3 times a day.
First, ask yourself if you haven't been brainwashed or deceived by the “label randomly decided and pasted by people” called depression. That's because I don't want you to be “depressed.”
If you are diagnosed with “depression,” you too will have a place of peace of mind, and if that is definitely easier, you can think “Oh, I'm depressed, I'm glad, I'm relieved.”
However, the psychiatrist Sensei is also somewhat irresponsible. ('omega')
As a result of performing blood tests, electroencephalography measurements, and DNA tests, 99.9% definitely, there is no reason why there is a clear basis for “I'm depressed,” and just an answer or diagnosis is “haha, anata, in our industry, rounded off and in the wrong category. rationale? Somehow. We are also doing it for business and patient care. The fact that I did zero in the questionnaire myself is bad in terms of our industry, isn't it? It seems that there are also bad doctors who just say, “Go to the pharmacy and bring me money every month (shoulder pong) go ahead with the next camera.”
In the first place, even in Buddhism, what is empty and impermanent is the heart that continues to change constantly. There are ups and downs, of course.
Even if I felt temporarily depressed, I'm out of that state now.
Who keeps that ever-changing mind stuck in an enclosure called “depression”? How about you, too, easily become dependent on drugs? Motainai
If it's a good medicine that really works, it will take effect within a few days. If it doesn't show up, I think it's a dependency.
There are also cases where even healthy people are forced to be judged in the bad category. So I want you to see through those gaps first. It's not up to people to decide whether or not to be upset. It's not something people can decide. If you are not controlled by the spirit of the word “depression,” the allusion can be solved now and here, and you will definitely recover without taking medicine.
I have a question.
Q Are you really depressed even now, or are you ❝ here ❞?
Are you really good at living a life that leaves you to “depressed” just because “depression” is written on the Q chart, and you end up “depressed”?
Q: Despite being depressed, let's say you've completely forgotten about it. Nevertheless, is it still necessary to continue being “depressed”?
Please reread it over and over again. You can always see the light.

Nice to meet you, Lumo. My name is Aishun.

It may be frustrating right now, but I want you to “decide to forgive the other person,” and if there is a problem with someone else, even if your feelings calm down now while thinking “it's his fault,” you may feel bad again when you remember it later like a flashback, and there is a possibility that you will get sick again as a result.

I also suffered from bipolar disorder in the past and hallucinations like schizophrenia. There were people who triggered it, and even though I was wondering if their illness had healed, every time I scratched the corner of my head, I went back to hellish days again, and eventually stayed with the illness for about 10 years. I didn't go to the hospital, and since I had an interpersonal phobia, I couldn't see a doctor.
However, I decided that hating or being jealous of the other person was an affliction, so I decided to move away from my worries.

In other words, I decided to forgive my partner. As much as I love you if possible.
Even now, I haven't been able to show my heart enough to love, but it took some time, but I was able to forgive, then surprisingly, the pain went away, and after that, about 1 to 2 years, there were no symptoms, and now I'm living in great shape (laughs)

Also, from my experience, it's better not to talk too much about the reason, etc.; the moment you talk, it's refreshing, but you won't be sorry if you double it back; it's not revenge, but there's a high possibility that you will suffer even more due to something unexpected.

If possible, take a leave of absence, rest your mind, and try light exercise and a healthy diet. Because how you move your body and what you incorporate into your body have a big impact on your mind

Depression can make you lonely, but you're not alone. When praising Namu Amida Buddha, there is a Buddha called Amida by your side, always at any time.
I couldn't trust anyone at all, and when I couldn't trust myself, there was someone who never abandoned me and always stayed by my side the whole time, and that was Amida. It's very reassuring ^^

　Lumo If you really don't like your current job, I think you should quit. It may feel a little awful, but everyone takes it for granted that they can't work with people they don't like. I had that period too. At that time, I took the plunge and quit. Now I have a workplace full of nice people around me, and my life is very fulfilling.
But not being able to do that is also a pain as a working person. I think it's a good idea to change your perspective at that time. I don't have a job, but my salary is the same. I have my own seat. Since I'm not given a job, I can work out the plans I want to make.
In the first place, work isn't something you're given. It's something you'll find for yourself. If you make delicious tea, it's a great job. It might be appreciated if you can be careful about such things. Let's try various things before taking a leave of absence, get jittery, and make a decision when that doesn't work. Not having a job may be a reward given to you by your boss or your peers. Maybe it's a sign for Shinayo to take a break. The people around you don't have enough free time to worry about you. I'm just busy with work. It's not ignoring me, maybe I just don't have time to worry about you. Here's your chance to focus on yourself without worrying about anyone's eyes. come on. Let's do our best.

Lumo-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

If this were to happen, there is also a suspicion of power harassment by the boss.

The first step is to consult with another boss, senior management, company consultation desk, etc., if possible. At this time, you may be able to hope for good treatment, such as personnel changes due to reassignments, changes in supervisors, etc. If it is difficult to consult within the company, it may be a good idea to consult with the General Labor Consultation Center or the Gender Equality Center consultation desk, etc. There is also a possibility that you will be connected to an even better consultation partner from there.

Also, if you actually develop a mental illness such as depression due to power harassment, you may be certified as an workers' accident. Since various procedures are required for workers' accident certification, I wonder if it is OK to consult once at the Labor Standards Inspection Office.

In the case of leave of absence due to depression, there is also an Injury and Sickness Allowance benefit system based on health insurance, and a leave of absence benefit system if treated as a leave of absence due to workers' compensation certification. Also, if it is recognized as retirement due to power harassment, it seems that there is also an unemployment benefit system as a person with specific eligibility.

Next, if I actually take a leave of absence, I would like to complete the procedure, take a firm leave of absence, slowly rest and heal both mentally and physically so that I can return, have a place to regularly exchange opinions with the company side if possible, discuss the environment after returning, and make arrangements so that I can return smoothly. Of course, the question of whether the company has an understanding of such a case is also being greatly questioned...

In terms of Buddhism, bad behavior due to hatred will lead to bad consequences, so if you want to reduce or eliminate this feeling of frustration even a little so that you don't have to hate as much as possible, I think it would be better to proceed properly and quietly by using various systems as described above.

Also, by putting down one cushion for a slight return, not only will you be caught up in something too backward, but it may also be a good opportunity for you to make decisions where you can work on changing jobs, career advancement, acquiring qualifications, etc.

I'm still young, so it would be really a waste if I overdo it here and my mental illness worsens further, and my recovery is delayed from the current situation.

I would be happy if you could use it as a little reference. I pray for good fortune.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho