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It's impossible to get rid of bullying

Hello. I'm always indebted to you.
It's Yuri.

Interview preparation for the teacher recruitment exam has also begun, and I'm being chased by this and that every day, and I'm living a hectic life.

In preparation for that interview, I had the opportunity to think about “bullying.”
I don't know if my constitution makes it easy to attract that kind of thing, but as I discussed about Scapegoat T before, I often encounter things related to it.

There are different causes of bullying.
・Because I'm sick. Weak people were tied down to relieve stress.
→Getting into a fight quickly is a problem.
・When I realized that it was easier to kick people down rather than improve myself, I thought, “It's a waste (effort) even if you study (lol)”
→This is my actual experience of not getting good grades. I feel like it's often seen in preparatory schools. Also, I feel like it's not uncommon for scapegoats to occur starting with this. For students with learning disabilities, you should probably be most careful about this.

Eliminating bullying is impossible.
Is this because schools are a microcosm of society?
Who invented the word?
I certainly think it's difficult, but I think there are too many adults (teachers) in the world who raise a white flag.
When you encounter a place of bullying as a teacher, there is certainly a response (like a direct attack method) according to that situation. However, bullying is only increasing.
I think the reason bullying doesn't go away with the direct attack method to eliminate bullying is because something is lacking in this.

It goes without saying that getting rid of bullying is difficult. That's because we're human.
Eradicate bullying.
What should the heart do for that? It is not simply a direct attack method for simple educational work, but what should that mentality be as a person who stands above others and takes a job that creates people? How should we behave?
Let me ask you a question.
We apologize for the inconvenience, and thank you for your cooperation.

6 Zen Responses

Bullying won't go away

Bullying won't go away. It's a pity though. However, it may be possible to reduce it by knowing yourself who bullies you.
There are several things that have nothing attached to the Jikko Buddha. There is infinity, no border, no harm, no name.
Quantity means measuring. Side is separation, opposition is contrast, obstacle is self, name is label.
People feel comfortable, compare themselves, put up labels, and create hierarchical relationships.
I think it's important for me to know, accept, and be aware that I have elements and abilities that hurt people, and I think it's the greatest deterrent.

Bullying is also a personal relationship between individuals.

I experienced both being bullied and being bullied when I was a child and when I was a student.
This is a lifelong reflection.
I also experienced a lot of bullying at the ascetic dojo.
As an individual, I hope that never happens again.
When I was bullied, I think that person had mixed feelings about me.
When I was bullied, I had an outrageous feeling that I didn't understand that person.
There must be dialogue, communication, and communication between individuals before being bullied or bullied. I believe that communication between individuals is imperfect, and it is important to improve communication skills.
If you trace the origin of any major war, it is individual to individual.
Certainly, there are aspects where humans do things where they sacrifice others in order to gain an advantage. In the future, I think Japan will need to review communication from the ground up.
Communication is not simply viewed as a dialogue, conversation, or communication,
I think it's something we should continue to do until it becomes the best way to be.

People who can affirm themselves aren't bullied. People who can love themselves aren't bullied.
People who bully are mentally ill, don't love people, and have problems with the family environment that created such children who cause harm to both themselves and others.
Therefore, I think creating an image that only people who bully need support and care, and stop everyone who bullies and the act of bullying itself will become a major deterrent.
There is still a lot of harassment, pressure, and implicit industry bullying in the crazy industry.
It's simply coldness of heart, lack of mercy.
I believe that being deeply aware that each individual has had a sad experience as a victim of communication in the past will lead to the eradication of bullying.

The bullying will go away, but...

 Eliminating bullying is easy. It would be nice if everyone lived according to the rules. I think bullying will go away if no one has feelings of their own and lives only by rules, but new problems will arise. Maybe it's about losing compassion. Emotions and rules are two wheels of a car, aren't they?
Doesn't Yuri make bullying a problem only for students? Aren't they teachers together? When you're out of school, when you think about who will take your place, don't you think they won't follow up with anything unless you adjust to your surroundings on a regular basis? First of all, I don't think students can take the lead if they don't show that teachers have a good relationship with each other, but there are times when teachers also have various issues with each other, so it's not straightforward. Eventually, it was upgraded with teaching materials for classes, test scores, PTA, school and community events, and club activities. Activity reports are submitted to the city and prefecture boards of education and the Ministry of Education, Culture, Sports, Science and Technology, respectively. They come around to newcomers and nice people. I don't have time to think about bullying. I don't have time to look at my students. If you notice it, it's retirement age.
If I do my best to get rid of bullying, I'm prepared to die from overwork. Perhaps the current situation is that you have to be prepared to work as a teacher. There is no solution. All I can do is call out to people in need, stand by Yuri at any time, and send answers and cheers with hasunoha. I will do my best to go to your logistical support.
 

It is certainly impossible to get rid of bullying.

But don't bully! Bullying is cowardly! That means I have to keep teaching.

Regardless of the degree, we also have to make them aware that bullying can occur in any organization or society.

As a teacher, it might be more effective to lead people to become people who can let go of even if they are bullied.

Growing up together

Yuri, this is Urakami Tetsuya from Nagomi An.

As you said, bullying won't go away.
And crime and war will probably not go away.
It's sad.

I made many mistakes when I was young, as a child, and when I was young.
They kill insects for no reason, make fun of their classmates, and get teased.
I've learned a lot now, and I think I'm in a state where it's hard to make the same mistakes. Of course, since they're human, I'm not saying that the possibilities are zero. However, as a person, as an adult, and as a monk, I have determination and remorse in my heart that I must not make mistakes.

Isn't that important?
It may be impossible, but I think the determination to keep making endless efforts is important.

More than that, there was a part in the question that bothered me a bit.
This is the part called “a job that stands above others and makes people.”
If you treat students with that feeling, I think it will be difficult to attract their hearts.
If you don't have the humility to say, “I'm a senior, but I was raised as a teacher by you guys,” I think Yuri's enthusiasm will go to waste.

“Heart problems”

Yuri-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

“Bullying”... Certainly, as Yuri said, “mental problems” are refrained as the cause. Also, in terms of Buddhism, the troublesome mind called “annoyance” is its true form, and furthermore, “ignorance” (fundamental ignorance), which is the parent and parent of that affliction, is also treated as an object that should be dealt with.

I've dealt with this a little bit before in the question below.

Question “I want a world without infants, toddlers, and child abuse.”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/214

Of course, it is not easy to deal with “annoyance,” “ignorance,” or “bad work,” which is an accumulation of bad behavior and habits that have been carried over from past lives.

However, it is hoped that by developing a strong bodhi heart (a heart that aims for enlightenment), we will continue to work diligently toward healing them.

If you give up on it with a weak voice saying that it's impossible, it's difficult, it's still tough... you won't be able to reach enlightenment very much. Then, they will continue to suffer in agony in the same way in the midst of the hesitation of reincarnation.

In order to break free from the chain and succession of hesitation and suffering, I would like to raise a firm and sure bodhisattva mind in my heart, accumulate the dual sustenance of wisdom (understanding of the sky and good fortune) and good fortune (good deeds, benevolence, and others), and prepare for enlightenment.

The above is an answer from a Buddhist point of view, but the world in general recommends striving for good deeds without doing bad things by introducing programs that establish a firm sense of ethics and morality from the time of elementary education, and I think it is necessary to cultivate a heart of compassion, kindness, and the spirit of support/help/sharing in order to eliminate bullying problems.

If you are in a position to be involved in education, I sincerely ask for your support.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho