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I can't take the first step out of fear.

I'm worried about work.
My boss asked me if I was interested in getting a higher post than I am now.

However, the amount of work will naturally increase, and we have to lead business negotiations.
(Until now, I have basically not been involved in business negotiations.)
I can't even talk properly with people I know, and when 4 or 5 people get together, I do my best to say one or two words, so I don't feel like I can do business negotiations properly.

Also, you will be taking in-house training again,
I'm worried about living alone, even temporarily, in an unfamiliar place.
I'm so afraid to leave the land I've become accustomed to.

Even if you receive a story in such a state,
I can only imagine a future where I get a puncture.
That kind of self is no good; if you don't do something about it,
I'm thinking it in my head,
I also think this is an opportunity for me,
Fear takes the lead.

4 Zen Responses

Life is still a long time in my 20s.

Nice to meet you, Mr. Takani.
Are you worried about improving your skills?
Your boss seems to have selected you from a number of subordinates.
This is an opportunity.
There's nothing you can't do about it.
But I don't have myself...
I can understand your complicated feelings very well.

Higashi Hongan-ji Temple in Kyoto is said to have over 9,000 branch temples all over the country,
It is the head temple of a large denomination.
The chief priest of Higashi Hongan-ji Temple is called a “monshu (monshu).”
Both the name and reality of that sect are at the top.
The head of the gate, who is now the 25th generation, is the third son of 4 brothers,
When I was a child, I was able to leave Higashi Honganji Temple, which is my parent,
raised in another place,
It is said that he was an office worker without becoming a monk.
However, Higashi Honganji Temple was taken as the head mountain,
There was a story about becoming the head of a large religious group called the Shinshu Otani School.

I left the temple all the time and lived a life far from the Buddha.
The age has also been expressed quite a bit.
I have to live a completely different way of life from now on,
I was truly at a major crossroads in my life.

My life up until now has been my own.
There must have been a lot of tough things up until now,
I think there is something different about the pain of becoming a monk.
But now we must shoulder the Grand Order.
If I don't take office, what will happen to the Order...,
Many monks and followers may be mentally lost...
I think it bothered you a lot.

Even if you turn down an offer to take office as head priest, you will regret refusing.
Even if he took office as head of the gate, he would regret it because that heavy pressure would be painful.
I can see that no matter which one you choose, your regrets will remain.
Then it was decided to accept the inauguration.

When I hear this story, something hot springs up in my heart.

Takani is still young.
Even if you fail, it's an age where you can start over again.
Why don't you dive into an unknown world?

If what if, it's not right for my vessels,
If you keep going any longer than this, you'll collapse yourself...
When that happens, you should think about the next development again.
Tomorrow's wind will blow tomorrow... (^_^) /ton!

Fear is born from ignorance and destroyed by knowing

Let's overcome fear itself.
Fear comes from ignorance.
Fear will disappear by itself by knowing.
Think about what you're afraid of right now.
Being afraid isn't a bad thing,
They say it's good to know, and it's good if you just know.
You should know what you should know, and you should know ❝ you don't know ❞.
It's a place where I'm creating a fuss called my own fear.
If you take a step to know that, you will continue to be a fearless person.

If you fail at that time, only then and then,

The regret of not doing it will last a lifetime.

Your boss must have approached you because he thought you were suited for that. I think it's because I felt a possibility that I wasn't even aware of. Even if it didn't work, it was just that my boss didn't have an eye for it. It's not all your responsibility.

So why not take on the challenge?

How to deal with fears and feelings of anxiety

Takani-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

In order to overcome fear and anxiety, I recommend that you first calmly and thoroughly observe the state of mind once.

Exactly when does such a heart occur, and can it be said that such a state of mind continues continuously while awake, all the time, or even when sleeping? Of course, it's not going on or going to last forever. If that is the case, the same fear and anxiety must have continued all the time from birth until death. In other words, fear and anxiety do not exist as an entity; they are “empty.”

Of course, even if it doesn't exist as an entity, that doesn't mean it doesn't exist at all. Also, it is impossible for such a heart to arise from nothing. It is always caused by some cause or condition, and in other words, it can be thought of as “good fortune.”

Therefore, by firmly grasping the cause or condition, if that cause or condition is somehow improved, it will surely be possible to somehow improve the occurrence of such feelings.

Simply put, for example, when you're immersed in something fun as a hobby or when you're relaxing and working on something you're good at, such a sense of fear or anxiety probably doesn't occur because it has flown away somewhere. However, in the current situation, this is probably what will happen when you start thinking about work.

For one thing, I think it would be good to be able to suppress and eliminate feelings of fear and anxiety by gradually applying the method, situation, stance, and attitude of mind when there is no fear or anxiety when doing something.

Anyway, I hope you can understand even a little bit just that fear and anxiety can be easily suppressed or eliminated by changing the causes and conditions.

Please also refer to the contents of the Zen question “Daruma Anshin,” which is a humble answer to the following question.

The question “If this heart doesn't exist, will that heart move?”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/380

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho