hasunoha

How should I deal with anxiety

Hello. Nice to meet you.
After I graduated from a certain regional national and public university, I left a graduate school at a certain former imperial university and now work for a major company.
I'm currently working in an IT department, and it's a system that makes many people happy while working (I think hasunoha is exactly that kind of system.) I started a job change activity hoping to make one.

I learned that an IT venture company I learned during job change activities was making a system useful to society, and I was hired after being interviewed. I'm thinking of honing my IT skills while being indebted to that company for a few years, and I'm going to step up further and create a system that is useful to people more widely.
However, when they changed jobs for the first time, they seem to be crushed by anxiety from major companies to ventures.
The income side, the details of the first business, will the company not go bankrupt, will it be possible to save money for old age... etc.

As a result of talking to many of my friends, I learned that they are twice as prone to anxiety as others. It's also insomnia.

Also, I have a girlfriend I've promised to get married to while living together. I'm thinking of cooperating with her for the rest of my life.
She also knows I have insomnia. In order not to make her worry, I want to face anxiety, overcome it if possible, and cure insomnia.

I practice mindfulness derived from zazen meditation, but I have a lot of worries (especially anxiety) and I can't concentrate well.

I often sympathize with Buddhist ideas, and I want to learn more and face my worries, but for example, if the idea of the sky says that there is nothing to be called an entity in this world, how should I interpret my love and trust for my girlfriend? I'm worried that if I get rid of my worries, I might not feel loved.

It's been a long time, so I'll summarize the question.
1. Don't the chief priests (sorry if the honorific title is different) feel uneasy? For example, don't you feel uneasy about becoming a chief priest? If so, how are you dealing with it?
2. On the other hand, I want to be useful to society, and on the other hand I want to go through life in cooperation with my beloved girlfriend, how should I deal with major anxiety (I also feel unfounded that I don't want to let them get lost on the road)?
3. I practice mindfulness, but how can I deal with my worries?
4. How should I use the teachings of Buddhism when dealing with anxiety?
5. I think anxiety is related to pride and height, but please tell me how to deal with pride.

4 Zen Responses

Don't forget who you are

Nice to meet you, hello.

I received a heartfelt cry. I opened the temple, which had been my dream for many years, in December of last year. It's just a temple with Ofudosama drawn by my daughter on a handmade altar with no gorgeous decorations or splendid Buddha statues. Extraction Yoraku () Gives relief from suffering... not forgetting this spirit and saving those in the midst of difficulties is a matter of hope above all else. Isn't it okay for temples and monks to have only funerals and memorial services, but also temples like this? That's because I thought so. As the temple introduction says, it is precisely because it has overcome various obstacles... that passion is strong.

When I think about events that haven't happened... I feel uneasy. To be honest, I'm the chief priest of a temple unknown since being an office worker. Even though it was close to penniless, I made up my mind to save all sentient beings. How can I let everyone know about me at the temple rather than thinking about anxiety that hasn't happened...? I wonder what I can do for those who think and visit...? It's a thought and error, but I'm clearing one by one while enjoying the trials I've been given

Worries and our “I” and greed cannot be erased. It's the same for us monks who have practiced ascetics, but we can devise ways to make it smaller. Also, these worries are things we must coexist with as we live. I became a monk and haven't eaten meat or fish at all, but don't you want to eat meat or anything from your family? As they say, I want to eat meat! My feelings and worries are small, and even though one person eats different dishes at the same dining table, they are not caught. If you change your mind... you'll also see the world you've always seen differently.

Your face at work, your face when you're with your lover, your face when you're with your family... how many are you using properly? Why don't you reduce the number of faces that are divided into multiple parts without being forced to dye your pride or the same because your surroundings are like this... Before you lose sight of who you really are, I think it's important to wash and spend time on your own as you are, just like washing dirty clothes to remove dirt. If you force yourself to decorate, not only will you get tired, but you'll also lose sight of yourself.

Because you have your strengths...

I hope you can arrange an adventure trip called life in your own way.

Gassho

Thank you for your question.
1. I have anxiety every day.
If you're prepared, you won't have to worry.
Do your best to do your best and wait for destiny.
All you have to do is prepare well on a regular basis.
I still don't run out of anxiety, but...
2. Working will be useful to society no matter what kind of job you do. I don't know the details of my current job, but isn't my current job also going around and being useful to society?
3. I can't answer about mindfulness if I don't do zazen.
However, it is important to live every day so as to eliminate anger, greed (wanting more than necessary), and complaints (ignorance, ignorance), which are common to Buddhism.
4. It is important to look specifically at future anxiety and implement countermeasures to that end now. Feelings alone cannot solve it. It's causal retaliation, so let's create as many causes as possible to get rid of anxiety.
5. Please throw away your pride.

Also, I feel that there are some misunderstandings about the sky, love, zazen, mindfulness, etc.
The sky does not mean nothing; it means that it is constantly changing due to various relationships.
Your love for her is priceless. However, it changes depending on the relationship, so be careful not to do bad deeds to prevent that from happening, and don't accumulate bad relationships.

The future comes by itself.

I read it.

Fighting anxiety is hard, and it causes insomnia, doesn't it?
Everyone has something called anxiety.
Buddha said, “Don't follow the past. Don't hope for the future. They say, “Live the present to the fullest.”
We have causal retaliation, and we are made up of logic (calculation formula) that if we do bad deeds, bad results will occur (bad cause and bad effect), and if we do good deeds, we will have good results (good cause and good effect).
There are many people who think “I've never been able to do anything until now, so I'm worried about whether I can do the next one” based on experiences that have occurred in the past. However, it is no good to follow the past, and by making the most of yourself in the present, anxiety will be resolved little by little.
There are no people who want to be rich and suddenly become rich, and even if they win the lottery, if they don't know how to use money, it will disappear and it is a factor that creates anxiety. There is a reason for the way of life, and it is impossible to run up by skipping 10 steps.
Let's get back to the main subject.
The word “nothing” in Buddhism does not mean “nothing will go away, and love for her will go away.” I hope you can take it that the emotional pain (obsession) that each of us has will disappear, and the so-called mind will become “free.”
Also, “sky” also appears in the Heart Sutra. This is an “uncomplicated thought, unfettered thought, unfettered thought” in order to become free.

Efforts (devotion) are necessary to achieve anything, and it is effort that makes wishes come true, and it is Buddha who gives hope.

Not all questions have been answered, but a bright future will arrive by living in the present.

A job that makes people happy is a wonderful altruistic business.

I sincerely pray that things will go smoothly.

Gassho

Namu Daishi Hensho Kongo

that's a little too exciting...

(I can only answer within 1000 characters, so I will summarize and state only the answers with that number.)

1. If you've been pouring out all of your eyes at that time (even if it's 80% of MAX), even if you're uneasy about the future, you can't do anything more.
There's no point in worrying about not being able to do anything.

2. Aim “here and now” to move towards the future. I will focus my energy on the “here and now” to create a past where you won't regret it. Even if you don't reach your goal as a result, there are no regrets.

3. We believe that zazen in the Soto sect's “taikan meditation” is zazen (teaching = practice) of the practice of thought and philosophy... (teaching). We recognize it as “something different from mindfulness,” so I can't answer that clearly.

4. Aren't you caught up in “opinions” (ways of thinking and values that are convenient for you)? I doubt it, and try to think about a different point of view or way of thinking about it.

5. “Pride” is... being unable to acknowledge one's own shortcomings, constantly comparing oneself to others and feeling superior and superior. On the other hand, “self-esteem”... is something that allows you to accept yourself, including your shortcomings, and feel that your very existence is precious. I think “devotion” is important so that “self-esteem” doesn't become “pride” before you know it, and don't lose your mind (I think it would be great if you had friends who can check each other)... I think “devotion” is important.

I haven't given specific examples, etc., so I think it's hard to understand...

If you narrow down your questions and divide them into several times, you may be able to express yourself a little more differently...

You can also select words by referring to past questions...

Sumimasen due to convenience... (-person-)