Please tell me about when to move a temple

My father suddenly passed away a year ago, and as recommended by the head family, I was taken care of at a temple (this is the Rinzai sect) where the head of the family and the chief priest have been friends since ancient times.

Just the other day, I finished the first anniversary of my father's death, and I would like to move to the temple as a milestone.

The reason is that they have often received difficult habits and high-pressure behavior from the original source since ancient times, and they are in a state where they are unable to come to terms. It's a temple that has a relationship with the head family, so if you take care of it from now on, inconveniences will occur due to the head office relationship (there have actually been several times in the past year), and I would like to avoid it if possible.

There is a story about explaining the circumstances etc. to the temple that they would like to move to and having them accept it.

So, as a question, should I firmly stick to the point that I would like to move on to the temple that took care of me for a year? If I should turn it on, should I just call or ask directly? Is it better to wrap it up as a feeling? I would like you to tell me things I should go to when it comes to moving a temple, etc.

Note, there are no graves yet, and no remains or rank signs have been deposited at the current temple.

Thank you for your support.

2 Zen Responses

The feeling of contributing

[Freedom of religion] is guaranteed by the Constitution, so unless a special contract has been signed, there is no particular obligation of any procedure, and there is no problem even if it suddenly disappears and moves to another location without permission.

However, if there is a feeling within you that you cannot be disrespectful, and if you have good intentions and conscience to think that it is a sign of gratitude or apology, then you should still fulfill your duties as carefully as possible in order to prevent your subsequent dreams from getting worse.

Of course, I think it would be preferable to visit properly and talk while seeing the face of the chief priest. I don't know if there is a temple that says give me a separation fee these days, but it might be a good idea to wrap [in front of the Buddha] as a final contribution to the temple you are indebted to. If it is possible to bear some burden, why not join the [permanent memorial service]?

I called and said hello. The chief priest who received the kyo name was his mentor.

Why don't you explain everything over the phone and then ask for greetings?
If you haven't left your grave or remains, I don't think there's any inconvenience.
When visiting, why don't you write “in front of the principal image” or “in front of the Buddha,” wrap money of about 5,000 yen to 10,000 yen, and make an offering.
There are differences between temples, such as annual fees and contributions as a devotee, but if there are any unpaid things, it is necessary to make a settlement.
Did the father who passed away give him a commandment name by the current chief priest of the temple?
If that's the case, the current chief priest is my father's mentor when it comes to Buddhism.
A disciple leaves his mentor who has taken care of him and sets out in search of another master.
I don't think it would be disrespectful if you were faced with that kind of feeling.

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