What does truancy mean going to school

I don't think people worry too much about truancy.
We tend to think that we have to follow the rules of the world no matter what, but from the point of view of having various experiences, I think we have come to an important time.
Think of these days as an important time to become an adult, so why don't you keep them in your diary?
Someday, I think there will come a time when I understand the importance of that diary.
Please have confidence in who you are now and have a proud time.
Incidentally, Buddha is a former NEET.

Good evening, Kyoko.
For me, I don't have very good memories of my middle school/high school days.
It was over 30 years ago from now,
The middle school was swirling with “school violence,” and the middle school I attended
There was a lot of noise in newspapers and on TV.

When it came to high school, it was also a school I wasn't my first choice,
I didn't really feel like going.
In addition to this, I was also bullied.
In the end, I was absent for over 200 days during my first and second year of high school.
If it's a class with a small number of hours,
After being absent for 1 more day, I ended up at the point where it was called retirement age.

It's not a good memory,
I can laugh now and talk about those days.
For Kyoko, such a day will always come someday ('-`).

When I refused to go to school, I had the illusion that I was doing something really bad.
My parents are worried too.
But that was the only option I could find at that time.

Kyoko's case is different from mine,
The feeling that you're sorry and doing something bad...
Just like me 30 years ago.

It's been a long time since I went to school, and I'm still nervous.
That was the case with me.
If I am absent from health and physical education for 1 more hour, I will be told that it will be a retirement age,
I wonder if I started attending the 3rd semester of high school in mid-January...

Kyoko wrote it too, but if you have friends who worry about you,
I've never been so happy.
I had one too.
“There are people who do weird things to you, but don't worry about it, come here.”
I had one friend who encouraged me.
It was still a difficult school life for me, as I resumed going to school,
I wonder how much better his words made me feel...

If you have just a little bit of a desire to do your best,
Why don't you bet on that?
But after all, if you think it's going to be hard... there's no need to overdo it and go to school.
Don't think too much about it.
You should take it easy and look for opportunities... (^^).

Something I didn't really understand when I was a student.
It was “normal.”
Who is the normal kid in the class?
is that girl? this kid? No, this kid isn't stupid either.
There aren't any futsu kids, are there?
I don't think I can say anything out of the ordinary either.
I mean, the fact that everyone is separate is less normal.
Please have a lot of confidence.
There are no futuristic kids.
They may look normal on the surface, but on the inside they all fall apart.
A kid who is good at doing well in front of his teacher.
Even if I fit into my circle of friends, I simply don't have the courage to be alone.
You don't have to be normal.
Incidentally, I was special and unusual.
It's a real Asian kung fu generation where only one person wears school-designated shoes called coach, wears kung fu shoes.
That's what makes me who I am now. I'm also glad that was it.
It's good if you do something fun and something that makes you feel comfortable.
But little by little, it's important to cultivate your official side as well.
You don't have to try to fit in with your surroundings.
My own perspective plus, official little by little.
But just like you're comfortable.

Kyoko
I'm Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an.
I like going to the temple to pray, but it seems like it's hard to get to school.

It's not that I don't want to go, it's not that I can't go because I don't have a clear reason. I want to do my best, but I can't go. I think that's very painful.

How did you feel when you were diagnosed at the hospital and called “adjustment disorder and autonomic nervous ataxia”?
Did you feel uneasy? Or were you relieved to know what kind of situation you were in?

I want them to proceed steadily without overdoing it too much. I dare to use this word, but please do your best step by step.
But even if you do your best and gather your courage and go to school, people may say something bad, like “What, why are you here.” On the other hand, “Ah! long time no see! I missed you!” You may be happy to say something.
Be prepared and expect that both are possible, and walk slowly.

Kyoko

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

The meaning of going to school was slightly lost and they became truant, and there are diagnoses of adjustment disorder and autonomic nervous ataxia, and I hope they are aiming to return little by little while consulting with doctors, family, teachers, friends, and above all else, your own condition.

As opposed to “truancy,” he became “absolute school attendance,” and in fact, he never showed up late, was absent, or left early for 12 years of elementary, middle, and high school. In middle and high school, while also doing club activities for the baseball club, I thought I was able to do my best, but after that unreasonable seriousness was a disaster, and after that, I got a stomach ulcer and got sick, failed college entrance exams, and my college life was half-hearted, and there was still a backlash...

Now that I'm learning Buddhism, I'm thinking again that it's important to have a good balance without difficulty.

In difficult Buddhist terms, it's “middle way,” but if you can't overdo it anyway, don't overdo it. Of course...

For example, if you strangle the strings of a koto too hard, the strings will eventually break and you won't be able to make a sound. However, if the strangling is too weak, the strings will loosen and no sound will come out. It's neither strong, nor weak, and the strings of the koto make just the right sound when tightened to medium. In this way, I hope you can work at your own pace without overdoing it while making firm estimates.

Also, by comparing yourself in various ways with others, you may despise yourself, fall into self-loathing, or forcibly push yourself into it, but I hope you can just think that “comparing” is meaningless for now. Regarding “comparison,” I have dealt with some of the past questions and answers so far. Some of the content is a bit difficult, but I hope you can refer to it if you like.

As an aside... I know there is something you can gain even if you read the book by serial entrepreneur Kazuma Ieiri, who is working on creating various places all over Japan and ran in the previous Tokyo gubernatorial election, so if you are interested, please check it out.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho