hasunoha

It's painful

Relationships aren't going well (;;)
It's hard being alive.
No one can understand loneliness.
I had sex with someone I met on an online dating site, but it was vain and I didn't feel good (;;)
How can I fill the gaps in my heart?
Keroppi supports my heart.

4 Zen Responses

Loneliness cannot be filled with ad hoc acts

Loveless sexual intercourse, like alcohol and drugs, is nothing but temporary relaxation, and it is a prelude to happiness.
Not being able to build relationships... is an area you're not good at. If so, why don't you make use of your field of expertise to find new hobbies, etc.? If it is something active, there will be many encounters, and if it is someone who has the same hobbies and the same values, it will be easier to build relationships.

If that's painful, it might be a good idea to keep a pet such as a dog or cat.
Pets are now like family members. It will surely heal your heart.

Let's find a boyfriend

I wonder if I want a boyfriend.
Then how about attending a street party or matchmaking party?
Let's look for people similar to Keroppi.
Someone who is kind, has big eyes, and loves singing.
Don't forgive your body right away.

There must be real intentions in the depths of my heart

That sounds painful.

It's painful to have loneliness that no one can understand.
I've asked myself before what “loneliness” is.
There may be a lot of them, but I've arrived at two.
There are two types of loneliness: “homesick” loneliness and loneliness “not needed by anyone.”

Homesick goes back to a place where you feel safe. You can also satisfy it by getting a place where you can feel safe, but the loneliness of “not being needed by anyone” is hard to satisfy.
In Pikki-san's case, isn't it loneliness “not needed by anyone” that she tried to fill with sexual intercourse?
At least during sexual intercourse, the partner needs it.
But that's just the time.
It can't be a fundamental solution.

Being “not needed by anyone” includes myself.
Aren't you always putting off what you want to do and putting others first?
It's about holding back your true self.

First, why don't you take a fresh look at the foundation of yourself?

Let's ask ourselves a question.
“What did you really want to do?”

I'm sure you'll find your honest self in the depths of your heart.
Please take good care of yourself.

Are humans the only ones who can fill their loneliness?

Isn't the questioner slightly dependent on others or expecting too much?
Maybe childhood trauma is coming out in adulthood.

It doesn't have to be a human to fill loneliness, it can be a hobby.
Also, if you build relationships from hobby gatherings, it's natural, and it's safer than dating.
Taking a walk while basking in the sun and light exercise habits are also good.