The monk's

My parents' house is a temple, but it's a small temple where I work leisurely every day without any hardships.
Each temple is a different religious corporation, and policies vary depending on each chief priest.
If you were to become a chief priest, you would still need knowledge of Buddhism, education, daily work, and constant devotion. If you're a chief priest, you'd be better off doing calligraphy and manners than the general public.

However, a wife only marries a man who is a monk, and this does not mean that she marries a temple. Basically, it's the same as a normal family, and if you get married, you'll have to adjust to some extent to the other person's family's methods, but the only thing you should cherish is the happiness of your husband and yourself.

There are various ways to do it depending on the temple, so I can't say it unequivocally, but if it's necessary for the temple, the monk who is the heir to it should also wear it, so wouldn't it be best to have him teach it?
At any rate, the most important thing is for you and him to have a friendly and happy family.

My mother is a temple wife, and she is afro, dread, and looks funky, and she goes out part-time in the summer, and she likes alcohol and is far from the image of a temple wife, but I've never been ashamed to have such a mother as a temple wife. They are loved by their friends, and they have had a positive impact on the temple.
There is no teaching that a temple wife should be like this. Let's go freely.

... But if I had to have just one essential item, would it be to always smile?
If you smile all the time, your family and those who come to the temple will surely feel at ease.

That monk is happy to have a girlfriend who seriously worries me like this.
I'm sure you'll make a good wife.
I sincerely wish you a happy future.

Good evening. Thank you for having a relationship with the temple and the monk.
My wife came to the temple at age 20. At first, I was confused by the differences in common sense between normal (each house has its own culture). “No matter how far in advance you have planned, your travel plans will turn into an old lady with just one funeral.” After that, a lot of people will come, so you have to deal with them, get dumbfounded by a parishioner about your heir, fold up your kimono, etc...
To be honest, I think there are many things that are different from a “normal” home, but now “after all, no matter where you go, you have no choice but to get used to it in that place. It seems that they have come to think, “You can't stick to your own fixed image.” It seems that they think it is important to be flexible about how plasticity you are and how you can change things.
Now they have appeared at women's associations at temples, and it seems that they are “loved by old ladies.”
So, from my point of view, I think it's better to be aware that “I'm going to be married to this person, but I got married at a temple.” That's because it seems like I can convince myself with that one word. After that, “I'm a beginner, so please tell me,” is probably humility in exaggerated terms. I think this is a good deal for younger people. Even if they say, “You don't have common sense,” they don't get dented, and they say, “Excuse me, please tell me.”
They seem to be withdrawn, and I actually feel that they have quite a wide range of relationships.
Also, this is the minimum, being able to put your hand on your husband, the Buddha at the temple. I think these are all must-haves. That's because it's where he stands.
Until now, there have been several similar questions at hasunoha, so why not take a look.
Finally, ask him this question. Not only boys are happy to hear that.

It depends on the temple ✨

In a nutshell, yes ❗

But it would be great if it was a temple with a warm family ✨

Personally, rather than having good handwriting and great manners, it's best to be able to empathize with people's feelings by drinking coffee or tea with people who laughed and prayed a lot ✨

As everyone said, it depends on the temple, so I'll just introduce it as my case

What is important as a wife

・Flowers can be placed neatly in the main hall vase
Seen symmetrically from the front, clearly, and at the same angle

・Avoid being away from home as much as possible
It depends on the location of the temple, but I don't know when and who will come, so I always try to keep someone left

・Be careful with your wording
Temples overwhelmingly have many opportunities to interact with older people, so I think it's better to be careful about the wording above all else

・Learn how to be polite when it comes to visitors
Memorize how to take tea with you when serving it, etc., how your body moves when opening and closing a shoji, and the order in which you serve it

I wonder if this is all I can think of

Also, some of the content that you probably think is painful is that you may attend Teraniwa Women's Association etc. as a temple wife
There are also people who don't like that area and don't like it, so is it still courtesy and communication
As a feeling, I think it's close to a community association or something like that rather than mom's friend

I'll leave the Chugai Ilbo article as a reference for the time being
Reference URL; http://www.chugainippoh.co.jp/NEWWEB/n-shasetu/09/0910/shasetu091003.html

The hardest part is
Believers, other temples, traders, relatives, etc.
Is it necessary to maintain diverse relationships?

In other words,
If you don't like socializing,
You can become a temple wife without any problems.