Is it right to go back to my parents' house to declare a state of emergency

I don't think it's forgivable, but with the issuance of a state of emergency this time, I'm going to send my son back home who went to Tokyo on Saturday.
I moved to my parents' house from Tokyo at the end of March to attend graduate school. I left for the university dormitory in Tokyo again for a new life starting in April. It was the person's strong hope.
I went there at my own request, so I was prepared to be infected with the coronavirus, and I didn't think they would come back.
But when his father came back soon... what was he leaving for? Isn't the current move bothersome for everyone? ... However, if you stay in Tokyo and get infected, you'll regret it... I think it's selfish, but it's painful when you think about it.
In the first place, we should have discussed it a little more when we let them go, but the person himself absolutely has to go! I hate it when my identity isn't guaranteed! I have to do an interview with my supervisor! I was thinking about something sweet, etc.
It was really sweet!
My daughter is back home now, and what should I do if she gets infected too! When I said that, my father is so cold! I'm angry, and even if I come back, I won't be welcomed.
It's our fault that we didn't discuss it, but now I'm alone wondering what to do
I think it would be better to stay in Tokyo, but I'm worried about cooking for myself that I'm not used to, and if I'm in a situation where I can't eat until I go shopping outside after all, wouldn't it be safer to go back to my parents' house? It makes me think like that.
Don't come back! Speaking of which, it seems that she is a cold person to her husband, who is her father, and when she comes back, she is afraid of when she will be infected with the virus, and her heart is undecided.
could you give me this advice

4 Zen Responses

By what standards is “correct”

Hello, nice to meet you.
You're probably worried about a lot of things under the tense situation these days.

Homecoming hasn't been decided yet, is it? I will answer on the assumption that opinions are divided within the family and no decision has been made.

The question is “is homecoming correct?”, but the question is where is “correctness” based on the criteria? From a friendly point of view, there's the “right” to keep it close because you're worried.

However, during this period when a state of emergency is declared today, I don't think returning home using public transportation from Tokyo, which has already been moved just last week, is a “correct” decision from the viewpoint of not being infected or spreading. Rather, it is conceivable that they have dared to raise the level of risk.

Also, since I'm going on to graduate school, if I don't have a library or laboratory nearby with highly specialized related materials, my son will want to go back to Tokyo as long as this situation is prolonged.

When I think about these things comprehensively, I think it would be better not to go home as a third party.

If you find it helpful

Is it your problem or your problem

I'm guessing.
But I dare say sorry for the unkind words.

It's not bad that we haven't talked about it until now; it's good to take this opportunity to discuss it.
In response to father's opinions, mother's thoughts, daughter's anxiety,
It is important not only to argue your own opinions, but also to have a perspective on how you can convince other family members. This leads to wisdom and ingenuity.

If it's just a matter of cooking for yourself, it's also possible to send food from your parents' house.
Is it possible to call home a place you can't go back to when something serious happens?
Is there such a difference in safety between my parents' house and Tokyo

What Gon-chan decides also takes away the son's experience of making judgments.
・Proposals for materials that are easy for my son to judge
・How to grab information in the city.
・Does the academic advisor want a meeting or is it possible to communicate via email etc.

Why don't you gather information before deciding on a conclusion, etc.

Whose “correctness” do you prioritize?

Everyone makes judgments based on their own values
I act when I think it's right.
Because each person is different
Values and correctness are not exactly the same.

It's the same between families.
Even if it's about caring for each other
It is natural for misalignment to occur.

If that's the case
I think the values of the person in question should be prioritized.
and
Respect that judgment
Giving as much support as possible
I think it's family.

Please start with something you can do even from afar

　I think it's unsettling that your precious child is in an area where a state of emergency has been declared. I'm so sorry. Please take care of yourself too.
But let's avoid careless actions and do what we can now.
① What will happen to graduate school fees?
② What will happen to the cost of the stay?
③ What kind of country guarantees can I receive?
④ What should I do for remittance?
⑤ What will happen to medical expenses?
⑥ Make a mask by hand and send it
There must be many things you can do even if you are far away. You should be precise about what you can do now. It's also important not to accumulate stress.
Get the right information so that there is no prejudice or discrimination due to infectious diseases.

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