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The child is sick and in critical condition

At last, the relationship where I was able to ask questions came to an end.
I now have a 13 year old daughter and 6 year old son. My 6-year-old son developed a childhood cancer called neuroblastoma 3 years ago and was in remission once after 1 year of fighting the disease. It recurred six months later and continues to this day.
After it recurred, I had more than 10 doses of chemotherapy and 30 doses of radiation therapy, but the momentum of the cancer cells did not decline and rather got stronger, and finally my condition suddenly changed yesterday at night. Among the metastases to the whole body, metastases to the spinal cord and lungs pass at a considerable speed, and breathing difficulties already cause loss of consciousness.

I've been hoping it will heal. Why is he my son? I asked myself that question. I hope I can do more for this child, and I hope they heal while holding hands even now. But I can see that lives are about to run out.

This kid taught me a lot of things. They say it's great just to be here. they say they're happy just being alive. I've seen the power of this child to influence various people and change them for the better while being hospitalized due to illness.
I'm so excited to be this child's mother.

But I'm so sad that I can't help it. I still want to be together. But I don't want them to suffer any more. I want to at least let them pass away happy so they can sleep peacefully.

There were a lot of things I wanted to apologize for not being able to give birth to them healthily, but even more than that, I wanted to say thank you for liking them.

Can this kid go without feeling lonely? Will we meet again? Can you stay away?
What should I do to live my life after this so that I don't feel ashamed of this child?

Please tell me

4 Zen Responses

Don't worry, we will continue to be with you

Hello, nice to meet you.

The agony of worrying about your son. Also, I understand the various thoughts that intersect in your own heart. It must be painful.

Your straight thoughts, condensed into one word, “I'm glad I'm the mother of this child,” are conveyed. Certainly, compared to others, the thought “I'm sorry I couldn't give you a healthy birth” may also grab your mind for a moment. However, it's probably a feeling that I'm glad I had a relationship with this child, and that I'm glad I'm the mother of this child.

I'm asking how to “live after this so as not to be embarrassed by this child.” Did you tell your son to become... Did you wish you would be a famous mother or a great mother? That shouldn't be the case. Just who you are is what your child wants you to be. Is it necessary to make an effort to become something, do we need to do something? Loving your child is, and will always be, the path you should go.

Your presence is probably the happiest thing for your son.
Amidst the seriousness of illness, your warmth is what is more important than anything else.

“Will we meet again? I'm asking, “Can you stay away?”
I'll say it from above the Jodo Shinshu sect.

We'll see you again from now on.

Amida Nyorai, the lord of the Pure Land of Paradise, says that everyone should be welcomed and left to them. Also, there is a sutra that although there are before and after the end of life, we can always meet again in the Pure Land of Paradise. If you are welcomed into paradise, the person who first went to your place to hold hands and nenbutsu will come meet you. Together with Amida Nyorai.

The two of them are the same in their lives with their son up until now, and where they will go from now on.
Please don't worry.
Please take good care of yourself.

If you have a relationship, please listen to the puja too.

“What is the Jodo Shinshu” | The color of Jodo Shinshu #001
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Thank you so much for being born. Precious children.

To my son who is working hard to live now
To everyone in the family who has been watching and supporting you all this time,

I am sending you the words “Don't worry, I will definitely save you” from the Buddha.

Namu Amida Buddha Nana Amidabutsu

What kind of feelings do you have right now?
How much strength is your child using to breathe right now? Do your whole body with all your might.

When I think so, it's frustrating that I can't do anything.
I'm thinking about it from here.
May the mercy of Amida, the Buddha of the Pure Land, be sure to reach everyone.

The only way to save Amida is to say Nembutsu.
That salvation is “always saved, always met, in the Pure Land”
don't worry about anything. They're calling you because they've already wrapped you up.

Go ahead, have a nenbutsu.
That is an eternal connection.
We can live together forever.
That's because it's a promise of salvation from Amida.

Really, work hard, what a good kid.
Thank you for being born.
Precious later. Thanks and love.

Namu Amida Buddha Nana Amidabutsu

Postscript...
He was a really strong kid until the end of his life.
That's why I'm so sad.
When I think about the grief of everyone in the family...
My deepest condolences. We clap hands.

Certainly a precious life that survived.
Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
And I'll be by your side from now on.

It will stay by your side

I read it. Right now, my son is battling an intractable disease, isn't he?

This is my son who faced his illness firmly for 3 years and fought by enduring the severity of his illness and the severity of treatment. It was probably a longer and more painful experience than it is now.
The reason I was able to endure that was because your family, the one you love the most, always snuggled up to him and stayed by his side, shrouded in anxiety.

Mother's voice is being heard. Even in his blurry consciousness, he, who is patient, should be taking your words firmly as a light. Even so, you might be worried if your mother just apologizes. Please let him know how much you appreciate him.

Even if your life runs out in the future, as long as you stay close to his life as before without scratching your feet in an attempt to forcibly overcome your grief “so as not to be embarrassed by my child,” he will now be by your dangerous side. And when you get lost, they'll show you the way.

Thank you so much for sharing that thought with Hasunoha.
Namu Myōhō Renge Kyō

Your child chose you as your mother.

I've read your question.
Your child's recovery
I sincerely pray for you.
The only thing I can do is believe and pray
There is no such thing.
Let's believe and pray.
Children often
It's called a gift,
I'm looking at it from the sky
OK, this person this time
I think I chose it with my mother.
This is because they were born later
That's because they're coming.

Probably Kannon Bosatsu
Seishi Bosatsu
In order to teach the world,
I think it may have been broken.

like an angel,
bright and shining,
The feeling is kind,
A compassionate child
Isn't it?

If you get sick when you're a child,
I mean
This is a big deal.
It's something that even adults grieve.

Your kids are doing their best.

the preciousness of life,
the brilliance of life,
What does it mean to be alive
What is life,
What is a parent,
What is a child

this shaba world,
Learning in the world of phenomena
They said they would give it to us
I think they are there.

It's strange to be a parent and child.
Parents seem to teach their children,
A lot of things
I'm being taught.

It just so happens that in this world, parents and children,
In the next life,
Bodhisattva and Hikyuni = nun
So, from my son
When it comes to being taught,
It might happen.

I pray for recovery!

PostScript

I read your reply.
I would like to express my deepest condolences.
The kids did their best.
I lived very hard.
It was a splendid way to live.
From now on
From the Pure Land of Paradise,
As a Bodhisattva
Everyone in the family
They will keep an eye on you.
Even if they lose their shape,
The brightness of the son,
brilliance, and love,
It's forever.

It's a long way off,
You are in the Pure Land of Paradise
When I came back,
Thank you for your hard work, Mom.
and with a smile, from my son
They'll tell you, so it's fine!

I wish you all the best.