How should I recover from my mistakes and regrets

Hello.
I have now quit my job and am looking for a job.
The other day, I received a message from my previous business partner saying “I want you to come to our company.”
At that time, I was in the process of selecting the company of my first choice.

The first company I wanted to apply for was a creative job, and the salary and treatment were high.
The company I was talking about is a clerical job, and the salary and treatment are about normal.
They were both in the same industry, and it was a dream industry I had longed for when I was a new graduate.

I was worried, but I declined to talk and decided to wait for the results of my first choice.
I couldn't give up on aiming for my old dream job.
Also, I've been busy working until now,
I decided that “office work doesn't seem worthwhile.”
However, the result was that they were rejected, and they were unable to join either company.

Now it's
I'm full of regrets about the company I turned down.
Since it was office work, it wasn't the job I wanted to do,
The atmosphere and people of the company were very nice.
Also, no matter what form it is, even if I was happy as long as I had entered the industry I admired
I think so.
Even though the path to the industry I admired had been paved, I think it was really stupid for me to have high hopes.
Now, I don't know why I thought I wanted to do the creative job I had been longing for so much.
It's a narrow-gated industry, and even though I've been told to talk about it, it's a valuable opportunity
I blame myself for not noticing it.

It's the result of making a stupid decision myself, so I'm trying to think “it can't be helped,”
No matter what, I can't get it out of my head.
No matter what I do, I can't get it out of my head, and it's hard.
I don't even have the energy to do my next job hunt.

At a time like this, what should I start with to get out of this state?
I would appreciate it if you could tell me.

4 Zen Responses

This is it

In Zenmon, there is a dharma tool called chikpei (bamboo stick), which is the root of the word “shippe.” It's a bow folded in half, and it has no strings or arrows, so it's completely useless as a bow.
It's just like junk.
What is this seemingly junk tool called Shippei?
It's the very truth of Buddhism, Shinnyo, “that's just it,” and this is it.
As it is, it means that it's true.
Simply put, it means adversity, a negative situation just like you are in.
Even under such circumstances, if you are not free to live or kill yourself, you won't be able to overcome the rough seas of this world.
You're just making it a negative factor, and IT is IT. I'm not wearing a good or bad color.
Therefore, it is only by being able to use oneself, which is this IS IT state, which is in this IS IT state that is useless at first glance, that it is only possible to find a way out.

The reason you're unmotivated is because you were trying to get something.
However, you have obtained a state where you are not bound by both.
I have gained my freedom. I have unlimited hours of activity. You have limitless options.
I have unlimited time. I'm getting time to relax with my family. I have time to think in order to correct the trajectory and rebuild the direction.
By taking a huge loss, I have been blessed with advice for the rest of my life so that I won't be fooled by my sense of loss.
It's not a loss in the eyes of others. It's not the end. That's not the end.
You are the only one who sees it in your mind.

Keep on looking for a job without getting bothered.

　China-san. What was just a choice mistake? They probably turned it down because they weren't satisfied with it. You made a good choice. A job I'm not satisfied with is a link, and if I find something good, I can see that they went to an interview there. It just so happened that my favorite was off this time, but there's still more to come. Being bogged down is a waste of time. If you let this recession go awry, your opportunities will run away.
Write your resume right now. That's it. What bothers me after that is, “I got a job offer at a place that isn't my favorite, should I go?” I'll see you at

The fish I missed is big

　Once acquired and lost, things look more amazing than they really are.

If I had joined the company of my second choice, would they refuse to accept it even if I received an employment notification from the company of my first choice? If that happens, you'll regret it in the same way, “why didn't you wait for the first choice.”

China-sama must have turned down the company of his second choice because he couldn't do that. And I think that was the right decision this time around.

From now on, there will be any number of situations where there is a choice between the two. At that time, I'm sure this experience will come to life.

“Don't return to the covered water tray”

China-sama

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

There is a story called “It doesn't return to the covered water tray.”

Certainly, once water has been spilled on the ground, it cannot be returned back to the basin (bowl/bowl). However, new water can also be filled into that tray (bowl/bowl).

Humans make various mistakes, regrets, and reflect on more than once. But don't get caught up in it forever. If you only use it once and fail, the pot or bowl will not be able to play the role of storing and transporting the original water, and it will be a waste. China-sama is still a vessel that can take on more challenges. After taking a short break to change your mood and feel refreshed, be sure to prepare for the next fresh water.

Also, please refer to the humble answers to the questions below.

The question “How do I get out of my feelings of regret?”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/225

“... the past that has passed will never be recovered, but if you keep being caught up in it, it won't change at all. I think the question is what we should do now and in the future. ・・”

Question “I'm looking for a job in a hurry and regret it.”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/109

“... I sincerely pray that when the firm intention of this is eventually solidified, I will finally be able to believe in myself, and that I will be able to work on various things with that confidence. ・・”

Finally, as a slightly Buddhist story...

In this auspicious world, Buddhism emphasizes the cause (effect) of good cause and effect. If we want good results, it is important to do good deeds with a pure and unpolluted mind. It's not good to be caught up in worries such as regrets and feelings of resentment forever. While we can continue to do good deeds without being misled by worries any more, I pray that we will be blessed with good relationships in the future and that we will be blessed with good relationships.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho

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