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I came to my workplace where the drinking party was absolute.

I'm worried about quitting my job.
I'm a 30-year-old civil servant, and I'm tired of the village society that is smaller and too old than I had imagined.

At the drinking party the other day, the top of the club said, “I can't really see the abilities of people below. That's why I measure that guy by drinking and setting up drinking parties.”
“If you can't drink alcohol either, I'll skip it right away!”
I was told.

I doubted my ears.
I didn't even have an image of how much work I would let my subordinates do at what level, and I proudly stated that they would only evaluate people at drinking parties.

I can't drink alcohol, and I can't keep up with the topics around me (pachinko, home).
I know it's bad to be a 30-year-old man with an otaku hobby.
The fact that I'm not married is also being messed around a lot by people around me.
What the hell should I do?

I now realize that it was only thanks to my youth that I had been properly misled until this year.
I'm hopeless about life.
I think changing jobs for civil servants over the age of 30 is pretty tough.

This is a messy question, could you give me some words?
Thank you for your support.

4 Zen Responses

Wait for the storm to pass

Hello, nice to meet you.

The boss said, “If you evaluate people only at drinking parties, they will speak out in a dignified manner.”
It's certainly unreasonable. As you say, it's natural to be evaluated for work.

However, if you are a civil servant, I think there will be regular transfers.
“I've come to work” means that you are also in your current department due to a transfer.

Your boss may not evaluate you at this point.
However, as time and circumstances change, there will always be opportunities for them to evaluate you.

There is no need for “despair” or “job change” for such unreasonable people.

However, on the surface from a generational perspective, I think it would be good to wait for the stormy weather to pass while trying to clear up the weather while overdoing it a bit.

Please cheer up and carry on with your duties as before.
I support you

Probably just kidding

I think that manager probably meant it as a joke.
You don't have to take it seriously.

Let's create a work environment where everyone can work comfortably

 Good morning, Iitami. I read the consultation, and I can clearly see that Iitami is upset by her boss's remarks, which surprised me myself.

As the phrase “ten people are ten colors” indicates, originally, each person has a diverse way of life and way of thinking, and each person has a different worldview and culture. It would be best if we could respect each other as it is, but if our lives or health are threatened, I would like to continue devising ways to make them understand. So, here are two suggestions I can think of.
1. Everyone in the department should come together and make suggestions to the boss so that not only Iitami but also people stop coercing them to drink alcohol at future drinking parties.
2. Visualize the results of work within the department.

Currently, as there is a definition of the term alcohol harassment, it is prohibited by law to force people to drink alcohol in educational settings, workplaces, etc. They also helped spread alcohol patch tests, etc., and it became known that about 40% of Japanese people are vulnerable to alcohol. Along with the legal basis, if decisions within the department can be unified, it will be easier to make suggestions to superiors.

Also, Iitami's boss seems to be the type to “measure human abilities by dealing with alcohol and setting up drinking parties,” but I recommend visualizing the results of daily work throughout the department. While protecting each other's lives and health, I don't think I would be so happy as a boss if my ability to handle work within my department improves and communication improves, but what do you think? I think it will change to a comfortable working environment for everyday work and for juniors coming in in the future. I also think it's quite difficult to change jobs due to the COVID-19 pandemic. Please don't take it alone, and try talking with people in your department so that your current workplace can be easier to work.

Thank you very much for contacting Hasunoha.

That's tough. It's painful.

A career as a civil servant
Nothing is wasted.
No matter how many government offices
I don't think all bosses are like that
Wouldn't you be patient until the next personnel change?

I'm also in Shimoto
A social gathering with only drinkers isn't interesting
I'm sitting there smiling in part because of my relationships.