I was told again... (ToT)

Today, my mother came home from her morning work at the temple
I was suddenly made to stand on the edge of a cliff, and mercifully told me that if I didn't pray at the temple, my whole body would hurt and I wouldn't be saved...

Every time I listen to this, I think in my heart that it will happen again
The monk who says it's always the same; before, please visit the sun... please watch the temple every month
I've done everything

Certainly, I think it's my fault for not going to the temple...

Recently, every time I see a monk, I feel bad
When I prayed at a temple in Hiroshima, I felt refreshed

I was listening to that today, so it makes me freak out again

My mother also insistently says that she worshipped me every time she saw my face

it feels like everything has come to a standstill and it's painful...

5 Zen Responses

Religious people who say “bad things will happen if you don't do it” are suspicious

Even in religious groups with a tradition of 1000 or 500 years, depending on the person, there are people who commit fraud or even spiritual and commercial laws, and there are wonderful people who seriously and sincerely believe, whether it is an emerging religion. The opposite is also true.
Sadly, there are a certain number of people like that in my denomination...
To identify such people, the first thing to do is not trust people who say “bad things will happen if you don't do it.” No matter what kind of religion it is, please think that acts threatening with such invisible things are suspicious, whether malicious or not.
Of course, morally, you may be taught the teaching of causal retribution that “if you do bad things, bad things will happen,” but not going to a temple or not paying anything... is not a misconduct.
Any religious organization is ultimately one-on-one. Let the consultant determine it with his own eyes.

Don't hate us either.

　“Every time I see a monk, I feel bad”...
Don't hate us either.

I looked at the previous questions and answers.
I also agree completely with the other monks who answered.

Kazu-san, let's reread the previous monk's answers one more time and do what we can.
In particular, Daijishi's answer to the second question should be very helpful.
I'm sure Kazu is a kind person, and isn't he the type you can't refuse? Me too.
However, I recommend that you pluck up your courage and approach this with a resolute attitude.

Why don't you talk to other relatives

Your wife's parents and relatives are of other denominations, aren't they?
If it's not a suspicious denomination, why don't you talk to them once?

Have a strong will

I also read past questions

Poke it, can that make your whole body sick! , and knock it off

In the first place, religion is for yourself, please choose the religion you believe in
Please don't attack such suspicious emerging religions with a stronger will

Do monks have greed, anger, laziness, and pride

Most monks still have their worries. Me included.
If that monk says something, or if your mother says anything,
Try reading “greed, anger, laziness, pride” in your mind.
I think the emotion when a monk or mother says something will hit one of the afflictions of greed, anger, laziness, or pride.
All you have to do is look at it with compassion, saying, “This monk is also driven by worries and saying things like this, he's pretty cute, isn't he?”
Also, since everyone has things they can do and things they can't do, it's good to say they can't do it when they can't.

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