Why are we nervous and can we not be misled by nervousness

Ayumi-sama.
Nice to meet you, my name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an.

When I read the question text, I felt a strong desire to “be useful to people,” and when I suddenly looked at the age, I was very surprised that they were in their teens. When I was in my teens, I probably only thought about myself, and I didn't think I wanted to be useful to others.

Well, these are questions and answers from a long time ago, but please see the link.
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/20

I think “number of times, beginning again,” is important as it was at this time.
Originally, I wasn't good at speaking in public, but as a monk, I got used to speaking in public at memorial services, funerals, etc. However, in situations that are different from usual, such as wedding speeches or cheers at banquets, the sense of tension rises all at once. It doesn't seem like “I'm no longer nervous.”

Ayumi says, “I can't stop shaking and I can't control my body at all,” so she's probably pretty nervous. When I stand in front of you and talk, people close to me also look at me with a different expression than usual. This is probably also a factor that intensifies tension.

I don't know where Ayumi will speak, but if the listeners include friends, etc., let's ask them to “support me,” “listen to the story and nod,” and “follow up if you fail.” I think this alone will give you a little sense of security.

In particular, “nodding” is important, and I do this consciously even when I'm on the side of listening to people's conversations. This is because when you look at the listener nodding, the speaker can calm down by saying “they are listening properly and are being conveyed.”

The fact that Ayumi became the leader this time may also be an opportunity to overcome her weaknesses. It's okay if you fail a little bit, please try it out.

　Sumidayu Takemoto, the puppet joruri bunraku dayu, who will soon retire, seems to still be nervous about the first day, even though it is a living national treasure. That's true even for 89-year-old celebrities.

I think I'm used to speaking in public from my standpoint, but I get really nervous when I'm in front of my first temple, place, or people who see it for the first time.

My solution is image training. I've been practicing over and over again, imagining that place.

Ayumi is young, and she probably hasn't stepped that many times, so it's natural for her to be nervous. But it's a great opportunity. Why don't you think of it as a mock exercise for the future?

You can be nervous.
You can think of it as your body's natural reaction.
There is no point in continuing to try to resist the body's natural response called nervousness.
Better yet, they acknowledge their own nervousness and forgive them when they say “oh, I'm nervous.”
Then, my body was forgiven for my tension by you, my husband, so I am very nervous because I can use my ability to adapt to the environment a lot.
I haven't been nervous the whole time.
Once you've made me nervous, there's no tension.
Your body and mind will naturally calm down if you understand what kind of situation the scene is in.
Right now, you're trying to force your body and mind so you don't get nervous.
Even if you try to show yourself that has driven the tension to death, you can also see through the fact that the viewer is overdoing it. There's no one who doesn't get nervous at important times, so rather than being shown a lie about not being nervous, your likability will increase if you announce something you should announce as you are.
Conclusion If you quickly accept nervous energy, your body and mind will quickly get used to the situation.
So it's better to let them get nervous quickly. Don't try to put parentheses around and resist.

Ayumi

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is a humble answer to the question.

“The desire to be useful to others” is truly appreciated and precious. Of course, there are many ways to help people, including logistical support, but if you want to be even more useful, there are times when you absolutely have to appear in public.

Humans need just the right amount of tension, but we only want to avoid big blunders...

When I was in middle school, I was the type that was pretty nervous about speaking in public. Nevertheless, I have participated in student council presidential elections and vice presidential elections, and gave speeches in front of all school students, hoping I could be of some use. Naturally I'm nervous. However, by reading the manuscript that had been carefully prepared beforehand, I was able to avoid going blank due to nervousness, and I was able to put in ad libs with a little bit of leeway, and I was able to somehow become vice chairman and chairman, as to whether that content and ad libation worked.

Since then, little by little, I've been able to get used to speaking in public, which has given me confidence, and I've gradually been able to get the hang of it.

What I spoke in front of the most people was when I was a college student, riding a street shuttle of a certain political party in front of Namba Station and in front of Hankyu Umeda Station and made a speech with a microphone, and to be honest, it was exhilarating. It was a holiday, so I'm guessing there were probably a few thousand people there. By all means, I would like Ayumi to eventually aim to become the leader of Japan and make a street speech in front of an audience of thousands of people (joke)

However, even with such a humble life, I was blessed with the opportunity to ask questions fearlessly in front of a great person whom I respect at the end of last year, but due to nervousness, I became sidromodoro, words flew by, and there were mistakes, which made it so embarrassing...

Participated in the “Dialogue between His Holiness the Dalai Lama and 100 Young Religious People” on 2013.11.19
http://blog.goo.ne.jp/hidetoshi-k/e/40305ec625f85e2e40b470437e4c1e86

However, this is also an important experience, and I would like to make use of this reflection over and over again.

By all means, I hope Ayumi can walk through it little by little, getting used to it and gaining confidence while experiencing it one by one.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho