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I just got a job, but I can't help but feel uneasy.

I recently graduated from a four-year university and got a job at a company.
The seniors at the company are all cheerful and nice, and their salaries and benefits are pretty good in the industry/job category.
However, I can't help but feel uneasy from the bottom of my heart about whether I can enjoy that job from now on, whether I can get along well with everyone at work, and whether my peers are good at socializing, so I can't help but leave myself alone, and since the entrance ceremony, my heart is beating so strong and fast that I can clearly feel it myself.
Probably because of that, I can't sleep like before, and even when my body is tired, I wake up after a long time of about 3 to 4 hours.
Of course, practical things haven't started yet, and I think I'm thinking too much about the bad side too early on.
However, I have absolutely no idea how to calm this anxiety and impatience.
Today and tomorrow are holidays, but it's also painful for me now, and it even makes me think that I don't have much guts, that I want to understand the job as soon as possible and give up on it because it wasn't right for me in the first place.
My parents and friends encourage me to say, “You're fine,” but the pressure on my chest doesn't go away, I can't sleep, and it's very painful.
What exactly should I do to approach my work in a more positive way?

4 Zen Responses

You're uneasy

Issei
My name is Tetsuya Urakami from Nagomi-an.
First of all, congratulations on getting a job (^_^)

Your question was on April 5th, so I'm really in a situation where I've just started a new life. Since it means that practical work hasn't started yet, I don't think it means that they have lost their confidence due to some failure.

Does that mean there is a lot of anxiety about changes in the environment? Moreover, until now, what has been a change within the framework of students from middle school → high school → university is also a change to a completely different genre of students → working adults. So I don't think it's unreasonable for Issei to feel uneasy about that. I think other people in the same group also feel uneasy even if they don't show it on their faces.

However, I'm worried that my chest feels tight or that I can't get enough sleep because I will get sick if it continues.
If the balance between physical fatigue and mental fatigue is poor, it seems that you may not be able to sleep even if you feel tired, so why not try a light jog tomorrow on Sunday?
Also, try talking to someone who is easy to talk to, whether it's a family member, friend, work partner, or boss.

My parents and friends, who know much more about Issei than me, say, “You're fine,” and I believe that too. Also, if possible, I think it would be better for the future to continue one job for 3 years.

Also, if you are uneasy, please feel free to contact hasunoha.

Everyone is the same when it comes to starting something new.

 I think I'm used to speaking in public from my standpoint, but I get really nervous when I'm in front of my first temple, place, or people who see it for the first time.

Sumidayu Takemoto, the puppet joruri bunraku dayu, who will soon retire, seems to still be nervous about the first day, even though it is a living national treasure. That's true even for 89-year-old celebrities.

Issei was wanted by a company with such a good environment, so it's okay to have a little more confidence in yourself.

That's because it won't be tomorrow until tomorrow.

(-_-;) Oh, what should I do, what should I do.
I'm sure that anxiety is “anxiety about not knowing what to do.”
Please think of it this way.
“It's just that there's that kind of exchange.
No matter how difficult the job is, you just have to concretize it.
When “by”, where, to whom (with whom), what, and how should you do it? It's just a matter of concretizing and visualizing such things that need to be done.
Any anxiety will go away on its own as long as it is specific and clear about what and how to do it.
I'm worried because it's not clear.
So what should we do now?
If you become close friends with seniors who eliminate that anxiety, create relationships where information can be exchanged with colleagues so that work progresses efficiently, etc., I think that if connections and pipes with people become thicker, things that need to be done will naturally be visualized.
What is more important to you now is a real human connection rather than this kind of internet connection.

How to deal with anxiety

Issei

This is Kawaguchi Hidetoshi. This is my humble answer to the question.

How about it? I think you've gotten used to your work a little bit.

Recently, we have been answering questions about “anxiety” with the following questions.

Question “I can't change my mind”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/479

Actually, most of the “anxiety” and “fear” are due to delusions, and there is a high possibility that they have greatly inflated themselves and suffered even more.

The question “If this heart doesn't exist, will that heart move?”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/380

Question “I'm terribly afraid to do anything, and I can't step ahead”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/497

Therefore, first, I would like to recommend that you calmly and thoroughly analyze things, observe, and verify what exactly makes you uneasy.

Then, next, if we can set priorities and gradually increase what we can do one by one, I think we will eventually be able to eliminate such anxiety little by little.

Of course, the further you go, the more uneasy things will come up, but similarly, it is important to respond in line with reality.

Question “How to live positively”
http://hasunoha.jp/questions/332

Also, in order to be positive, you cannot move forward unless you clearly determine which direction is ahead. To that end, I think it is possible to set that direction by clarifying what your goals and objectives are.

For example, by setting visible goals, achievement quotas, promotions, salary increases, qualifications, skills, etc. in the short, medium, and long term, I think that once that direction is determined, we will be able to move forward positively towards that.

Also, Issei doesn't work alone at all. I hope we can trust each other and try to communicate without forgetting to have friends who support, help, and encourage us.

Kawaguchi Hidetoshi Gassho